[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Question about men... (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 12/10/2004 8:05:01 PM EDT
|
I was just wondering if any of you know why most guys are never satisfied with one woman? Why do they constantly need to change partners or at the very least, stare at naked women? I don't get it. |
|
Ah, you're young. I am VERY, VERY happy and satisfied with one woman--my wife is just perfect for me. I still LOVE to look at naked women. Know any?  j/k It's just the nature of men. If you show cleavage, we are just driven to stare--we can't help it. Naked women hold an absolute fascination--there is NO WAY we won't look (assuming heterosexuality). That said, it does NOT mean we would be, want to be, or ever will be, unfaithful. I am absolutely faithful to my beloved wife, but I assure you I check out other women. I mentioned you have to be young as you will learn to accept (albeit reluctantly) this most normal trait of men as you get older. My wife often points attractive women out to me, in case I've missed them. She knows it's harmless. In years past she was frustrated over my supposed nature of "not sensitive." I wouldn't recognize "sensitive" if I tripped over it, so I just told her to get a girlfriend and she would be happier. She snarled and hasn't brought it up in several years.  Watch what your boyfriend/husband does--don't sweat what he gawks at. Have you posted a pic in the "They showed us theirs" thread yet?? 
|
|
Men are mostly dumb, and poor communications in relationships, plus lack of sexual gratification tend to lead to wandering things (other than eyes). Hell if he's just looking at porn, bfd. If he's off trying to find a piece of ass...well..ditch him. TBK is wrong on one point, though....some of us can avoid looking at naked women when we want to. |
|
i was happy with one woman.. she was better looking that most out there..so i never needed to look at others...but it ended after 5 years.. we are so much alike it is not funny. VERY complicated. We are kinda friends again but i digress. I look at women now.. but I look at their faces and eyes.. and their attitude... then their body
|
As has been already stated , Men are visually driven , but it goes beyond that . It's actually genetic since men have to be orgasmic to reproduce and women do not . ( Sure it's Nice ) but it isn't needed . No matter how evolved we become , we are still animals at a level we cannot access consciously and will always posses those traits . Don't get me wrong , I am not saying that a man can't suppress the urge to mate with as many females as possible . God knows , I've done it !! , but suppressing the urge too look is damn near impossible , and any heterosexual guy that says different is lying . If I am with a woman that is offended by a roving eye , I can curtail it for short periods of time out of respect for her . Now for the changing partners thing . In my case I was faithfully married for 18 years . Then we parted by mutual agreement without any malice , but since then ( 5 years) I I have dated a number of women in my search for one that can accept me for who I am , and who I can accept for who she is . Getting into a relationship and expecting them or you to change is a huge error . Recognizing this is easier with 40+ years behind you , so it may only take a month or three to know it's time to move on . Or at least this is my chromosomally biased opinion  |
|
Here's a simliar question.. How many shoes do you own? Now with that in mind do you still stop at the window of the local deparment store when you see another nice pair of shoes on sale? Not that I'm saying women are like shoes? Or that we should be wable to purchase them at the local department store.. Why do I feel like I'm going to get in trouble for this.. Time for another beer. |
| Its not that we are never satisfied with one woman. We usually are very satisfied with one woman. Where the problem comes in is that women are extremely competitive when it comes to men. When a man looks at woman with a wedding ring our reaction kinda goes like this "Nice ass, damn, she has a ring!" then we walk off. Women see a man who is married or committed to someone else as a challenge, the whole Ill have what she is having line of thought. And sometimes the comeon's are just too much to resist. |
YOU ARE CORRECT, SIR visual stimulation is why men are attracted to tricked out guns, nice cars, sexy outfits. we cant help it, it is ingrained in us by nature. also ingrained in womens is emotional stimulation, why do you think women cry at sappy movies (chick flicks) or enjoy getting flowers or hand written poem by her man. also its not that men dont want or cant commit to other women, apart of being a "Biological Male" is the need to spread their "Seed" to as many women as possible, and it also says for us to choose women with a good bust to waist ratio so they will be better able to birth and feed children. while womens biology says to look for a strong healthy and supportive man who will father strong healthy children and provide security for them. its all biological, its ingrained in us, and we cant help it, so we need to get over it. |
As a man it is my job to get as many women preggers as possible, just the way I am wired. It is society that reccommends I just marry one woman. SGtar15 |
|
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. And he still looks at other women. He loves me and he's not going to stray. It's just Hu-MAN Nature for guys to stare at other women. Heck,I stare at other men. But that doesn't mean I'll run off and cheat on my husband. Mona p.s. For everyone else that posts in this thread. Please keep it on the Nice. This is the Womenz Forum! |
I don't think "most" guys are this way. I personally believe alot of men like to talk big, say they do, but don't. Unfortunately, there are the slimebags out there too who do cheat on their women. I have a wonderful hubby, sure he still looks at other women, and if I see someone I think he might like to look at, I point her out. He doesn't do the pron thing much at all, but he loves to watch me naked. I am very secure in the relationship I have now and I know I have no worries about him straying. I do my best to keep him happy at home, that's the first step to keeping them faithful. |
bad anology, I own 3 pairs of shoes and the only time I look for more is when one wears out. But then again, it may be a good analogy, it shows the mindset of the 2 issues, women think all men cheat and ogle over naked women, men think all women have dozens of shoes, can't wait to buy more! shows what we think isn't always truth. |
Yeah,i own maybe 5 pairs of shoes. I spend my money on new toys and scrappin supplies. Mona |
|
I suppose I didn't specify about what I was talking. I have a very loving boyfriend whom I trust completely. My question
was asked because I know a lot of guys who like to compare how many partners they have had, brag about how many virgins they have had, and talk about the fact that they can't have just one because one is boring. but i am in college, so i guess that is pretty common?! HOWEVER, I do know that almost every heterosexual male I have met has a fascination with naked women i just didn't understand why. cuz as far as i am concerned, often a naked man is funny, not arousing. (please don't shoot me if you disagree) Thank you for your replies, I guess I sorta understand now |
|
i read this someplace in a science magazine. a man, from a mathematical point of view, has a higher probability of passing on his genes if he has as many children as possible. in cave man times a child had diease and preditors to worry about in order to survive. if a man had 100 children, whom he immedately deserted, it would not matter if 95% of them died because 5 would survive. in contrast a woman cannot have 100 children. from a statistical point of view she must maximize the survival of all her children. in order to produce 5 children she might need to give birth 6 or more times. families, tribes, towns, and cities developed to maximize our survival rates. mathmatically both strategies are valid and nature takes advantage of both mathamatical models to maximize reproduction and therefore survival of the species. |
According to a man if a woman even looks at him then they must want him. To a man 1 women in bed = 10 women in bed ( or at least that is what he tells his friends). My advice...don't have sex till marriage. Most guys your age don't know how to do it right anyways so you're really not missing anything. SGtar15 |
How many naked men have you seen in your life? Seriously....Man has dominated art and education since just about forever. What a man values- the world values, has been the rule since the dawn of time. This is why many women consider the female form more "beautiful" than the male form, and the male form kinda funny. You've had naked to nearly naked women shoved up your nose since birth. In our culture, women dress much more revealing than men ever did so seeing men naked isn't nearly as common as seeing women naked. And trying to judge the beauty of the male form using the female form as a standard would make the male form look kinda funny. Maybe this is why so many girlie men are considered cute now adays?  Just my guess. But the male form is quite attractive when judged by it's own merits. Gotta love a big sweaty guy who just got done doing some real strenuous work. Oh, and about the male competitive nature/wanting to brag, etc. That usually slows down with age. Also, I think women learn to stop asking why men can be such dorks, and just wait patiently for him to leave the room so they can laugh their behind off at him. 
|
Hey! I'm pretty sure I've been insulted in there. If I wasn't such a big dumb oaf I'd figure it out too. 
|
I disagree about the "lack of sexual gratification" part. Men are going to wander in some way, no matter how satisfied you keep them. They like the idea of monogamy, but are stimulated by variety... |
Speak for yourself--TheRedGoat doesn't have the same effect on me he does on you.   --ZING!
|
Yes, this is common but it doesn't mean it's acceptable. There are boys, men and gentlemen. If you want the later than you have to be a mature lady and tell the boys or men that aren't acting like gentlemen to take a hike. It just doesn't stop in College either. I was a State Senator for a while. The Senate is much much more ritualistic than the house is. We have a "gentlemen's club" which is where Members eat. Why it wasn't changed to fit the times is probably because most Senator's were men and no one has sued yet. [This was 10 years ago so maybe it has?] Anyway, while dining in the Gentlemen's Club in our State's Senate I has sexually harrassed more than I ever was when I tended bar while going to college! Now gentlemen of ARFCOM don't get a bee in your bonnet about my mention of 'Sexual Harrassment'. I know the difference between good old fashion elbow rubbing, flirting and having someone make an ass out of themselves because they've had a few too many whiskeys and a woman's present. I had my boobs honked, my butt spanked, your typical cat calls you name it. Just darn right wrong. However for Sugar's sake this was not the norm, it was the exception and Always there was a true gentleman to set things straight. Set your standards high and do not lower them. And remember it's human nature for men to be attracted to women, just like women are attracted to men. Don't tell me you've never "checked out" a guy before? The talk in a woman's locker room is probably not much above the gutter than the men's locker room. [it is cleaner though]. Patty |
 I actually own less shoes then the hubby does too. But in my defense, I don't go to an office job everyday, where I work (at home) bare feet are acceptable, and prefered. But not pregnant and in the kitchen. 
I would never insult you  sweet_as_sugar it does have a lot to do with age and maturity. Each man will be different. |
|
Thanks again for the replies. I didn't know if this was a thing all guys did or just some. Also, before my boyfriend reads this and kills me, i will point out that my post had nothing to do with him. I just happened to hear a bunch of the guys in my dorm talking about their pitiful sex lives and their obvious disrespect for women. I know i have heard these convos before, but it got me to thinking and I figured I would ask on here to see if i could get some more insight into the matter. Also, thanks for not bashing me because of my obvious lack of knowledge on the subject. h.gif And NO!!! I was not insulting anyone, just asking cuz I was curious. |
|
It's the age group that you are around. Of course, there are guys 10, 20, 30 years older than that, that still act the same (check GD), but eventually they do mature (well, a little bit... ). As a woman, you can either learn to live with it, or limit your exposure to that particular type of guy. Not all men are like that. I would like to think that most are pretty decent inside. The bad thing about men though, is that the testosterone lets loose and then everything becomes a competition...even a simple conversation.
|
|
Did someone mention shoes? Well let's ask my wife about this issue shall we..... . .  . . Would you believe..... . .  . . Perhaps another view.... . .  . . How about her favorite quote on the shoe subject? . . "I did not have three thousand pairs of shoes, I had one thousand and sixty." -- 1987 Ahhhh...what a joy marraige is! Regards, Ferdinand 
|
I'm just joking with you arowneragain, you need to be in this discussion so Sweet as sugar knows that there are gentlemen out there with morals that know how to treat a lady like a lady. Of course you must forewarn her that you're off limits as I have you betrothed to my sister. She just doesn't know it yet! Minor difficulty if you ask me. Patty |
I had the honor of meeting him @ Gunstock so I can vouch for him as well
|
|
That's pretty funny! The link doesn't work 
|
She's lying! (the honor was mine, not hers!) 
|