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Posted: 12/6/2005 5:27:58 AM EDT

[#1]

Drop him and com'ere

Posted: 12/6/2005 5:39:31 AM EDT

[#2]

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This is a very intersting bit of discussion and had to come to terms with such an issue many years ago. I was always dating these wild girls who were a lot of fun as far as "passion" goes but were often rather psychopathic as far as running any other aspects of their lives. At one point I met and dated ( for 3 years ) a VERY nice girl who could shoot, cook, fish, loved GREAT movies, etc, etc, etc. In fact, for all intents and purposes, she was PERFECT. As stable as could be. Not one "issue" at all. Except for one thing...she was about as passionate as a cold, dead fish.

I told myself that it didn't matter....that passion was only one small aspect of a big picture and that I could live without it because she was so great in all other ways.

In the end of it all I got to the point where I wanted to cheat on her....I NEEDED that one little thing that I thought was so unimportant....PASSION. A spark....some sign of life. Maybe it's because I'm a Scorpio.....I dunno but that is the way I am.

As it was I was dying for a passionate relationship. Well, I don't cheat. I WON'T cheat. So I left her....I felt guilty as all hell for doing it...I really broke her heart ( and I am still paying for it ) but in the end....it was the right thing to do.

Not all people "need" passion, Bellona, but there are some of us who do...and to those of us who do, nothing at all can replace it. Not all of the money in the world or all of the tea in China. It makes for a lonely life to try to find someone with a decent balance of all things...but I am not one to settle.

Good luck and I hope that, one way or another, you can solve this issue.

If you require it to feel alive, I'm not sure there is a flip you can do about it. But you might stock up on cash for late in life so you can still get "what you need" even though you're less attractive. Seems cold and shallow somehow, doesn't it?

Posted: 12/6/2005 5:54:25 AM EDT

[#3]

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Expert on what? Internet dialogue? I think his so called rep is more hot air than actuallity. Of course, I don't count !gunrunner as a big conquest OR anything to build a reputation on.

I have pics of you snuggling with me.

TRG

Posted: 12/6/2005 6:32:27 AM EDT

[#4]

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Expert on what? Internet dialogue? I think his so called rep is more hot air than actuallity. Of course, I don't count !gunrunner as a big conquest OR anything to build a reputation on.

Did you miss the whole roofie comment? That's what I was referring to...As for TRG's reputation, the only I know about involves a lot of man love, and I don't think it's hot air.

Posted: 12/6/2005 7:19:26 AM EDT

[#5]

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As it was I was dying for a passionate relationship. Well, I don't cheat. I WON'T cheat. So I left her....I felt guilty as all hell for doing it...I really broke her heart ( and I am still paying for it ) but in the end....it was the right thing to do.
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What a waste. Is it really "cheating" if she's cool with the arrangement?

Posted: 12/6/2005 7:24:51 AM EDT

[#6]

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If you require it to feel alive, I'm not sure there is a flip you can do about it. But you might stock up on cash for late in life so you can still get "what you need" even though you're less attractive. Seems cold and shallow somehow, doesn't it?

Daydreamer, I don't propose to speak for desertmoon, but the way I read it, passion != sex. At least not necessarily.

My reading of his account was that they were more like roommates, and that he wanted something more, which certainly could have included boning, but was not necessarily required.

I certainly didn't think he was advocating buying it.*

Jake.

* either via "traditional" prostitution or the manner in which Anna Nichole Smith's late husband went about things.

Posted: 12/6/2005 8:05:29 AM EDT

[#7]

Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

In a physical sense, sometimes people click right away, and others have to work at it a bit. I've dated guys who can't kiss as well as I'd like, but that's not the reason things didn't work out. Then I've also dated guys who could melt me with a kiss, or even just the thought of it, but that wasn't enough to keep us together.

I can understand how frustrating things can be when the "passion" is lacking. When that occurs, though, it's time to reevaluate things and talk about it. Usually a turn is an indication of a deeper problem.

Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

Posted: 12/6/2005 8:11:16 AM EDT

[#8]

It would be most appreciated.

Posted: 12/6/2005 9:24:26 AM EDT

[#9]

Quoted:
Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

In a physical sense, sometimes people click right away, and others have to work at it a bit. I've dated guys who can't kiss as well as I'd like, but that's not the reason things didn't work out. Then I've also dated guys who could melt me with a kiss, or even just the thought of it, but that wasn't enough to keep us together.

I can understand how frustrating things can be when the "passion" is lacking. When that occurs, though, it's time to reevaluate things and talk about it. Usually a turn is an indication of a deeper problem.

Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

Talk is cheap and so are pics. I need in person proof.

Posted: 12/6/2005 2:43:18 PM EDT

[#10]

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If you require it to feel alive, I'm not sure there is a flip you can do about it. But you might stock up on cash for late in life so you can still get "what you need" even though you're less attractive. Seems cold and shallow somehow, doesn't it?

I am not sure that you understood where I was coming from at all. Not even in the slightest. I am talking about passion...not sex ( though the two are certainly related, they are NOT the same thing ) ...there are certain folks who have a passion for life and those who do not. She did not. I do.

Posted: 12/6/2005 5:09:09 PM EDT

[#11]

Teach him.

The simple rule that works for me, (and I have literally brought women to orgasm by passionate kisses alone....on the mouth, you dirty minded girl!... while standing and fully clothed...) is so simple: Shut off your brain and FEEL it. A kiss is COMMUNICATION.

It's not a question of thinking "If I I move my tongue like this..." or "How many seconds has it been?" or anything like that. It's NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION.

Some have a talent for it, others don't, but anyone who is willing to communicate openly can learn
to be a good kisser. I'm sure of it.

But no, I will NOT teach a man! I'll teach any lady if her breath is good, though.

CJ

Posted: 12/6/2005 7:02:47 PM EDT

[#12]

Quoted:
Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

In a physical sense, sometimes people click right away, and others have to work at it a bit. I've dated guys who can't kiss as well as I'd like, but that's not the reason things didn't work out. Then I've also dated guys who could melt me with a kiss, or even just the thought of it, but that wasn't enough to keep us together.

I can understand how frustrating things can be when the "passion" is lacking. When that occurs, though, it's time to reevaluate things and talk about it. Usually a turn is an indication of a deeper problem.
Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

Yes, Prove it.......

Posted: 12/6/2005 7:06:25 PM EDT

[#13]

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Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

You know what they say, a pic is worth a thousand drooling arfcommers humping your leg. Whoever "they" are.

At least that's what "I" say.

Posted: 12/6/2005 7:22:52 PM EDT

[#14]

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Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

Denial is a very unhealthy thing. It's well documented that a woman's chances of landing a guy drop like a Buick off the edge of the Grand Canyon as soon as they hit 23. Maybe sooner. You better latch on to this goob before he stumbles across the source of all knowledge and hightails it out of town like a midget on roller skates with a JATO attached to his back.

Cling desperately, remora-like and get that ring while you can.

If you are caught the secretary will disavow all knowledge of this operation. This post will self-destruct in 10 seconds. Good luck Ms. Bellona.

Posted: 12/6/2005 9:49:32 PM EDT

[#15]

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Denial is a very unhealthy thing. It's well documented that a woman's chances of landing a guy drop like a Buick off the edge of the Grand Canyon as soon as they hit 23. Maybe sooner. You better latch on to this goob before he stumbles across the source of all knowledge and hightails it out of town like a midget on roller skates with a JATO attached to his back.

Cling desperately, remora-like and get that ring while you can.

If you are caught the secretary will disavow all knowledge of this operation. This post will self-destruct in 10 seconds. Good luck Ms. Bellona.

Thats funny! Especially the no marriage jab.

Posted: 12/7/2005 2:32:06 AM EDT

[#16]

Quoted:
Quoted:

If you require it to feel alive, I'm not sure there is a flip you can do about it. But you might stock up on cash for late in life so you can still get "what you need" even though you're less attractive. Seems cold and shallow somehow, doesn't it?

I am not sure that you understood where I was coming from at all. Not even in the slightest. I am talking about passion...not sex ( though the two are certainly related, they are NOT the same thing ) ...there are certain folks who have a passion for life and those who do not. She did not. I do.

Funny, I went to the grocery store and suddenly thought, "That response on arfcom wasn't really fair." It wasn't. I just wish you two could have figured that out before hearts got broken.

Posted: 12/7/2005 6:06:37 AM EDT

[#17]

Quoted:
Quoted:
Quoted:

If you require it to feel alive, I'm not sure there is a flip you can do about it. But you might stock up on cash for late in life so you can still get "what you need" even though you're less attractive. Seems cold and shallow somehow, doesn't it?

I am not sure that you understood where I was coming from at all. Not even in the slightest. I am talking about passion...not sex ( though the two are certainly related, they are NOT the same thing ) ...there are certain folks who have a passion for life and those who do not. She did not. I do.

Funny, I went to the grocery store and suddenly thought, "That response on arfcom wasn't really fair." It wasn't. I just wish you two could have figured that out before hearts got broken.

You and me both. Oddly, as much as I regret that whole incident, it was the NEXT relationship that I really screwed up. That one was ENTIRELY my bad and I have been rueing that day for the past 6 years.

Posted: 12/7/2005 6:18:55 AM EDT

[#18]

Quoted:
teach him. Personally I like it when a girl directs me on what to do. It's kinda hot

+1, Definitely hot!

Posted: 12/7/2005 2:45:52 PM EDT

[#19]

Quoted:
Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

In a physical sense, sometimes people click right away, and others have to work at it a bit. I've dated guys who can't kiss as well as I'd like, but that's not the reason things didn't work out. Then I've also dated guys who could melt me with a kiss, or even just the thought of it, but that wasn't enough to keep us together.

I can understand how frustrating things can be when the "passion" is lacking. When that occurs, though, it's time to reevaluate things and talk about it. Usually a turn is an indication of a deeper problem.

Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

Posted: 12/7/2005 2:50:29 PM EDT

[#20]

Quoted:
Quoted:
Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

In a physical sense, sometimes people click right away, and others have to work at it a bit. I've dated guys who can't kiss as well as I'd like, but that's not the reason things didn't work out. Then I've also dated guys who could melt me with a kiss, or even just the thought of it, but that wasn't enough to keep us together.

I can understand how frustrating things can be when the "passion" is lacking. When that occurs, though, it's time to reevaluate things and talk about it. Usually a turn is an indication of a deeper problem.

Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

The women might like the pics....they'd be in our BOTD.

Posted: 12/7/2005 9:01:54 PM EDT

[#21]

If my last name were Avila, I'd turn this whole Women Shooter's forum into BOTD.

We've already got the personnel; would just have to get rid of all the words that show up between pics of y'all.

Posted: 12/7/2005 9:12:07 PM EDT

[#22]

maybe you need scope?

Posted: 12/7/2005 9:29:45 PM EDT

[#23]

Quoted:
maybe you need scope?

IIRC, she already has a nice optic set-up.*

* Look at me; I'm so smooth, what with the double entendre compliment and all........

Posted: 12/10/2005 2:35:07 PM EDT

[#24]

Teach him...

Not only is it sexy, but it shows that you are willing to put an effort into the relationship.

If he is decent and down to earth, he'll learn... plus, he'll value you even more because you are willing to communicate. (Big, big, problem in relationships)

My 2 cents.

Posted: 12/13/2005 5:34:58 PM EDT

[#25]

Eithor accept him as is.......or drop him. You can try to teach him, but do not, I repeat, do not use any .......motivational practices that are cruel & unusual. Just a thought....if you are so shallow that you will drop "mr. almost-perfect" because his imperfection is that he can't kiss.....then you need to look hard in the mirror and realize that you aint perfect eithor.

Posted: 12/14/2005 10:00:55 AM EDT

[#26]

Quoted:
Quoted:
Quoted:
Let me restate....I'm not having this problem. It's something that a friend and I who discuss relationships have talked about.

In a physical sense, sometimes people click right away, and others have to work at it a bit. I've dated guys who can't kiss as well as I'd like, but that's not the reason things didn't work out. Then I've also dated guys who could melt me with a kiss, or even just the thought of it, but that wasn't enough to keep us together.

I can understand how frustrating things can be when the "passion" is lacking. When that occurs, though, it's time to reevaluate things and talk about it. Usually a turn is an indication of a deeper problem.

Trust me....I'm not having this problem. Do I have to post pics to prove it?

The women might like the pics....they'd be in our BOTD.

Not mine.....I look like this

.....that would have to go in your TOTD ( Troll Of The Day ) forum...which probably isn't too popular......

.......

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