Posted: 9/22/2009 12:52:55 AM EDT
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Ok, here is the history:
I am 30, have been married to a very gorgeous woman (way, way, to hot for me  ). We have been married for going on eight years now, she is a great and smart women. No pics guys, sorry . I have an issue that has been really bothering me, so I thought that I would ask to see if anyone else has the same problem. Now, I would swim across shark infested waters to bring her a glass of lemonade, what ever she wants, cool, I will try to get it for her. I have firearms, and a lot of them. But every time that I want to get another one my wife gets all bent out of shape about it. It's not like we don't have the money. We both have great jobs and are quite comfortable. So here is the deal, I just sold a PTR91, CETME, and a SAR AK, so I could build a real nice AR. But she is giving me all kinds of problems about it. WTF? So, you guys who deal with this same thing, how do you deal with it This is really starting to bother me.
By the way, I am not going to eject, as I am pretty committed to this marriage. |
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Keep separate bank accounts. Your money goes into yours, her money goes into hers, you split the bills according to a pre-arranged agreement, and whatever is left over is yours to do what you like with.
If she keeps bitching at you even after that, pull out your penis and slap her across the face with it. That's all I have for you. |
I really do not have anything to worry about, but why cause an argument over somthing as silly as a gun.
BTW... A perfect example of what I am talking about, our aniversary is coming up. I am buying an American made Fender Strat. for her, she already knows this and has it all picked out. Now, she would go out and get me a real nice TAG watch, but not a gun that cost half the price. Now she does not have a problem with any of the guns that I have, but she does have an issue with me getting another one.
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Quoted: Tell her that you love her, but your going to do it anyway. If she really loves you, then you will have nothing to worry about. If she does something stupid because of this, then be lucky that it was only 8 years. This. My wife got bent when I got into guns. I told her politely, but firmly, that I was buying a gun. She could accept it or not, but I WAS buying a gun. It hasn't been an issue since. |
great advise guys...keep it coming
Not good advice
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Keep separate bank accounts. Your money goes into yours, her money goes into hers, you split the bills according to a pre-arranged agreement, and whatever is left over is yours to do what you like with. If she keeps bitching at you even after that, pull out your penis and slap her across the face with it. That's all I have for you. This FTW!!!!!! This is what my wife and I do, of course she makes double of what I make but we split the bills into a fair amount based on what we make. She buys the groceries and I pay for our dinners out, baseball games, dinner, drinks or snacks at those events etc...and then whatever we have left over we spend it on what we want to spend it on. My wife doesn't like guns, no matter how many times I've tried to explain them to her or get her to shoot, so she doesn't even really know what I have... 
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Excellent. It appears they have the right kind of PETA chick locked up in there too! Win-Win! |
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Whenever I buy a new gun she gets something of equal value that she wants. Of course over half of the guns in the safe are ones that she bought for me as gifts.
She used to not buy me guns because she thought I had too many and would be bored with another. I used to not buy her jewellery for the same reason. She finally told me she would never have enough jewellery and I convinced her that I was the same way about guns. Once we got that out of the way our Christmas and birthday shopping got a lot easier... even if we have to lead the other by the hand to the gun or jewellery store. 
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If your wife is "Way, Way to hot for you" then you have issues with insecurity and will let her walk all over you and she will be able to do whatever the fucks she wants, whenever she fucking wants to, no matter what you say.
You do raise a point of concern when you disagree with something she is doing, and she stops doing it because of her concern for you, don't you ? Careful buddy, once you lose your Mancard you're done for.... |
and then just move on.
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Keep separate bank accounts. Your money goes into yours, her money goes into hers, you split the bills according to a pre-arranged agreement, and whatever is left over is yours to do what you like with. If she keeps bitching at you even after that, pull out your penis and slap her across the face with it. That's all I have for you. This is very good and true advice. Take it! |
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We have separate accounts and she knows about my hobby. I never hide any guns I might get but I also don't walk around going "look at what I bought honey" because she gets a little testy. Just the other day I went to a shotgun tactical match that a guy at the club came up with. I was getting my stuff ready and she saw me putting my Mossberg 500a into a sleeve. She didn't even know I had it.............. She didn't argue, she just rolled her eyes. I was kinda funny actually.
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Why does she have a problem with it? Is it because she doesn't see the necessity for another firearm or is it because she is frugal? If she is a penny pincher, consider yourself lucky. I know lots of folks who have wives that love to spend money they don't have.
As posted above, it is generally a good idea to buy your significant other something of equal value anytime you purcase a new gun. |
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Try this For every gun you buy/build she gets a piece of jewelry. This +1 (jewelry always makes a happy home, and since as you said money is not a big concern then make it fair, and after she gets a few nice necklaces or rings she will be getting the schedules for you of all the gun shows in the area) Makes me happy my wife enjoys guns almost as much as I do.
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You sold 3
to build 1. as far as I see it, she owes you 2, a Gun for a gun is a good tradeoff in my opinion. I fail to see the problem, there is an issue that goes deeper than guns here, perhaps an underlying resentment of your hobby...or maybe she's "feeling" like guns take up too much of your time, or attention....women feel stuff a lot... kind of annoying when it's detached from all reality. |
| when my wife starts on how much I spend on guns I just follow her into her closet and asking her about why so many purses? what is this one for? what is that one for? why so many shoes? how much did that cost ? then the Pasta Resistance I ask her to make a list of how much everything cost in case something happens to her I don't want someone coming in to take stuff that she would rather have go to someone special. by this time she always says I thought you were busy getting a gun or something |
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Mrs. swingset says to remind your wife that you seldom lose money on a gun, in fact most times you gain. Putting your money into easily sold, recession-proof commodities (that you can also play with) is NEVER, EVER, foolish. When she first married me, she didn't know this but the first few I sold (at a decent profit) when we really needed extra cash for medical bills convinced her of their inherent value. She also suggests that there are 1,000 other things you could be into, or spend your money on that are more destructive to your marriage. And, she suggests that guns as a hobby are a clean, worthwhile hobby when again, there are lots of things you could do that are less savory. Tell her to focus on the big things, instead of creating long term resentment. |
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I know it's too late, but #1 Advice is: Don't marry women with whom you don't see eye to eye. People don't change and small problems in the begining turn to big problems later.
I don't tell my wife what to do, or how to live and she does the same for me. Why, because we chose the person who already was what we wanted. I bought 4 mauser rifles at AIM (back when they were a a good deal) along with 4 cases of ammo. Upon arrival at home, and explaining that deals like this are fleating, she said," Maybe you should go buy some more". I knew it was gonna be me and her in rocking chairs in the end. Sorry about your problems OP, but I can't imagine being told what to do, or scolded for a purchase. I don't expect them to get better. You have a choice to make. Be willing to be controlled the rest of your life and continue on with the marraige. Or......... Have kids. Add stress. And deny that anything is wrong until you finally decide that you can't stand it, Give away half your stuff if you're lucky, destroy the kids lives and be miserable. You say......"It won't happen to me". I hope not. Odds dictate otherwise. |
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Just explain to her that this is your hobby. You could spends hours and thousands playing golf, flying airplanes, or building boats but, this is what you enjoy. Tell her that if you can't have guns as a hobby your second choice is being a furry. Show her a thread and you will enjoy your new AR. |
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Ok, here is the history: I am 30, have been married to a very gorgeous woman (way, way, to hot for me ). We have been married for going on eight years now, she is a great and smart women. No pics guys, sorry. I have an issue that has been really bothering me, so I thought that I would ask to see if anyone else has the same problem. Now, I would swim across shark infested waters to bring her a glass of lemonade, what ever she wants, cool, I will try to get it for her. I have firearms, and a lot of them. But every time that I want to get another one my wife gets all bent out of shape about it. It's not like we don't have the money. We both have great jobs and are quite comfortable. So here is the deal, I just sold a PTR91, CETME, and a SAR AK, so I could build a real nice AR. But she is giving me all kinds of problems about it. WTF? So, you guys who deal with this same thing, how do you deal with it This is really starting to bother me.
By the way, I am not going to eject, as I am pretty committed to this marriage. R_Fury: Oh ARFCOM, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to do. ARFCOM: YOU CAN ACT LIKE A MAN! WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH YOU!?! 
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Whenever I buy a new gun she gets something of equal value that she wants. Of course over half of the guns in the safe are ones that she bought for me as gifts.
.............. Tell her Columbus Day is right around the corner and jot down your next "gift". Problem solved. National Dairy Month was in June, you missed that one. March is National Peanut month, but November is National Peanut Butter Lovers Month. |
| I have my safe in the garage. my wife does not know what I have in there. new stuff goes from the truck to the safe, never where she can see them.and try to use cash, not the debit card. or give her a budget for fun stuff she likes to buy and give your self the same amount, that way she gets to spend the same amount on shoes and crap that you spend on guns. |