Posted: 5/15/2009 5:11:01 AM EDT
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If your SO gets laid off and you're working 2 jobs to help pay the bills should you still have to do your "chores"?
For example you work 64 hours in a week and she works 0 should you still have to clean the cat box? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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If your SO gets laid off and you're working 2 jobs to help pay the bills should you still have to do your "chores"? For example you work 64 hours in a week and she works 0 should you still have to clean the cat box? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile The SO should be doing the chores. |
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If your SO gets laid off and you're working 2 jobs to help pay the bills should you still have to do your "chores"? For example you work 64 hours in a week and she works 0 should you still have to clean the cat box? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile The SO should be doing the chores. This. |
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The SO should be doing the chores. This All of them including the mans normal share? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Define "man's normal share". Mowing the lawn? Yup, she can do it. Changing the oil in a car? Well... you might want to let that one slide. Anything involving power tools... only if you want to buy a new tool. Trust me on this one. 
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Quoted: If your SO gets laid off and you're working 2 jobs to help pay the bills should you still have to do your "chores"? For example you work 64 hours in a week and she works 0 should you still have to clean the cat box? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile If said SO is female: Yes. Melvin Udall's quote from "As Good As It Gets" explains all you need to know about this situation. |
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I married a traditional woman - think pre-Oprah. I wouldn't want her working outside the house first off.
I do household repairs and the heavy lifting, she does the cooking, dishes, laundry, ironing, and other cleaning. About the only "cleaning" I do are the heavy chemicals for the oven cleaner and waxing the wooden floors - I don't want her handling the chemicals for safety reasons and waxing is the 90% furniture moving. |
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Depends - is it your cat, or is it her cat (or is it both of yours)? 1 is mine and 1 is hers Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Then she should be doing it. The only possible justification for her not doing it would be if it was a cat that you brought into the marriage, or a cat that you insisted on getting even though she didn't really want it. But if you've got multiple cats, and she is also a cat person, then it's absolutely one of the chores that the non-working spouse should be doing. It's not like cleaning cat box is a lot of work. |
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If you both have a problem with cleaning the cat box, get rid of the cat. I really don't have a problem doing it, it might take 10 min at most. It's the point that she's not doing it while Im working 2 jobs that bothers me. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile As it should. I say you are 100% justified. I would be pissed at my g/f if that happened, as she would be pissed at me. |
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If your SO gets laid off and you're working 2 jobs to help pay the bills should you still have to do your "chores"? For example you work 64 hours in a week and she works 0 should you still have to clean the cat box? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile You are SO whipped for even asking. 
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If you both have a problem with cleaning the cat box, get rid of the cat. I really don't have a problem doing it, it might take 10 min at most. It's the point that she's not doing it while Im working 2 jobs that bothers me. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile As it should. I say you are 100% justified. I would be pissed at my g/f if that happened, as she would be pissed at me. This is the response that I figured that I would get. I got onto her the other day when I came home and she said something about me not putting all of the trash together. I simply responded "Sorry I was at work." and that seemed to shut her up. I don't mind taking the trash out to the curb on my way out the door to work but she has all day to do whatever she wants including a few things that she doesn't want to do including my chores. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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If you both have a problem with cleaning the cat box, get rid of the cat. I really don't have a problem doing it, it might take 10 min at most. It's the point that she's not doing it while Im working 2 jobs that bothers me. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile As it should. I say you are 100% justified. I would be pissed at my g/f if that happened, as she would be pissed at me. This is the response that I figured that I would get. I got onto her the other day when I came home and she said something about me not putting all of the trash together. I simply responded "Sorry I was at work." and that seemed to shut her up. I don't mind taking the trash out to the curb on my way out the door to work but she has all day to do whatever she wants including a few things that she doesn't want to do including my chores. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile I agree with all of this. My SO had his hours cut back a couple months ago by his douchebag old boss(he has a new job now thank God) and I was gettig on his ass about doing chores and feeling like he needed to be productive during these days off cause he didn't get paid unemployment, vacation or nothing and I was at work making all the money to pay our damn bills which are mostly his. And he would say how I never do shit on my days off and I said well I get paid for my days off but if I got laid off I would at least get unemployment unlike him at the time (he was a subcontractor) and I would for sure being doing chores all day when I wasn't busy looking for a new job anyway! But I for one DO NOT clean the cat box, we had agreement when we got the cat (he is the one who really wanted it) that he would clean the cat box so no matter what if I wasn't working I would not do that one particular chore. But in your situation she should do the chores if you are working 2 jobs and she isn't working at all. There's no reason she can't do the chores. Is it just the catbox she doesn't want to clean? That's understandable and maybe you could do just that one chore. |
| i am unemployed. my girlfriend goes to work and comes home to a house in perfect condition. theres no reason for me not to get everything i can get done DONE. the yard, back and front is done. groceries get done. her schedule is 11am to 8pm. i do chores when she leaves, and then i can go train all day, and have dinner cooked by the time she gets home. |
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Beaver Cleaver does "chores". You're talking about household maintenance and cleaning. It's a proximity thing. You're out of the house working, and in close proximity to your job. She's IN the house, in close proximity to the shit that needs to be done there.
I'm assuming you don't wander around your place of employment all day avoiding your job, and she shouldn't wander around the house all day ignoring shit that needs to be done. If you're both out working, then you share the house crap when you're home. If you were both unemployed, then you'd also share the house crap. Unless it's a physical ability or skill deal, then she needs to do the house upkeep, including any boxes of shit sitting around. |
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If you both have a problem with cleaning the cat box, get rid of the cat. I really don't have a problem doing it, it might take 10 min at most. It's the point that she's not doing it while Im working 2 jobs that bothers me. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Amen brother... if she's not working, sitting on her ass all day ain't gonna cut it. It's not a matter of keeping score, it's about respect, plain and simple. Ask the question the other way around: If you were home all day, what 'chores' would you expect out of her after working 64 hours at two jobs in a week? Be honest... Whatever you answer, that is the answer to your question above. |