[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Slight problem with G/F (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 11/12/2007 10:15:01 AM EDT
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Ok guys, have a slight problem with the girl friend. We've been together for 2 years now and everything has been great. But I just don't find myself attracted to her anymore. Since July she's gained 20lbs. Now she wasn't a thin to begin with but she was tone. She's big boned, her entire family is. So anyways, at first we thought she had a tyroid problem, so off to the doc's and the tests come back clean. She doesn't want to work out. I've asked multple times. She has a membership to the local YMCA but doesn't go for more than 30 minutes a week. When we first started dating I was inshape with the body of a god, now it's more like Buddha. She thinks it's funny when I say that or that I'm a fat kid in training. Also I never know if she wants to be physical or not, because she never tells more or does anything. It's always on me to start and then if she's not in the mood I get bitched at. Anyways, any suggestions. What say you ARFCOM? |
Man up and get a new girlfriend. |
Wow! 5 minutes elapsed from post to pic...you guys are getting slow! 
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Let her catch you wacking off to pron of slim wimmins. In the ensuing shitstorm of a fight, tell her if she wasn't a cow, you wouldn't have to look at pron. At this point, one of two things will happen, 1. she will leave you-problem solved, or 2. she will lose weight, and in 2 years leave you for being such a prick-problem solved for us, because in 2 years we will get to hear your story here in the GD of your girlfriend leaving you. Another option is hookers and blow.
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A classic ARFCOM post defining how most of the GD posters understand relationships with women. Stated problem by OP: Slight problem with G/F This problem is that an admiittedly big-boned girl gained 20 lbs. And she won't exersize to his standards (note that she does use her gym membership according to the OP, just not as often as he thinks she should). Key fact ignored by the OP and the "eject" crowd:
OP has let himself go to pot, but is annoyed by a small weight gain by his woman. It also annoys him that she no longer initates sex. Anyone else notice that the root cause and the actual problem here has little to do with the G/F? By his own statement the OP no longer takles much pride in his appearance (or he wouldn't have gone from Adonis to Buddha), but is offended by a change in the appearance of the girlfriend of which he does not approve along with the fact that she no longer finds him attractive enough to drag into the sack. Man up, get your own ass to the gym and get yourself back into the shape that attracted her in the first place. Lead by example, not by nagging. |
Was she born with an extra set of ass bones? |
Well, that makes it ok  .Start going to the gym, and ask her to come along. Chances are she's not terribly happy about her current weight situation as well, which is probably why she's not as into being physical. She thinks she's a fat ugly mess, and doesn't feel sexy anymore. There's also a good chance since she stayed with you while your body went to hell, she should be able to as well. I see your choices as: 1. Get active again and start living better. Eat healthier and excercise. Ask her to go with you, or tell her that you need her to help you get back into shape. 2. Tell her you're a hypocritical vain dick and kick her to the curb. Then go try to get another girl with your "buddah" body. |
Well, why don't you start slowing trading back? Maybe when she sees that you've started to care about what you look like again, she'll start caring about what she looks like again. Just a thought. I'd own Page 2, but it makes me look fat. |
My advice is GROW UP!! If you are a fat ass yourself you have no room to complain about her gaining weight. Quit worrying about her going to the Y and go yourself, maybe she will join you. Please use birth control. 
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Que? She's not the svelte 5'5", 200 lb girl you started dating 2 years ago? I can certainly see why you'd be disappointed. That last 20 probably went straight to the hips. |
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Honestly, it doesn't matter what you do about her weight. If you loved her it wouldn't matter, so just move on. Hopefully one day you'll meet a beautiful woman who is just perfect. Then you'll have a car wreck and lose both of your legs and she'll leave you because you don't meet her standards. Karma is a motherfucker. |
+1 When you love someone they are beautiful to you no matter what. Why be with her if you don't love her? |
QFT |
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505 and 220? She'll be 250 before you know it. it's up to you to decide what you want, but after only two years, it would be enough for me, especially unmarried and without kids. edit: If you are going to complain about shape, get your ass in shape too, so you have a leg to stand on. |
It sure as hell will not get any better... If you hang out and make the mistake of getting married you had better stack the porn deep as you will need it. Add kids to the equation and you will never get laid and you will either br trapped for the kids OR you will pay for a lot of years for not doing what you should do now... I've been there... Now is the time to get out! |
The above is sarcasm, just in case you didn't catch it. 5'5/200 is fat, not big boned. 220 is obese I guess, but the distinction is purely semantics. Some guys like fat chicks. If you don't, cut her loose. For her sake, and yours. Life is too short to spend your time worrying about getting squished. |
+1 Truth spoken to the unwise. OP do her a favor and hit the road. |
The more time you spend with someone, the more they're gonna love you, depend on you and believe that you'll always be there for them. It's not right to stick around if you don't want to live up to that. |
Move on. |