Posted: 2/18/2003 8:15:34 AM EDT
| Have any of the other women on the board had any experience dealing w/ex husbands? No children are involved. I thought i'd try to be a good person and remain friends, but it kinda seems like he thinks that leaves the door open for him to come back into my life. It may take me a while, but I do learn my lessons...even if it is the hard way. I have cut all contact with him, period, end of discussion, but I feel like the bad guy now. |
| Hey, Concealed Weapon! I am optimistic a long sabbatical from the ex-spouse is the best antidote. It has been really hard for me too. Especially, since I was with him for nine years and it was my decision to dissolve our marriage. Guilt, Guilt, Guilt. On the note of keeping the friendship solvent-I have given up (after trying for almost a year). I have decided cast my unremitting effort to the wind; and let it be…Sadly, I have two incredible children involved- which, adds an additional obstacle to the equation of “trying to be friends”. I am hoping distance and duration will eventually heal the bruised ego…Take care. |
| I have managed to remain friendly with my ex-husband. We only talk about once or twice a year; I think that is one of the reasons that it has worked. I left him, but he was as unhappy with me as I was with him. I was clear and firm from the beginning that I would not come back. I still care about him and he knows that, but he understands why I did it. We started out as friends, so I think that was one of the reasons that we were able to remain friendly. |