Posted: 11/29/2007 10:23:09 AM EDT
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So I'm going to make a long story short. I have a friend, we grew up together, he was a great student in highschool, stayed clean and everything, and then we went our sepperate ways in college. 6 months later he's failed out of school, living with his parents, and is into all sorts of drugs, mostly pills and weed... This kids like my Brother, and I have talked to him about his problems and what he is doing with his life... Its fucked up, I'm not going to stop being his friend, though sometimes I think that may snap him out of his fucking stupor. Anyway, any of you guys have advice, storys about his kinda thing from your past? |
| Being the "loyal friend" is foolish in the extreme if you intend to actually spend time with him. He may well get you busted for drugs by having them in your/his car. I'd sever ties, gently, by simply telling him, "When you are straight I will be your friend again. Until then I can't afford the risk." Druggies don't make good friends--he WILL lie to you and he WILL (sooner or later) steal from you. |
lol, Obviously, anyway his parents splil him alittle, I think thats one of the reasons he turned out like this, not enough fucking disciplen... I think it was a shock to the system when he went into the out side world away from his family... Its not like he was brought up bad either, we both went to private schools... he has a good family... |
Or let him in your house, or hang out with him at any time when it's possible he might have drugs, stolen property, a warrant, etc. and that the police might find you with him... I'd sure as hell stop being friends with him, but that's just me. He isn't "troubled"... he's trouble. |
Hard advice to follow, but probably good advice. It may help to be there to listen to him, give advice, etc, but I would be REAL careful about hanging out with him. You could possibly help him get clean, but only if he himself wants to be and is willing to put forth the effort. -K |
yah... good advice, I have been trying to slowly do this. I don't want to just sever ties completely, because I have seen people snap out of this and head in the right direction. |
| As everyone else stated stay away. I too have a friend that was in a real bad way for awhile, he did steal off of me ($100) and lied about it until he realized that I'm way to unstable to deal with that shit. At which point I gave him an ass kicking he'll never forget. He's now been clean for a year and just got a good job. So anyways, be his friend. he fell into that stuff for one reason or another. but just watch out for him. and keep an eye on him at all times around your stuff. (BTW I did get repaid in full) |
I agree with this. I was living with a friend out of high school my sophomore year of college. We were renting a house together.. she started drugs, partying way too much, and basically sleeping around. Thing that got me is that her freshman year of college she was freakin' amazing. She had a 3.8 gpa and was basically the same girl from high school. (she was also still living at home freshman year) She went crazy once she was on her own. Anyway I had to kick her out of the house because of her lifestyle. I told her that I will be there whenever she needs me, but she has to prove to me that she has changed her ways. I still have not received a call from her. I only hope that she straightened up. Anyway BK is right.. Tell them straight up that you will not tolerate their behavior and when they can grow up you will be friends with them again. |
First off, pills and weed are not all sorts of drugs (some people migth argue not drugs at all). Secondly, how old is this guy? If he is under the age of 22, I would not freak out too much. I never flunked out of college but I had a crazy youth and in time you settle down and mature on your own. |
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Won't get clean or straighten up until he takes responsibility for his actions. I know it sounds cliche, but I guarantee he places the blame elsewhere (I don't care what he's told you). He'll need support to get clean...that doesn't include financial support. Ultimately, all you can do is be there and olffer to find him employment after he straightens up. The weed wouldn't concern me so much, the pills, pain killers and benzodiazapans, are serious business. |
I would Consider the Oxy_cotton He just called me about to ask If I wanted any drugs... Thats the whole reason I made this thread... I believe he has gone alittle to far... |
Ok, I will give you that but how old is he? I still think that is no reason to just stop hanging out with him. |
If he's offering oxycontin then he's dealing. Bad ju-ju there. Oh, and read this thread. Your friend's troubles could f*** up your RKBA if you're not careful. |
He is only 20 and thats why I said I don't want to completely sever ties because I have seen people snap out of it... |
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If you ever see a new building falling over, Get out of the way. Yes, a new building could go back up, they could build the same one or it could lay there. Either way, wait till it falls and help pick up the rubble. If it looks like the same building it will only fall again. Words of my father when my friend hit the skids. He ODed 4 years later, same building went up. |
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+1 Guilt by association. I had an employee using and selling heroin - he's now in the state prison. Since he used to drive one of my company vehicles, I have little doubt that I was included in the investigation at some point and to some degree. |
90%-95% of the time, he will spend a while (6 months-5 years) in this state, then snap out of it and get his s#!t together and it will all be water under the bridge. Give it time, but hold onto your wallet..... |