Posted: 5/28/2005 4:28:49 PM EDT
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I don't want to hijack a thread by a member who is going through a deal right now, so will pose this question in a separate thread: Specifically, if you are married, with kid(s) and one day the wife decides that this just isn't doing it for her and takes off, what do you do? Three things to consider: 1) Your kid(s) 2) Yourself 3) Her (Think I'll add a poll) |
Don't make me post that picture of the biggest river in Ohio catching on fire again, too late!   Seriously, the thing that got me thinking is that kids will watch how their parents deal with a split and learn from it. If dad acts like a wimp, then they will think that is the way that guys are supposed to act.  If this trend continues, we could be France within a generation or two. 
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Depends on the circumstances. Is this "the last straw" in a long line of issues or the opening shot? Having been through a divorce and from my other life experiences I'll say this: I don't stay where I'm not wanted and if someone wants away from you it's usually better to let them go. People should be together because they want to be. When one decides that they don't want to be anymore, odds are that they've got what they think is a better deal elsewhere or that they think *your* the problem. Either way, it's not likely that they'll change their mind and if they did there would always be doubt in the back of your mind. Opening shot? Find out QUICKLY what is at the root of it. Don't spend time dealing with the bullshit excuses and stories, just find out THE truth and make your choices based on it. Last straw? Lawyer up ASAP. The system is hugely slanted in the womens favor. The quicker you go on the offensive, the better off you'll come out in the end. |
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Yup , lawyer to the rescue.Dont think for a second they wouldnt do it to you if the tables were turned. Soak her for everything she has and then some!!! And if she shows up cryin for forgiveness in a few days/weeks/months.............stick to your guns !!! A solid relationship is priceless. A unpredictable,unstable,unreliable mother is not only worthless,its just plain wrong.  This may sound cruel.............but think of yourself first.............then the kids. Your children are precious,yes..........without a doubt............but you cant be there for them if your a wreck mentally and pre-occupied with trying to figure out their mother. I havent read the other thread about this and IM not sure I want to,Ive got simmilar issues of my own to deal with now and shit like this just gives me a worsening headache  Sorry for the rant. |
(this isn't about me, btw, just that I see this happening over & over again, on the board and with friends in real life - I wonder sometimes if this is TV & the movies actually convincing people that the grass is greener if they just abandon their present obligations) just deep thoughts on a Saturday evening... |