[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Problem with my girlfriend (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 9/19/2006 8:53:42 AM EDT
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So last fall my gf went to a private university in southern CA. i had to move to Northern CA to go to the college i wanted to attend. anyways, she hated the distance, so did i, and i hated my job and other stuff like my roommate bailing on me and whanot. anyways, she convinced me to move back down, so i transferred to a closer college. she decided to move back into her parents house b/c she hated the private college and go to a beauty college, and will soon graduate. she now wants to go BACK to her private university to get more "college experience", which is like 100 miles away. i now feel like ive been F***ed over because i moved my butt back here to be with her and now she wants to move away now. i know im a dumbass for moving but should i dump her, follow her, or what here? |
Dump her and move on. She obviously doesn't value you if she decides to do this on a whim after making you sacrifice.  Maybe "experiencing" college for her is having a new guy every week. Who knows? You sure don't since you weren't there.  Note that I'm not blaming you or anything. I'm just saying her behavior is very odd and you don't really know what's been going on with her since you have been apart.
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You are being played, and deep down you know it. Eject. |
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tell her your view that she's screwing you over after you made a sacrifice to move close to her. see what her response is. if she realizes the unjustness of her decision she'll reconsider or try to work things out if she wants to stay with you. if she says she's going and doesnt care then dump her and move on the worst thing possible would be that you follow her and THEN she decides she wants a break from you. then you'd be TOTALLY f'd over and hate life. dont put yourself in that situation |
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It's unanimous. Dump and run. In my experience, you knew it when you posted. We just confirmed it. If you do anything else, you are basically shooting yourself in the foot. It's obvious what "experiencing" college is. She talked to some girlfriends, they said "You gotta check out all these hot college guys" and she split. Obviously her mind has changed. Time for you to change yours. I agree with the previous post. Get as much ass as you can. Her pie can't be that good. Dump her or be forced to turn in your man badge. PS. Just MHO. |
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Do what YOU want to do. You played along with what SHE wanted to do and she fucked you over. She's not serious about you. You don't pull shit like you described if you care about someone else. If you go along with she wants again you'll have proved to her that you're a doormat and she'll continue to treat you as one. 
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Listen to the man. He speaks the truth. You made your own personal sacrifice for this young lady, and her actions show that she has absolutely no appreciation of that sacrifice. From what you posted, it seems that she thinks that the world revolves around her, with absolutely no consideration to those around her. But, she's young and foolish, and hopefully in time, she'll outgrow such behavior. In the meantime, kick her to the curb, and go out and enjoy life. There are women out there her age who DO have their shit together. They might not be so easy to find, but they are out there. Eject, and save yourself the heartache later. |
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shit, man isn't there any other chicks at that college your going to? hell man if your GF is that indecisive, than you don't want to get too involved with her cause it'll just get worse, just keep her around for the daily dailys, and get you something lined up on the side. |
I won't tell you what to do but I'll explain it to you in the simple straight truths and then you decide.
Ok, I lied I will give you advice. The only control someone has over your life is the control you give them. You handed control of your life to her when you left your college to be with her. She promptly treated you like shit from then on. When you give control of your life over to someone else it makes you look weak and needy. You have already admitted to being a dumbass for moving for her. It is now time to get your balls back and be a man. Stand up for yourself, dump the girl, gain your confidence back and NEVER give control of YOUR life to another girl again. BTW, she will dump if when she goes back to college. So the question is do you act like a pussy and tag along until she dumps you or do you start taking control of your life back and kick this poorly behaving negative girl to the curb? |
| actually the only reason we moved seperate ways in the first place was because we had just begun dating a couple of months before school started. we have been dating for over a year now, and i pretty much stand my ground 100% of the time. the whole moving back to socal thing was a pretty bitch move though |
Ask yourself this, has she treated you differently since you did that? I've been through college. I've also been through a situation where my girlfriend of several years moved to a new location a couple months ahead of me. Since I was down there all the time she found other friends to hang out with, go out with, party with, hook up with  . That was my last bitch move and the last time I gave control of my life over to a girl. The bottom line is there, you are in your prime, there are girls everywhere at college, and YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON DOING THINGS TO ADVANCE YOUR LIFE and not making sacrifices in the name of a "relationship". You need to go to college where you want to go, to get a major in a field that you like working in because this is the start of the rest of your life. If you sacrifice now and screw yourself over the rest of your working and personal life will be built on those sacrifices instead of what you really wanted to do. |
Yep. Take it from someone who has done the long distance/drive like he** to see her every weekend, live through college with a long distance girlfriend that ends up cheating on you thing. Call it off and get a life. i wish I had, it would be a lot different than it is now. It WILL affect the rest of your life, one way or another. GR |
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Man, you altered your life and probably your entire future just to follow this girl around? Your own schooling and career should come first. Get your life established and then marry someone. If she's still there for you later, then she's obviously wanting to stay together. In the mean time you need to think of yourself. She obviously has been thinking for herself. M.L. |
Correct. Don't change your life for a woman. |
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Attention MODS/Site Staff... Is it possible we could save bandwidth by tacking a thread at the top of GD titled perhaps "RELATIONSHIP IN CRISIS?..click me". Members could post all their boot/curb pics, fighter jet eject pics, etc. Also, we'd have the typical responses of "no-marriage.com", "f*&% her best friend", "I'd hit it", and "I'm having difficulty masturbating to this thread" already built in to the thread. It would really save alot of time for all involved. No more threads cluttering GD with the same responses over and over. If a member was having difficulty with his GF, he simply clicks on the thread, and gets the same answers as if he just posted the question himself. Just a thought. hugs and kisses, Daisy  ETA: No offense intended to the originator of this thread. But, you did post your tale of woe on the internet. |
You have chosen roomates and women poorly. You now have drama. Will you emerge smarter, wiser, and better equipped to face the world? Time will tell. |
WOW just WOW!!! Ive had the same idea but was afraid of posting it. I didnt want to kill off at least 75% of the posts in GD. If it was put into place.. |
Thanks, FM. I heard crickets for a long time, and expected an IM from a Mod putting me in my place. Good to know someone else has a sense of humor! |
Theonion.com? "Ask a navy seal"? |
He's been on a roll with it lately..... |
+1000000000 my brother did exactly that, moved twice and then she dumped his ass. . . . . . . left him with the lease and everything
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Its as good an answer as any other posted... 
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+ fucking 1! You need to pick the college with the best pie and then gorge yourself on the pie buffet! |