Posted: 10/11/2006 11:48:25 PM EDT
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Do not do it before you read this site... http://nomarriage.com/ Have a nice day... :) |
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I got married recently. I had read that sight fully. It's all about choosing the right woman. period. all those things on that site may seem true, but ther arent if you choose your woman carefully. I am very happy with my wife. (who happens to be a registered massage therapist) recent wife quotes: honey, do we need more 9mm? can we have a bunker? when do I get my own AR? ohh! ohh! shoot it in the head! should I get more rice to put up? lets make some more hard cider.  |
I wasn't talking about you!  I was referring to the OP. I know you just made the link hot. I've done that before too. 
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Luckyyyy!!!!! I want one of those. I will trade you for "Is this your dish?" or "No give me the remote I want to watch The Notebook" for the 40 billonth time. 
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haha! no deal. my wife and I watched the notebook and cried our eyes out. it was very sad. not an experience either of us care to repeat. my wife is great.
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 Yep!I'm not married, probably never ever will be. To me the odds of finding the right woman that I could actually trust, is about the same odds as winning the lottery. Of all the women I have ever dated and there has been alot, I don't think I ever really trusted or loved any of them. I figure I will most likey find a chupacabra or bigfoot before I find a woman that I love or trust. |
hahahhhahahaha good one!! |
I can say that about the men I've dated as well. What does that say for society at a whole? Marriage isn't the problem.
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True! But it becomes a GIANT problem if you decide to marry anyway without trust or love. So why bother at all! Better off being single and having some variety with no strings attached. So until I am proven wrong and find someone trustworthy and maybe experience love, if there is such a thing and I have my doubts, then I have absolutely nothing nice to say about marriage. |
Well your philosophy is smart. I commend you on that. I have to admit I relied upon a lot of H O P E. Hope is not always terribly trustworthy. Patty |
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Did you know Albert Einstein was divorced? Arguably the most intelligent man who has ever lived eventually realized he couldn't figure women out and gave up. So if you're wondering, "Is this the girl for me?" perhaps you should be asking yourself "Am I smarter than Einstein?" |
Thank you Patty. I sometimes question myself on wether or not its smart or not. But I sure don't want to end up like the majority of guys I know wondering how their going to start over with no house no money and no life after a really nasty divorce wrecked it all. |
How I missed this the first time through, I'll never know... 
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If you're considering getting married, take advice from a bunch of pissed off guys on a website who've been burned by their own negligence of carefully considering their actions. I'm a recently married guy, and marriage isn't what people say it is (people meaning never married folk). The sex life has done nothing but increase in frequency and quality, our love and fondness grows thicker each day, and the best part of the day is to come home to each other's hello. The whole nomarriage.com thing is bullshit. I've been graced by God to have met a wonderful individual whom I can trust with my heart. And knowing that she's God's gift to me, I made a vow in front of the Lord to honor, respect and cherish her until death. I've never had "buyer's remorse", it's the best decision I've ever made. And when times get rough (since no-one is perfect, and there will be bad times somewhere down the road), I found the one woman whom I can say I'm sorry when I'm wrong, and the one woman that I'm willing to work out any problem (minus infidelity) with. Although, the good thing about not being married for you no-marriage.com guys is that you can still live with your parents rent free.
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That is great!! And I am sincerely happy for you. I myself can say that I have never been in a relationship where love was present. There is lust and some empathy present, but that is it. No love. No trust. No marriage! period. |
All I'm saying is that it's ridiculously stupid to be against marriage by reading a website. When you do things someone else's way, you're liable to get killed. - Harry Calahan. |
And while it's great that he found a great woman...don't knock until you HAVE tried it with someone that you do trust and love. You say you're against marriage, because you haven't found anyone like that yet. But why hate the institution? Just because I've never tried, say, starfish, can I say I hate starfish? Nope. Someday, perhaps you will meet someone who rocks your world, and nothing short of a lifetime commitment will be acceptable for both of you. And I hope at that time, you're not shouting "no marriage.com" to the rooftops. |
Starfish? Brown Starfish?  EEEWWWWWWW!!! 
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oh, shut up, you.
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I don't get why non religious people get married? Tax break maybe? Whatever, if you want to get married do it. If you don't then don't. for me Marriage is teh_Suck! But I could fucking care less if anybody does or doesn't. It has nothing to do with me. I would think that the same old partner day in and day out would get boring fast. |
It does get boring, if you're narcissistic and shallow. For those of us who have a devotion to our spouse, and to the life we build together, each day is comfort and peace. Having a different girl every night sounds good, but which one of those girls will come and see you in the hospital, wash your dirty underwear, care when someone you love dies, give you a good son or daughter, or ever really get to know you and like you anyway? I've had a good deal of meaningless sex and relationships, and there's not 1 second of it that compares to being intimate with someone you deeply love and trust, and trust to stay by your side. Not even close. Marriage isn't for everyone, the divorce rate is proof of that. That doesn't mean there isn't a whole lot to like about it, even for us Non-Christians. Every time these threads come about, I have the same thought. There are alot of people whose marriages fall apart - every day on this site there seems to be a thread about it, and it's always the partner's fault, always the institution to blame. Funny, isn't it? No one ever wonders why they chose the partner they did, why their serial bad choices keep leading them to the same character of partner over and over again. Even if you do EVERYTHING right in the marriage, you still share some culpability for its demise, divorced folks. You CHOSE the mate. For some of us, the recognition that we have to choose smarter than "wow, this feels good" is precisely why we are still married and not posting up divorce threads. Your spouse is the foundation of the house you build. If you choose it based on nothing more than instinct or desire, your house will be a piece of shit, and will fall down. It takes more than that. You have to select a partner that MAKES SENSE. Yes, you have to think a little....and you have to be grown up enough to accept that sometimes your attractions are not a healthy divining rod to your happiness. I am living proof. My "type" is not my wife, and had I vetted her by my natural impulses, I would have looked elsewhere to a more carefree and reckless mate. That would have been a bad choice. I chose based on a little bit of attraction, a lot of liking her, a lot of liking her family, alot of knowing we wanted the same things and shared compatible views, and lastly that she wasn't a selfish person. Had I chose on instinct, I wouldn't have married my wife, and thank god I had the good sense to look beyond the tip of my penis for guidance. |
Best analogy ever !! |
Well aren't you an expert! That's kind of like being happy with your Ford with 1,000 miles on the odometer. Everybody tells you that crap's gonna blow up but you don't believe it. |
I think people have misinterpreted what I mean. I don't have a problem with marriage at all. I think people who can make it work are very fortunate and I am a bit envious of these couples. I think I have alot more problem with the concept of love. I don't know wether or not I believe in love or not. In all my last fifthteen years of dating women, I never fealt love to or from a woman. It just didn't happen. Sure there was lust. And thre was some sympathy if a partner was in pain or something. But no love and no way I wanted to marry one of them. So why is this? Am I to blame? Is the partner to blame? My analysis of the situation is that I did not receive or reciprocate love from any of these women because they didn't love me! Simple as that. So why didn't they? Was it because of my occupation which requires alot of my time? Or maybe because I am not rich? In fact by many peoples standards, I'm probably quite poor. Or is it because I'm not that great of looking guy? Maybe a cobination of all the above. Maybe I'm too picky. Or to conservative for most women. whatever. So then I must ask.... what is the basis of love? Is it materialistic? If so then love is a hoax. So this leads me to believe that my chances of finding "love" are very very slim at best. And since marriage has to be based on love, it just plane ain't gonna happen'. So in conclusion. No I am not against marriage for other people, but rather just for me.
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Well I've been married for 25 years (yes to the same woman) and while there have been bumps and hard times, we are happy . We've raised two great kids (both have college degrees and good jobs) and now we are empty nesters. It's kind of weird not having the kids around, but we are starting to get use to each other now. I think it's going to be fun getting to know each other again. Who knows what will happen in the next 25 years!
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Marriage is a license for a woman to take 50% of your money/stuff. More if you end up having kids togather. Whats the good side again? A relationship, you can have that without getting married. With 50% of marriages ending in divorse and even more having infidelity by one or both partners, it doesnt seen like a good financial decision. |
All true. But the real problem is the way the courts treat divorse. The majority of states are no fault now. Meaning that when it comes time to divide property and dish out child support and alimony it doesnt matter who was in the wrong. Doesnt matter if one spouse is a chronic liar, a drug addict or unfaithfull its not held against them in court. additionally the deck is usually stacked against men due to antiquated nothings of gender roles. if the couple divorses because the woman cheated the judge doesnt tell her to go out and get a job. instead the judge tells them to sell the house, give her half, then the guy uses his half to buy her out of his pension/retirement plus alimony. then there is the issue of men paying for kids they did not father. In most states the husband is finacially responsible for any children concieved suring the married regaurdless of who the real father is. With those things in mind is marriage a good investiment? |
No reason he cant have a long term relationship without getting married. There are many more wealthy single men than wealthy divorsed me. but there are more wealthy divorsed women than wealthy single women. |
He didn't say marriage, he referred to having the same partner day in and day out. If you want to hop from bed to bed nightly then great, but one day you're gonna wake up & realize you aren't the ladies man you were in your youth.... and you're alone to boot. |