[ARCHIVED THREAD] - An odd thing about ARFcom (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 6/29/2006 5:54:34 PM EDT
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Ever notice that in one thread, you and a member may be vigorously but politely calling each other boneheads, communists, assholes, et c., while in other threads you and the same guy are swapping stories, advice, jokes, and whatnot? Is that common on all discussion boards? |
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That's how adults argue. Sometimes things get heated / rude, but there's no need to maintain a shitlist. Ultimately, we're all here because we like guns and probably have a lot more in common than we do differences. Now, let's all sit in a circle and sing "Kumbaya" to TBKs drum rhythm. |
or with me, i usually don't pay attention to user names. all i'm worried about is the message. |
[SPnazi]that's with 2 g's arsecracker![/SPnazi] just wait till I find yer next post, you- you-YOU!  --VT 
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Yes, you bonehead.... |
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It's a man thing. You can have two strangers in a bar get into a fist fight, and halfway thru they learn they went to the same high school years ago (but not at the same time); then they immediately stop the fight and start buying each other beers and reminiscing about certain teachers, coaches, etc. |
Exactly. There are very, VERY few people I refuse to repond to. The rest and I may not agree here and there, but that is of little matter to me. Be arguing one thread, laughing the next. |
I've seen it on other boards where you disagree with someone in one discussion and they will follow you from thread to thread 'harrassing' you. People like that need to get a life, it's a DISCUSSION, it's not personal, you don't even know the person, how can it be personal? Cannot be emphasised enough.And that's reason #7031 why I like Arfcom.  edit for typo |
| Sometimes I'll get up to get some coffee, pass my wife in the living room and say "You won't believe what this jackass wrote". She'll say "Who was it?" and I usually can't remember. I don't pay alot of attention to the poster, just what they wrote. If I disagree (or agree) constantly, I'll likely remember who they are. |
i thought ar15.com WAS the internet...  |
Amen to that. Does your Oath of Admission still include a pledge to refrain from all "offensive personality?" Ours does, thank God - and around here it is enforced by judges and by peer pressure. Guys who get personal in any way (absent deliberate misconduct by the other lawyer) are completely ostracized. It's hard to make a living if you're such an ass that the word is out to deal with you only in writing or on the record. (The local code for it (we being the southern gents we are) is "Oh, yes. I know him. He's an interesting guy.")Having practiced for awhile down south, coming home was landing in the briar patch. Around here, if another lawyer claims you agreed to something you don't think you did, the practice (unless the guy is clearly deliberately lying and seeking some unfair advantage) is to say "I don't recall it that way, but if Mr. Compton is certain, I'll be governed by his word." |
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I wish  I was in a conference on a matrimonial last week and the other attorney claimed that my client had no right to any money from something or other- I said that she did for various reasons and the other attorney replied (and this is in chambers with the judge sitting there). PROVE IT!! in sort of a shrill shriek-well duh that's why we have trials. Most are very pleasant in this area but we have our bad apples, Edit I ran into a retired attorney at night court this week. I only vaguely remember him, he had a good practice and was a town judge. He spent 45 minutes telling me war stories about old cases, judges and other things like that. Charming, funny guy, very polite and glad to have a young(er) attorney who was interested in listening to him. Now obviously there have always been bad eggs, but so many of the guys of his generation have died or retired. I really admired those guys, they would try to politely stomp you into mush in court, but as soon as you left they would ask you how business was going, warn you about things to avoid with certain judges, tip you off if you took on a client they remembered was a problem from years ago. Now I frequently hear newer (admissions wise) attorneys say very harsh things about others behind their backs, frequently over minor matters and they even sometimes do things like file grievances against judges who they don't get along with, not to stereotype but in my area this seems (ahem) gender specific. |
I too have noticed that some genders tend to be far more likely than other genders to behave badly as a result of personal emotional involvement in everything they do. Not that they're sleeping with clients, but that they seem to think that your filing a motion to dismiss is a personal attack on their integrity, fitness to raise children, voting eligibility, sanity, et c. et c. I'm afraid the fact is simply that some genders are prone to be wacky. Inexperience is a big part of it, too. I had a guy once who went to high school with me, but only went to law school much later, passing the bar about ten years after I did. He came in on the other side of a divorce where I represented a very beautiful woman who, sadly, did not regard her favors as a treasure to be opened only in the sanctified close of the nuptial bower. In fact, I deduced through conversation with her that she suffered from a mental or emotional defect that caused her - quite literally - to respond to any polite request for physical intimacy as a command she was honor bound to obey. Anyway, I get a letter from this guy whom I'd known for 20 and who'd been a member of the bar for about 3 months that says approximately
It read like something from one of those TV shows about big city lawyers. I was speechless. I thought about a written response, then thought about the guy who'd written me. I called him instead. We talked about old times and whatnot, and I said "Tony, is this your first divorce case?" "Yes, but I've done a lot of studying up for it." "Tony, I read your letter. Then I threw it away. You need to thank God that you sent that to an old friend instead of a stranger. If somebody who didn't know you aren't a complete bastard read that letter, your reputation would be ruined before it was even formed. Lawyers don't treat each other like that." "They don't?" "Not unless they're in a bad TV movie or in Miami." "Oh, shit. I'm sorry. I thought. . . well, thanks, FLAL." (That's what they called me in High School.) "No problem. Consider it forgotten --and if you've sent any other letters like that out, you'd better come up with an excuse and get 'em fixed." "Oh, shit. I gotta go." |
Except for just two or three lawyers I pretty much got along with all of them. They did their job, I did mine. I actually learned a great deal from several of them. Usually the only issues I had was when some fresh out of law school lawyer would try to put on a show. I really enjoyed spanking those. |
If only Charleton Heston had invented the Internet, instead of Algore, it *would* be! |
Ditto. For example, in some threads I support IAMLEGEND and argue on his behalf. In others, I hate his fucking guts and hope he dies from blood loss due to explosive ejection of a massive kidney stone. I take each thread on its own merits or lack thereof. |
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i've never met anyone from arfcom. i don't hold grudges from a web site. i typically don't argue. i have enough stress from work as it is if someone has a problem with my post, screw them, i ignore them. i've received several nasty im's from people. they can cuss and fume all they want i'll never see them in real life. |