Posted: 5/24/2008 9:22:55 PM EDT
| My wife and I had a baby in January. Well recently her sex drive basically disappeared. I mean after the 6 week checkup we had sex once a day, now we haven't had sex in almost a month. Now she did start a new birth control (nuva ring) exactly a month ago. I'm thinking maybe this has something to do with it. I tried talking to her about it but she blames it on having to go to back to work, birth control and hormones, always being tired, etc....is this normal, also is there anything I can do? |
+1 She's a little preoccupied, you know? Be supportive, give it time, and discuss it with her. |
Worth mentioning 3 times. |
Uh oh....things might not work out well. Getting married because you "have to" is seldom an auspicious start to a marriage. Not that it is an absolute obstacle. And having kids can definitely put a damper on the sack action. However January is 4 months ago. Normally things start turning around and getting back to normal physically for younger women in that time frame. Most likely her issues are mixed. Some is physical, some is mental. Rule out the physical causes for decreased libido, talk to her doc. After that its either a bit of counseling for one or both of you. Perhaps you know a female she might be willing to listen to that would talk to her, get her side of the story and explain how you feel. It's unlikely at this time she will listen to you, she will just tune you out as a horndog. |
+1 I started counting down the years until my wife hits forty within a few months of our daughter being born. |
We didn't have to get married. We were friends long before all this happened. I was miserable with my girlfriend at the time. I feel like talking to her about it just makes her not want it even more. |