Posted: 9/6/2007 1:24:25 PM EDT
PLEASE SCHOOL me ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!My fiance (of 3yrs) had it turn up on me.She had it 4-5?yrs ago.It's NOT her!!!Here DR,can't see her till tomorow.This is SO FUCKING HARD,PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Slow down, what's going on exactly. I have several family members and friends that are bi-polar. |
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good luck to you.
She is experiencing a manic episode. She could possibly swing to the other end as in depression at any time. My advice to you is to get her medical attention NOW! When the swing to depression happens suicide can be a strong feeling. |
Well, this may be the case as I am not a doctor. Get the meds and watch her until she gets to her doctor. Do not leave her alone at any time until she gets to a doctor. |
| Another bit of advice. Talk to her doctor and do research as if you stay with her you must understand the disease. My wife leads a normal life with proper medication and knowledge. I feel for you brother as I am in the same situation. Hang in there as she is going to need you to get through this. |
I agree completely. Get her to a doctor now. The emergency room is usually the best place when someone gets to that point. Meds will help but will likely take time and maintenance to get things back to normal. |
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Hormonal change post partum can be a trigger. Ignore the childish selfish pricks. You have done the right thing if she has an established relaitonship with a MD that is good then go with that. Hang in there, if all else fails and you need a day bynadryl for allergies for her when she is on the downside, You are the best person to care for her, if she is on the down swing from the manic you need to be with her and watch her until she can get started on meds. Don't leave her and your baby. She needs help and the best person to do that is someone that loves her. She probably needs meds and they can take time to work. If you need to vent IM me Ignore the typical eject queers. You are a father now your needs are not first your wifes and children come before you Unless she needs acute care as in she has tried to poison herself or is injured avoid the ER and po po ETA one of the important things is getting her normal sleep cycle back |
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Also, seeing that you are in CT: CT Crisis Numbers After you get stuff sorted out with doctors and meds and stuff: NAMI (Support Group Website) Resources for CT: http://www.nami.org/MSTemplate.cfm?Section=Resources70&Site=NAMI_of_Connecticut,_Inc&Template=/ContentManagement/HTMLDisplay.cfm&ContentID=49431 They are a very good non-profit organization that has really helped me and my family deal with this. Big +1 on the No Po PO. Had a friend that called the police when his wife went manic and they had DCFS come out and take the kids "until things settled down" as they said it. |
Man up. See that she gets proper treatment and meds for what is a chronic, lifelong affliction. Thank God it's not cancer. |
| My mom was diagnosed manic depressant years ago. She told me that doctors who used to diagnose people manic depressant years ago now diagnose patients bi-polar. She described it as almost one-in-the-same. I'm not a doctor, so don't put me on the stand on this one. |
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I did not think one "went on and off" meds when you are Bi Polar, it's pretty much a lifelong thing that CAN be controlled IF the person follows their meds absolutely by the book. They are not "cured" as much as the condition is controlled. Beware when they tell you they are "cured" usually they quit taking their meds when they say that and all hell breaks loose. My ex was bi polar tho she refused to admit it and refused any meds, life was hell for everyone around her, read up on what it is and don't close your eyes to issues just because you love her. |
My first wife was diagnosed as being bi-polar/manic-depression and she actually committed suicide in 2001. If you have questions or need to talk just send me a PM and I will do my best to help. |
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My wife is bipolar. Some days it good, some suck ass bigtime. Get her back on the meds. WHen she says "I'M better and don't need to be on them anymore" insist she stays on them. It may take a while to find the right meds, my wife is on the 4th or 5th round and still hasn't foung "IT" yet. PRAY HARD also, if you are a Christian. Pray for yourself, also cause you'll need it. GR |
My first wife had it. She took her meds off and on. Tried for 10 years to make it work but we couldnt. She would have some CRAZY mood swings. Anything from violence towards me to whoring around. I had enough. When she was on her meds she was mostly normal. I would think you can make it work, but she needs to be on her meds. My ex and I get along better now than we did when we were married, only difference is she now takes her meds religously.
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My mom is Bi-polar. For nearly a decade when I was growing up she was misdiagnosed. My dad was less than understanding, but manned up and stuck it out. It was the right thing, my mom is now on the proper medication and is great. I LOVE my mom. I couldnt ask for a better mother. Help her, she needs it. You are right, it is NOT her! She CAN get better! |
Alalazoo, My condolences; it seems that 2001 was a bad year for many. Norman, Take this disorder seriously. Try to enlist the help of her parents, and get her back into the care of a good psychiatrist. The key is continuous proper medication and counseling. My wife (diagnosed as bipolar in 1999 and also as a Borderline personality disorder in 2003, after multiple suicide attempts, crashing her Navy career, etc.) committed arson in March of 2002. She was adjudicated not guilty by reason of mental disease or defect in her criminal trial, and is still remanded to the custody of a state psychiatric hospital. The kids and I have done well in her absence, but I wouldn't choose this path. I had taken her to her appointments with the VA psych, and her counselors out in town, drove her to the ER several times, and visited her whenever she was admitted for inpatient psychiatric care: you name it, I was there. Despite all of that, I couldn't stop the chain of events that ensued from occurring. ETA: She claims that I don't know anything about her illness; I may have more insight than she's willing to admit. Of course, she also thinks that we (her criminal defense lawyer and I) should've let her do the jail time, rather than using a psychiatric defense. Don't forget to take care of yourself and your child. |