Posted: 2/13/2009 8:15:09 PM EDT
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My buddy is getting married tomorrow and the wedding is about 100 miles from home. I have been good friends with the guy for 15 years, but my daughter is not feeling well. Nothing major- fever under 100*. My wife is staying home anyway since we don't have a babysitter, but should I stay home too?
If you were the one getting married and a good friend didn't come because his 4 yr old is sick, would you be pissed? FWIW, I am leaning toward staying home. If she gets worse, it won't be a question. |
| If the kiddo is sick beyond your wife's ability to care for, it's likely hospital time anyway. If not, go to the wedding but stay sober so that if there's an emergency call you can cruise out of there without getting in an accident or going to jail. It rarely takes two people to watch a kid puke and then clean it up. |
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If the kiddo is sick beyond your wife's ability to care for, it's likely hospital time anyway. If not, go to the wedding but stay sober so that if there's an emergency call you can cruise out of there without getting in an accident or going to jail. It rarely takes two people to watch a kid puke and then clean it up. this here... |
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Why are you asking this question? My guess is your wife is pissed that you want to go and leave her to take care of the kid? I guess shes insecure about the reception and how single girls get during weddings/receptions. No big deal. Compromise and make the wedding but skip the reception.
If Im right here about whats going on you'll be having more of these problems in the future. |
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My buddy is getting married tomorrow and the wedding is about 100 miles from home. I have been good friends with the guy for 15 years, but my daughter is not feeling well. Nothing major- fever under 100*. My wife is staying home anyway since we don't have a babysitter, but should I stay home too? If you were the one getting married and a good friend didn't come because his 4 yr old is sick, would you be pissed? FWIW, I am leaning toward staying home. If she gets worse, it won't be a question. He's your buddy of 15 years, does that mean anything to you? If so, get your ass to the wedding and skip the reception. If not, then there's your answer. Your wife can attend to your child for a few hours while you're gone. She'll understand that, or at least she should. Unless your kid is in, or needs to go to the hospital, you go support your buddy for a few hours. |
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Why are you asking this question? My guess is your wife is pissed that you want to go and leave her to take care of the kid? I guess shes insecure about the reception and how single girls get during weddings/receptions. No big deal. Compromise and make the wedding but skip the reception. If Im right here about whats going on you'll be having more of these problems in the future. No. No. No. It was already decided a couple of weeks ago that when we didn't have a babysitter that my wife wouldn't be going. She is cool about shit like that and understands that I wasn't going to miss it. I just don't feel right being an hour and a half away and my little girl get worse. She is 4 now, but when she was a newborn we had to rush her to the ER and my wife did not perform well under the pressure. My kid comes before anyone else. |
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I guess I am not following your thinking on this. When your daughter is ill, do you stay home from work, too? (Sounds to me like you really don't want to go, but don't want to admit it.) Sometimes I do. Depends who has more going on. But right now I am in the correctional officer academy and can't miss a day. |
| I think your wife is perfectly capable of taking care of the child. Is she your only kid? If the daughter was really sick and there were a couple more very young children you might consider staying home and helping with the other kids otherwise your wife, as a mother, is perfectly capable. |
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Why don't you be honest. You don't want to go and are looking for an excuse and validation. How would you feel if your "so called" friends invented lame excuses not to participate in one of the biggest days of your life? Wow! Do you have kids? If you do, do you love them? It's not like the wedding is in town and I can be home in 15mins. Jeez, since when is a feverish and vomiting 4 year a lame excuse? |
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Why are you asking this question? My guess is your wife is pissed that you want to go and leave her to take care of the kid? I guess shes insecure about the reception and how single girls get during weddings/receptions. No big deal. Compromise and make the wedding but skip the reception. If Im right here about whats going on you'll be having more of these problems in the future. No. No. No. It was already decided a couple of weeks ago that when we didn't have a babysitter that my wife wouldn't be going. She is cool about shit like that and understands that I wasn't going to miss it. I just don't feel right being an hour and a half away and my little girl get worse. She is 4 now, but when she was a newborn we had to rush her to the ER and my wife did not perform well under the pressure. My kid comes before anyone else. You've answered your own question. |
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Why don't you be honest. You don't want to go and are looking for an excuse and validation. How would you feel if your "so called" friends invented lame excuses not to participate in one of the biggest days of your life? Wow! Do you have kids? If you do, do you love them? It's not like the wedding is in town and I can be home in 15mins. Jeez, since when is a feverish and vomiting 4 year a lame excuse? You asked for an opinion and I gave it. Read your original post. You said the fever was less than 100 which for a kid is nothing. It was pretty obvious by your OP that you wanted to blow him off and were looking for validation. Sorry I couldn;t give you what you were looking for. Yes I do have kids and yes they get sick and vomit. You mentioned your wife was going to take care of her. Nothing in your post sounds like she has anything remotely life threatening. Suggestion, if you don't want to risk getting opinions different than yours, then don;t ask for them. |
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Why don't you be honest. You don't want to go and are looking for an excuse and validation. How would you feel if your "so called" friends invented lame excuses not to participate in one of the biggest days of your life? Wow! Do you have kids? If you do, do you love them? It's not like the wedding is in town and I can be home in 15mins. Jeez, since when is a feverish and vomiting 4 year a lame excuse? You asked for an opinion and I gave it. Read your original post. You said the fever was less than 100 which for a kid is nothing. It was pretty obvious by your OP that you wanted to blow him off and were looking for validation. Sorry I couldn;t give you what you were looking for. Yes I do have kids and yes they get sick and vomit. You mentioned your wife was going to take care of her. Nothing in your post sounds like she has anything remotely life threatening. Suggestion, if you don't want to risk getting opinions different than yours, then don;t ask for them. That is what YOU got out of my OP. I have been looking forward to going to the wedding for some time. Go read the thread about "Who is not getting laid on V-tines Day?" and you will see where I posted that I wasn't because I was going to the wedding w/o my wife and looking forward to hanging out with my buddies. I posted that before my daughter's fever started. I was asking for opinions from people about going and having a good time, when you have a sick kid at home, not about making excuses to get out of a wedding. Thanks anyway though 
BTW- I fent. Had a good time. No major issues at home. |