Posted: 5/4/2006 10:09:08 AM EDT
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OK I already know I am in the wrong here but I just want to see what some of you think about it. My wife wants to go on vacation with her parents next year. There are a few issues I have here. I really like my MIL and FIL, they are really cool and fun to hang out with. The problem is my brother-in-law and sister-in-law are going too. I hate large group family vacations because someone gets a sandy vagina and ruins it for the rest of the group. The MIL and SIL are always cold so the A/C will be set to 85F min. and in the southern heat/humidity that is unacceptable. The other thing is we are going somewhere I have no desire to go, Myrtle Beach SC. I HATE those tourist trap places. Here are some flaws in my argument against going. It will be free (room, resort and some food). We went out west with my parents last year (on our dime though). We went with the MIL & FIL a few years ago and had a good time. I hate to send the wife off with them. That just seem rude to me. What say you? Should I just suck it up and go or say I’m not going? |
| I say go and once you are there visit the Bass Pro down there, even though it is a tourist trap, there are still plenty of things to do away from the crowd. If you say busy enough, you will only probably meet up with your group every now and then to eat and sleep. |
I would just go and try not to say or do anything to antagonize anyone or anybody. If the wife is on better terms just let her do the talking. Don't talk about stuff that rile them, so I would talk about the weather, or other BS just to pass the time. |
+1 Go. Get a seperate room for your family . Pay for it yourself. Set aside some days for just you, your wife and kids. That way you can set the air to 72. Have fun. Don't forget to rent a charter boat and go fishing! |
There is not an option for a separate room. That is the whole thing they are getting a condo. I kind of do have a sandy mangina over this, I thought I made that clear. I understand the 'taking one for the team' thing and I know what I should do. Thing is hate wasting a weeks vacation doing something I really hate. Maybe I can get a new job by then and won't have enough vacation to take then. The last time this was tried everyone bent over backwards for the BIL & SIL and they messed up the schedule pretty bad and then at the last minute they backed out. I get along with them so so but I don't think I could handle a week with them because everything will have to be group activity and there is a massive competition between them and my wife and I. The odd thing about that is my wife and I don't play along and that seems to make it worse for some reason. My wife and I are pretty well off but they kind of struggle a bit and I think there is some jealousy or something though nothing has ever been outright said but some of the vibes are clear. We are also politically opposite and those conversations never go well because the MIL and FIL see things the way I do. When all is said and done I will probably be going. 
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Here's where you really screwed yourself. I would have said "no" without question, but you owe her now. I don't understand this "vacationing with extended family". It seems to take the "getting away from it all" away from vacation. |
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Ive gone on two vacations w/ the "inlaws". Both were 24hr strait through driving(never again I swear to you) each way. Basically 6 of us fit into a mid 90s suburban and drive to out destination, stay in a cheap hotel, go to all the tourist traps and crap. What annoys me is that we can never do anything out of the ordinary. For example we eat at Mcdonalds, Dennys, KFC, and any other all american staple. Now its not every day that I can eat real deal Texas BBQ so I better sure as hell soak it up when Im there but no I didnt get the chance. Her dad is very meat and potatos never tries anything new guy. SO we eat basic food. Another thing is activiites. On the one trip we went on a cruise after driving to mobile, alabama and got down to playa del carmen, Mexico. I have been there 16 times(cancun and all the way down the coast) and know the place like my second home. But we have to do the tourist junk and go on the gringo mini trips. We went to a waterpark(xelha for those of you who know what im talking about) and lifejackets are optional. THe whole family can swim very well except for her dad. He makes us wear lifejackets so nobody dies. As soon as I got in the river I took the damn thing off and could tell he was mad but didnt say anything. His daughters soon followed and we had a blast but getting past those barriers are a bitch. Sorry about the mini rant there but you can tell from it that these trips have their catches. Good luck. Overall it will be a good time but you will without a doubt have sand in your vagina by the end of the trip. I know I did |
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I would never expect my man to go with me on some kind of outing like that. He's very much a loner type and no way in the world would I even suggest such a thing. I'd mention that I'm going off with my folks somewhere, and "you're invited if it sounds like something you'd enjoy", knowing full well he'd decline. If you're going to be awkward and miserable, you're not doing any one any favors going along. It's not like you're sending your wife off alone anywhere... she'll be with her family. Not everyone thrives on stuff like this. If my in-laws wanted me to tag along on their family "thing" I would politely decline with "I'm sorry, I just don't feel comfortable with group outings like this, and I don't make very good company. I hope it's one of my flaws you can grow to overlook", ie, take responsibility for being 'odd', but stand my ground and just not go. |
The trip with my parents was cool and she had a great time as did I. The trip with her parents to Williamsberg was fine, had a good time. I don't think this one is going to go so well because there will be too many players involved. On top of the people going Myrtle Beach is about the worst beach I have ever seen and the strip is just terrible for traffic and punks why people insist on going there repeatedly is beyond me. I have been to NC/SC so many times that I am pretty well sick of the place yet I will have to suffer yet another trip. 
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Go ti's the south There have to be some shooting ranges around, and given a touristy trap place, for sure there are some shotgun places around. when they get annoying, go shoot. You get each other out of each other's hair. And yes, you should go or the wife will probably do this: 
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