[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Question for Men only (Page 1 of 4)
Posted: 1/5/2009 6:08:08 PM EDT
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Would you, under any circumstances ever cheat on your wife or serious long term girlfriend?
Answer the poll honestly, no one can tell who voted for what. I don't care what you put in your comment, but answer the poll honestly please. Feel free to answer if you are not married, divorced or whatever. To the few women on the board, please don't skew the poll by voting. I am trying to gauge men's views on fidelity in relation to a debate I had with my sister. |
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IBTP first time!!
I would say no, but I've never had the chance to (because I've never let myself be in a situation where it would be a possibility). I have told my wfe flat out to NEVER let me be alone with certain female friends of hers, BY NAME, though, because I honestly would not trust myself with them. GR |
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Well since I'm no longer married I'll say no... but I will cheat with your wives or long term girfriends.  So in other words you can't be trusted? OK....we got it. I absolutely refuse to associate with a man who cheats on his wife. If she cant trust him, how the fuck can I? |
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"under any circumstances" is a big phrase. Usually I have no respect for a guy who cheats on his wife. But I know of a guy who has a wife who has physical disabilities and can't fulfill that part of a marriage. He still loves her, can't leave her (she needs him to take care of her) but isn't willing to live the rest of his life without sex. I don't know what I would do in that situation, but I don't judge him.
If my wife cut me off for some period of time... don't know how long it is but I could see myself cheating. Hopefully I never face that decision. And as it is, I've had chances and turned it down. |
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Not under ANY circumstances. On the flip side for my wife cheating is the only thing I will immediately divorce her over, and that includes talking to another man behind my back, letters, phone calls, et cetera. Loss of trust = relationship is over. I would always wonder if it was just flirty texts or if it went all the way, and I couldnt handle that.
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"under any circumstances" is a big phrase. Usually I have no respect for a guy who cheats on his wife. But I know of a guy who has a wife who has physical disabilities and can't fulfill that part of a marriage. He still loves her, can't leave her (she needs him to take care of her) but isn't willing to live the rest of his life without sex. I don't know what I would do in that situation, but I don't judge him. If my wife cut me off for some period of time... don't know how long it is but I could see myself cheating. Hopefully I never face that decision. And as it is, I've had chances and turned it down. I guess he forgot the part about for better or worse, in sickness and in health...... MOST people have no clue what their vows mean. |
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Not under ANY circumstances. On the flip side for my wife cheating is the only thing I will immediately divorce her over, and that includes talking to another man behind my back, letters, phone calls, et cetera. Loss of trust = relationship is over. I would always wonder if it was just flirty texts or if it went all the way, and I couldnt handle that. Just curious, what if: Your wife just decided that she just didn't LIKE you anymore one day and she stopped giving you sex, any type of sex, I mean shut it off completely, then what would you do? |
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"under any circumstances" is a big phrase. Usually I have no respect for a guy who cheats on his wife. But I know of a guy who has a wife who has physical disabilities and can't fulfill that part of a marriage. He still loves her, can't leave her (she needs him to take care of her) but isn't willing to live the rest of his life without sex. I don't know what I would do in that situation, but I don't judge him. If my wife cut me off for some period of time... don't know how long it is but I could see myself cheating. Hopefully I never face that decision. And as it is, I've had chances and turned it down. I guess he forgot the part about for better or worse, in sickness and in health...... MOST people have no clue what their vows mean. My earlier point was about the "any circumstances" thing. It encompasses a lot. If you wife were, after a terrible accident, a vegetable/in a coma for 12 years and in suddenly failing health...would you give no thought to initiating a relationship with someone who was truly a gift (even your wife would probably approve) prior to your wife passing in order not to miss a critical window that would allow you to have a beautiful second marriage lasting the rest of your life? "Any circumstances", remember? FWIW, one of the most proper and moral christian women I have known in my life found herself in a similar situation, but after well more than 12 years of being alone. I can't fault her at all for her choices, and as far as I can tell it made her happy until she passed away. |