Posted: 6/11/2005 12:23:52 PM EDT
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When did it become so acceptable? In the 40s my grandmother divorced my grandfather and it was written up in the Baton Rouge news paper. When I was a kid and some couple divorced, it was talked to death and gossiped about as a scandal. Now it is a common occurance and hardly makes a blip on the radar of conversation. Both of my sisters have 6 divorces between them. I have been married to my one and only for over 26 years. Nearly all of my kids friends have divorced parents. Do couples just give up to easy? There are many reasons for divorce and I'm not trying to make anyone that does divorce feel like I'm accusing them of anything. |
| It should be even easier to get a divorce, it is not the business of the government to decide how a person should live there life, far too many people in the past lived in misery with ancient marriage laws and the shame of divorce that kept them together. Maybe it should be harder to get married. |
| Too many younger couples run off and get married, thinking that if there are any problems, they'll just get a divorce. It seems like it's too easy to get a divorce these days, and so many people just use it as a backup plan instead of working things out. There is one divorce in my husband's entire family, and it is a very taboo subject to talk about. Huge scandal. Hush hush. Under the rug it goes... |
As a divorce veteren I am not a fan of it myself, however in my case I was in danger due to a psyco wife that needed serious medical help. She refused the help so I packed it up and left. Now I am with a great girl and we are thinking about doing a double wedding with another couple on some beach some where.
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People marry the wrong people. Nobody seems to understand how to pick a spouse anymore; spouses are chosen based on the wrong criteria:looks, finances, social status, name, and so on, instead of faith, integrity, work ethic, honesty, and whatnot. Then, nobody takes the vows of marriage seriously. Then, once divorced, people shrug it off and go make the same mistake again. Even worse, society has decided to 'accept' divorce, because we don't want to offend anyone. Nobody cares about anyone enough to tell them to cold, hard truth anymore; in current times it's deemed better to keep quiet and maintain the appearance of being freindly than to stand up and warn people of the consequences of their misguided actions. Therefore, society has grown numb to the horror of divorce. I'm not saying the above applies to everyone who has been divorced. I know some first-class people who are on their second marriages. I'm a product of a second marriage (that eventually ended....  ) myself. In a nutshell, though, people no longer realize that marriage is the second most important event in life (behind accepting Jesus) and they no longer realize that our spouses are supposed to be the person in life we love above all others, at all costs, through all circumstances. But what do I know? I've never been married....... 
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Yeah I know. That's all right. I've got too much to do anyway. Patty |
well spoken,ARowner. |
| One problem is we are a throw away society.The other is I will go thru hell to give my son what he deserves...a 2 parent family.I'm in a very loving marriage now but if I had to I would bury all my feelings so my child could have a stable upbringing.People worry more about themselves than they do the kids. |
Thanks for that. I'm not a bad looking guy but as I get older and wiser looks of my wife are getting lower and lower on the list of things I'm looking for. Finances, social status all that matters VERY little to me. I want to know what's in her heart.
And don't even think of expecting your wife to "obey" you. 
Aint it the truth.
Me neither, and thank God for that, cuz if I had ever married it would have been doomed. Now I'm almost ready. |
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I think that some people go in with the mindset that, "Ok, if there are problems, I can walk away." Marriage is a big commitment, and if I ever get married I'll be in it for the long haul unless I'm abused or something really serious occurs and it is in my best interest to call it quits. People don't talk about what they want, and some don't really know what they're looking for. My grandparents were married for over 40 years, my parents 23 when my dad died, and divorce isn't something that either side of my family has done (only two divorced people!). I don't look down on divorced people at all, because everyone's circumstances differ and I can't judge. It all depends on the situation, but I don't think some people are suitable for marriage at all because they don't have the commitment or emotional maturity. |
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Funny this should come up. I decided this month to move on from a long-term relationship. Have been living with the same woman for 8years. We used to enjoy shooting matches and such, but she's so fat and gross looking, she can't get around like she used to, so not much of that anymore. She doesn't believe in a supreme being and ridicules me (in those subtle ways women can) for going to church, exercising (5'10" - 160lbs and plan to stay this way) and anything else she can't be in control of. Because of the way she looks, no matter how "turned on" I am, when I see all the bags of cellulite, my dick drops faster than a cannon ball from the tower of Piza. I've never really enjoyed sex with her anyway, so no big deal. Over 10 months since I've had sex and I've come to the point I don't really care. She really wants it, but doesn't care to do anything that "might" keep me turned on (like wearing something, ANYTHING, sexy to cover some of the fat blobs) - I used to buy her underwear, nighties, tops, etc., worn ONCE the day I'd give them to her and never again- and I'm at the point I wouldn't care if she was having sex with someone else (she probably is anyway) as long as she leaves me alone. Sorry, didn't mean to write a tome, but sometimes people change to the point they are 180 degrees apart and wondering WTH they are living together for. She has the $'s and I gave up an engineering career (am obsolete now) to stay here, but would be happier living in my camper than with her and will confirm this shortly - of course, I won't be posting here very often once I do. Everyone who knows us tells me they'e surprised I stayed this long and that she's a "control freak", but you don't see it when you're living with it. Anyway, impending divorce here and no regrets about doing it. On the contrary in fact, thinking about it is a relief! |
| I guess in my case I would say that it is better to be divorced than to have never married at all. First marriage lasted 12 years, and the current one will almost make ten years before we call it quits. That said, I don't think I will ever marry again, but will simply cohabitate, which is just like being married without all the paperwork. Some things can't be fixed, and some people either can't or won't change. I know several people that are approaching 40, have never been married, and probably aren't very well suited for marriage. |
No. Over 50% of spouses cheat. In the past people would stay with an adulterer because the stigma of divorse was worse than the stigma of being married to a whore/womanizer. People have seen the light and realize that staying with a cheater is moral treason. It is better to be divorsed and broke than a cuckhold. |
Thing is.. sometimes hindsight is 20/20. A lot of people actually marry a decent person.. (or it seems to be one). Its only after the ring has been put on, the vows have been said, wedding cake has been cut etc etc. That she/he grows fangs, wings and wants to make you their slave (and not in the sexual way). |
He speaks the truth.
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That bunch of emotional underdeveloped.... probably only 10 sane ones in the whole lot. |