[ARCHIVED THREAD] - We both ejected... (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 11/26/2009 10:28:38 PM EDT
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So the gf and I of 2 years have both settled on calling it quits.
Long story short: we both graduated from college this year. Her in journalism, me in aviation management. I got a job here in CO (both went to school in AL) and she got a job working at one of the 'nationwide pharmacies' that rhymes with Hall Beams... she's a 'beauty consultant' and completely discontent with her job. I told her she should be thankful that ONE of us got a job in our field and that we BOTH have jobs at all in this economy. She says she understands, but I'm not sure she does. To give a little background, I am 4 years older than her. I took 4 years off from college to work full-time and pursue my pilot ratings... after which I went back to school. She went to school 600+ miles from home, against the desires of her parents, to go to school at a big time southern football school... for which I can't really blame her, that's why I chose AU too. Anyway, her family has always 'joked' about her moving back to St. Louis after college since she didn't go to Mizzou. Her two older bros still live in STL as does ALL of her family... immediate and extended. Her family is a large conglomerate of libs with the exception of her grandparents and we have fought off and on over the last 2 years about politics. (She and I that is) We've been in CO now for 4 months and have been arguing about little shit off and on. She's a really great girl and has tried the gun/hunting/conservative/FNC/American loving lifestyle that I was raised with, but she has always had some smartass leftist comment to say whenever she flips to CNN. THIS has been the cause for many a great arguments. On wed night, after she refused to leave it on Beck talking about funding/taxing for war, I lit into her. I went off and told her about how she's a hypocrite for talking a big game about being politically open minded yet not willing to listen to FNC, about how she has her opinions set because of her libtard upbringing, her union dad, her libtard health care mother, etc, etc. I told her she hasn't formed any of her own opinions outside of what she was force fed as a child and what CNN koolaid she drinks along with her damn Journalism school teachings. She criticized me by saying I'm not open minded and that I form ALL of my political views from my upbringing, FNC, and ARFCOM. (She REALLY hates my time on here... but that's another story.) I said, "Yeah, you're absolutely right, all of those things and LOGIC form my opinions." She then proceded to get really mad and told me that she wished she had reevaluated her decision to move back out west with me after graduation. I told her that it was best if she went ahead and moved back home. I told her that I can't conceive having a successful family and family value structure with someone that doesn't share my morals, beliefs, ethics, etc. Turned into a big stink match and she called her mama. Needless to say, she's moving back to STL next week. She asked me tonight if I wanted her to leave her furniture for me...  Like I give a shit about the vanity and the dresser.
She wants to "take some time apart" so she can "reconnect" with her family and if it's meant to be, it'll be. I said, "bullshit... I'm not waiting around in limbo for you to decide." That makes her more upset that I won't wait around for her to come back. I told her if she leaves, that's it. We are done. Part of me doesn't want her to leave because when things are good, they're great, but man... when they're bad, they REALLY suck. I just hope that as a 27 year old guy, I can still find a decent woman out there that believes in life, liberty, property, the second, and follows the same moral compass as me. I know... cool story bro. But man, what a fucked up situation. That's all... thought I'd share it since I'm now single again and I'm in a town where I still don't have many friends. (Not many chances to meet people when I'm working double shifts on a regular basis.)  You guys are my current BFF's.
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Pics man, pics! Oh, is she a 3 input girl? No, just 2. And since we are no longer dating, it wouldn't be honorable for me to post pics of her sans permission. (However, if you look back at a VERY recent thread by me, you might find one or two.... just sayin.) |
Been there done that. Move on. Look at it this way, new pie and the chance to avoid divorce and keep your shit. You will meet plenty of hotties in CO. Trust me, I live here. Learn to ski and party. You will meet a keeper at some point. For now, embrace the unknown. Your world is full of possibilities. Smile, lick your wounds and go forward. 
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" Part of me doesn't want her to leave because when things are good, they're great, but man... when they're bad, they REALLY suck"
my last girlfriend was exactly like this, we dumped each other a few times and always winded up getting back together ( same groups of friends). long story short, i wasted 3 years of my life thinking about the good times when i refused to remember how bad it got. if your serious about her leaving, dont think about the good stuff while your on your way to drop her off at the airport, focus on how bitchy she is/was and that will keep you strong. i kick myself every day for not paying attention to the signs and wasting those good college years |
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Don't sweat it. Most women with "Journalism" degrees are screwed up in the head. Ever heard of a conservative journalism school? No? Didn't think so. Yet... I should've known. Just for the ARFCOM seal of approval though... am I wrong to want to kill this relationship on the basis of differentiated politics? Am I being too stubborn? |
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Been there done that. Move on. Look at it this way, new pie and the chance to avoid divorce and keep your shit. You will meet plenty of hotties in CO. Trust me, I live here. Learn to ski and party. You will meet a keeper at some point. For now, embrace the unknown. Your world is full of possibilities. Smile, lick your wounds and go forward. Oh I can ski.  I snowboard, alpine, and tele. Grew up in MT before going to AL to finish school.
Problem is I'm in GJ, so it's a bunch of methhead tweaker bitches or broads that would never dream of leaving GJ. I eventually wanna end up back in MT or in ID. The desert just isn't quite my cup of tea. (No offense to the arfcom rats.  )
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I told her that it was best if she went ahead and moved back home. I told her that I can't conceive having a successful family and family value structure with someone that doesn't share my morals, beliefs, ethics, etc. Turned into a big stink match and she called her mama. You guys are my current BFF's.You did good bro. It would never have worked out between you too, be glad it didn't go so far as marriage for you to realize this, could've gotten WORSE. |
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Been there done that. Move on. Look at it this way, new pie and the chance to avoid divorce and keep your shit. You will meet plenty of hotties in CO. Trust me, I live here. Learn to ski and party. You will meet a keeper at some point. For now, embrace the unknown. Your world is full of possibilities. Smile, lick your wounds and go forward. this right here. |
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Quoted: I'm a lazy friend, send links please.Quoted: need pics. I won't do it. It was one thing to post pics of her when we were dating, but I can't do it now without permission... it's an honor thing... I'm sure you understand. Like I said though... just do a little looking around. |
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YOU ARE A LIAR!!!! You said "Long story short" Shit bro... that was a fucking NOVEL!!! I am kidding with you... You are 27? I met my bride when I was 27, YES there are decent women out there... I have said it here a dozen times and will say it again.. although I dont buy into the "soul-mate" theory, I do believe that certain groups of people coincide with those of the complimentary group. Now I dont know if you are a religious or not but I do believe that G-d has a woman for you... but you cant meet her when you have that other albatross hanging around your neck... Now that he is clearing the way for the right woman for you... GO FIND HER! and please DONT settle. We dont need anymore divorce threads here. |
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So I guess this means you won't be building her her pink AR anymore? Whatchoo gonna build for yourself now?  Haha... yeah... I've got the Spikes lower coming in next week with the custom quote, "Hell hath no fury, like a woman's scorn." Fuck... how true... I'll probably build it and sell it too my buddy to give to his wife cuz she wants one. ETA: Oh and frige... that WAS the short version! Thanks for the support bud.
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Here are pics. http://www.ar15.com/forums/topic.html?b=1&f=5&t=959366 |
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Quoted: Don't sweat it. Most women with "Journalism" degrees are screwed up in the head. Ever heard of a conservative journalism school? No? Didn't think so. Journalism is a useless degree. And journalism majors tend to be weirdo losers. What she really needs is a pretty face, a hot body, and the ability to recite from a teleprompter. Then she can be a journalist!
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Quoted: YOU ARE A LIAR!!!! You said "Long story short" Shit bro... that was a fucking NOVEL!!! I am kidding with you... You are 27? I met my bride when I was 27, YES there are decent women out there... I have said it here a dozen times and will say it again.. although I dont buy into the "soul-mate" theory, I do believe that certain groups of people coincide with those of the complimentary group. Now I dont know if you are a religious or not but I do believe that G-d has a woman for you... but you cant meet her when you have that other albatross hanging around your neck... Now that he is clearing the way for the right woman for you... GO FIND HER! and please DONT settle. We dont need anymore divorce threads here. +1 All that talk about soul-mates just cheapens the work that you put into finding the right girl and the work that you both do to keep the relationship alive. |
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Haha... yeah... I've got the Spikes lower coming in next week with the custom quote, "Hell hath no fury, like a woman's scorn." Fuck... how true... She's probably pissed cause you fucked up the quote. It's supposed to be: "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". |
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Quoted: So the gf and I of 2 years have both settled on calling it quits. Long story short: we both graduated from college this year. Her in journalism, me in aviation management. <snip> As soon as I saw that I knew the rest of the story was going to be train wreck, and I wasn't let down. She sounds like a born and raised lib based on her family and there was enough overriding factors to keep it under control until major changes (graduation, relocation) uncorked things. Hurts like hell, I know but let her go and move on. I've discovered that you can't change the fundamentals of most people, you have to take them as they are. The little stuff, yeah, you can tweak that over time, but the big stuff, the stuff that was programmed into them since day one, nope. It will ALWAYS come back, given enough stress. |
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Quoted: No.Quoted: Don't sweat it. Most women with "Journalism" degrees are screwed up in the head. Ever heard of a conservative journalism school? No? Didn't think so. Yet... I should've known. Just for the ARFCOM seal of approval though... am I wrong to want to kill this relationship on the basis of differentiated politics? Am I being too stubborn? You have an opinion and hers is different. If it bothers you, it bothers you. If you ignored it you would only make it worse for yourself. |
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Quoted:... I told her she hasn't formed any of her own opinions outside of what she was force fed as a child and what CNN koolaid she drinks along with her damn Journalism school teachings. She criticized me by saying I'm not open minded and that I form ALL of my political views from my upbringing, FNC, and ARFCOM. (She REALLY hates my time on here... but that's another story.) I said, "Yeah, you're absolutely right, all of those things and LOGIC form my opinions." ...
So all her opinions are wrong, all yours are right, and she's a: too malleable to form her own opinions and b: too dumb to have your opinions? Wow. It's a good thing she has you around to tell her she's wrong and an idiot all the time. I'll bet she really appreciates it. |
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Quoted:... I told her she hasn't formed any of her own opinions outside of what she was force fed as a child and what CNN koolaid she drinks along with her damn Journalism school teachings. She criticized me by saying I'm not open minded and that I form ALL of my political views from my upbringing, FNC, and ARFCOM. (She REALLY hates my time on here... but that's another story.) I said, "Yeah, you're absolutely right, all of those things and LOGIC form my opinions." ...
So all her opinions are wrong, all yours are right, and she's a: too malleable to form her own opinions and b: too dumb to have your opinions? Wow. It's a good thing she has you around to tell her she's wrong and an idiot all the time. I'll bet she really appreciates it. A. Malleable: easily influenced or formed into shape.... So no. B: She isn't dumb. Just a flat out disagreement on political premise. Your post makes no sense and as such is disregarded. Thanks for playing though. 
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Haha... yeah... I've got the Spikes lower coming in next week with the custom quote, "Hell hath no fury, like a woman's scorn." Fuck... how true... She's probably pissed cause you fucked up the quote. It's supposed to be: "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". LOL, yup.
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So the gf and I of 2 years have both settled on calling it quits. Long story short: we both graduated from college this year. Her in journalism, me in aviation management. I got a job here in CO (both went to school in AL) and she got a job working at one of the 'nationwide pharmacies' that rhymes with Hall Beams... she's a 'beauty consultant' and completely discontent with her job. I told her she should be thankful that ONE of us got a job in our field and that we BOTH have jobs at all in this economy. She says she understands, but I'm not sure she does. To give a little background, I am 4 years older than her. I took 4 years off from college to work full-time and pursue my pilot ratings... after which I went back to school. She went to school 600+ miles from home, against the desires of her parents, to go to school at a big time southern football school... for which I can't really blame her, that's why I chose AU too. Anyway, her family has always 'joked' about her moving back to St. Louis after college since she didn't go to Mizzou. Her two older bros still live in STL as does ALL of her family... immediate and extended. Her family is a large conglomerate of libs with the exception of her grandparents and we have fought off and on over the last 2 years about politics. (She and I that is) We've been in CO now for 4 months and have been arguing about little shit off and on. She's a really great girl and has tried the gun/hunting/conservative/FNC/American loving lifestyle that I was raised with, but she has always had some smartass leftist comment to say whenever she flips to CNN. THIS has been the cause for many a great arguments. On wed night, after she refused to leave it on Beck talking about funding/taxing for war, I lit into her. I went off and told her about how she's a hypocrite for talking a big game about being politically open minded yet not willing to listen to FNC, about how she has her opinions set because of her libtard upbringing, her union dad, her libtard health care mother, etc, etc. I told her she hasn't formed any of her own opinions outside of what she was force fed as a child and what CNN koolaid she drinks along with her damn Journalism school teachings. She criticized me by saying I'm not open minded and that I form ALL of my political views from my upbringing, FNC, and ARFCOM. (She REALLY hates my time on here... but that's another story.) I said, "Yeah, you're absolutely right, all of those things and LOGIC form my opinions." She then proceded to get really mad and told me that she wished she had reevaluated her decision to move back out west with me after graduation. I told her that it was best if she went ahead and moved back home. I told her that I can't conceive having a successful family and family value structure with someone that doesn't share my morals, beliefs, ethics, etc. Turned into a big stink match and she called her mama. Needless to say, she's moving back to STL next week. She asked me tonight if I wanted her to leave her furniture for me... Like I give a shit about the vanity and the dresser.
She wants to "take some time apart" so she can "reconnect" with her family and if it's meant to be, it'll be. I said, "bullshit... I'm not waiting around in limbo for you to decide." That makes her more upset that I won't wait around for her to come back. I told her if she leaves, that's it. We are done. Part of me doesn't want her to leave because when things are good, they're great, but man... when they're bad, they REALLY suck. I just hope that as a 27 year old guy, I can still find a decent woman out there that believes in life, liberty, property, the second, and follows the same moral compass as me. I know... cool story bro. But man, what a fucked up situation. That's all... thought I'd share it since I'm now single again and I'm in a town where I still don't have many friends. (Not many chances to meet people when I'm working double shifts on a regular basis.) You guys are my current BFF's.if they do not support the same values them splitting might be a Godsend, divorce with kids and such |
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well now, never let politics or such get in the way of sex, be objective, if you find her attractive and want to use her for that purpose then politics and most other considerations are moot and have no bearing on that.......
that said, you tried and failed the egalatarian approach, which she doesn't really want anyway despite what she says.... now if yer 27 and 4 years older that makes her....let me do the math here....carry the alt.......23! I've yet to meet a woman younger than 28 with a lick o damn sense about anything, myself. so your approach is to nod and smile, pat her on the head, tell her how cute it is that she has and opinion, and how being "that smart" is a real turn on even if she's wrong, and shove yer hand down her pants. 
You could accept that she is wrong, but there is no need to argue or debate with her over it past just a little every now and then, or....this might happen. Truth is she doesn't have to be right to be happy, probably doesn't believe with full conviction that she is right, and just wants to seem strong and assertive and involved and just as "in the know" as you, but is more comfortable with the oppositions sources. If you totally gut-stomp hate liberals and her point of view, but still keep her and dote on her and savagely impale her every chance you get, stating that "yeah you are that desirable to me, it overcomes hate darlin..." you can probably keep her around....and in time she will most likely become conservative, there is nothing like owning property and investing in it with your own labor to make you conservative...... Otherwise, I'm sure you could work out a deal to at least get visiting rights to the vajayjay if she just absolutely must go. |
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So the gf and I of 2 years have both settled on calling it quits. Long story short: we both graduated from college this year. Her in journalism, me in aviation management. <snip> As soon as I saw that I knew the rest of the story was going to be train wreck, and I wasn't let down. She sounds like a born and raised lib based on her family and there was enough overriding factors to keep it under control until major changes (graduation, relocation) uncorked things. Hurts like hell, I know but let her go and move on. I've discovered that you can't change the fundamentals of most people, you have to take them as they are. The little stuff, yeah, you can tweak that over time, but the big stuff, the stuff that was programmed into them since day one, nope. It will ALWAYS come back, given enough stress. I was thinking that the future fail came from you being in aviation management. |
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Quoted:... I told her she hasn't formed any of her own opinions outside of what she was force fed as a child and what CNN koolaid she drinks along with her damn Journalism school teachings. She criticized me by saying I'm not open minded and that I form ALL of my political views from my upbringing, FNC, and ARFCOM. (She REALLY hates my time on here... but that's another story.) I said, "Yeah, you're absolutely right, all of those things and LOGIC form my opinions." ...
So all her opinions are wrong, all yours are right, and she's a: too malleable to form her own opinions and b: too dumb to have your opinions? Wow. It's a good thing she has you around to tell her she's wrong and an idiot all the time. I'll bet she really appreciates it. A. Malleable: easily influenced or formed into shape.... So no. B: She isn't dumb. Just a flat out disagreement on political premise. Your post makes no sense and as such is disregarded. Thanks for playing though. Thanks for replying to my senseless response. I usually ignore senseless responses, but then again I also ate a hamburger on monday. I hope you meet an open-minded person who coincidentally has the exact same views on everything that you do. |
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Don't sweat it. Most women with "Journalism" degrees are screwed up in the head. Ever heard of a conservative journalism school? No? Didn't think so. My wife is probably the sole exception. Went to one of those schools. Got out of the field shortly thereafter. Mutters things like "snakes", "spin" and "ratings" from time to time when watching the toob or reading news articles, and overall is a pretty conservative gal. She currently owns multiple ARs and other assorted phun projectile-launching stuff. 
To the OP: I was in a situation similar to yours shortly prior to meeting my wife, and I'm damned glad I walked away when I did. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Don't sweat it. Most women with "Journalism" degrees are screwed up in the head. Ever heard of a conservative journalism school? No? Didn't think so. Yet... I should've known. Just for the ARFCOM seal of approval though... am I wrong to want to kill this relationship on the basis of differentiated politics? Am I being too stubborn? Politics is a perfect reason to end a relationship. How can you marry and spend the rest of your life with someone who has a completely different set of values? |
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I wouldnt say you ejected ove rpolitics, I would say it was values. A fucking libtard doesnt have many , and the ones they do have are all fucked up.
So you being the sane one realized that your potential kids would be all fucked up by her idiotic ideals. That my man is the smart thing to do. The last thing the world needs is more idiotic libtarded people. Good luck, dont sweat nothin. your young |
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Quoted: Quoted: Pics man, pics! Oh, is she a 3 input girl? No, just 2. And since we are no longer dating, it wouldn't be honorable for me to post pics of her sans permission. (However, if you look back at a VERY recent thread by me, you might find one or two.... just sayin.) I remember that thread, you took her shooting with a new Pony? no? eta: it's just tail until you find the right one. |
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-snip- That's all... thought I'd share it since I'm now single again and I'm in a town where I still don't have many friends. (Not many chances to meet people when I'm working double shifts on a regular basis.) You guys are my current BFF's.I didn't meet my wife until I was 29 - she yells at the TV more than I do, and would rather watch Glenn Beck or Hannity than almost any other nightly show. I can't turn on CNN (even just to see what the "other side" is talking about) because she turns into such a bitch. 
They're out there, so no worries. As a man you're just NOW reaching your prime: mature, a little bit of age and the means to support yourself - in the right environment you can snag anything from college girls to 35+ cougars, or the right mix of in-between. If anything, you don't know what you're missing.
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