Who else is spending Thanksgiving by them selves? (Page 1 of 2)
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If I was used to it, it wouldn't be so bad! The curse of arf.com is real! Married 32 years and it's been almost 4 since she left and it's still rough! I need to take up drinking! |
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| You’re more than welcome to come by here. Traditional dinner at our house, nothing fancy. You’ll have to put up with the pups. |
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Originally Posted By Hillbilly62: You're more than welcome to come by here. Traditional dinner at our house, nothing fancy. You'll have to put up with the pups. |
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Been four years and it's still rough? You mean rough in that you have too many other women to hang out with the past four years it's hard to keep them straight, right?  My most recent crazy got too crazy so I've ignored her the past few months and she finally stopped calling and texting, my daughter's will be with their deadbeat mother for Thanksgiving and a few days after so I'll have a few days to myself as well. Might go to the coast a few days to fish, might just stay home and enjoy finishing some projects in the garage. |
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Our problem is we are a mixed family and like 8 different events over a week, week and a half period. One maybe two is enough for me. I guess I should be happy that I have so much family. If you were closer, I'd invite you to one of ours. My family has traditionally been one of those where if we know someone or have someone in our circle, who doesn't have family or Holiday plans, we always have or make room for guests. We'd rather be a bit more crowded than know someone we know, is sitting at home feeling lonely or left out. Some folks like that, but it really hurts some as well. |
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I own a restaurant in a small town. We always have a big Thanksgiving dinner there with open doors to everyone. There are several older widowers and bachelor's that come eat with us and play board games with the kids. Its a hike but DM me if you want to come up. Its suprising how many older people are out looking for an open restaurant that day. So we turn on the open sign and people always show up. Most even stay. Were having an old school flint lock shooting day the following day as well on the farm. Then the day after that is Deer season opener! |
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I had 5 siblings, only one of whom was worth a shit. I used to spend Thanksgiving with he and his family, but he died 6 years ago. Other than that (and a brief 2 year marriage), I've spent holidays on my own. I retired to a rural area a while ago, and a woman I went to church with uses the Fellowship Hall to host her extended family's Thanksgiving (large kitchen + lots of seating.) I've spent the holiday with them the past 4-5 years, and have an invite for this year, too. |
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Almost wish I was...gotta be careful what I wish for though. I told the wife last week the best Thanksgiving I ever remember was being on a business trip to Scottsdale, AZ and spending the day alone at the hotel room watching football and going to the hotel buffet (it was very extravagant) in the afternoon, followed by bar hopping in Old town in the evening. The good news is that the in-laws aren't coming though. Will be a very small group this year. |
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Originally Posted By tooly: If I was used to it, it wouldn't be so bad! The curse of arf.com is real! Married 32 years and it's been almost 4 since she left and it's still rough! I need to take up drinking! I hope it was said in jest, but no do not take up drinking. Sorry about your situation OP, that really sucks. Hang in there. |
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As an alternative, consider a community center Thanksgiving dinner. There's a local family who have hosted Thanksgiving at the community center; they've done this for 18 years! Also, they always welcome a strong back to help serve or clean up afterward. Probly better than being home alone crying in your beer. |
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Originally Posted By TOTHEMAX: Any close friends/family you can spend it with? No sense in staying at home alone drinking. I was gonna say, taking up drinking is like fleeing an Arkansas trooper who loooves to PIT customers: It only makes a bad situation worse. |
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Our sons are both having Thanksgiving with their in-laws so it will just be the wife and me. We will get the two families at Christmas. Every year the switch around. If we had put out feelers we could have got an invite from friends or extended family but it is not worth the trouble. With just the two of us we may just find a restaurant instead of fixing anything. |
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Originally Posted By Sovereign14er: I own a restaurant in a small town. We always have a big Thanksgiving dinner there with open doors to everyone. There are several older widowers and bachelor's that come eat with us and play board games with the kids. Its a hike but DM me if you want to come up. Its suprising how many older people are out looking for an open restaurant that day. So we turn on the open sign and people always show up. Most even stay. We're having an old school flint lock shooting day the following day as well on the farm. Then the day after that is Deer season opener! |
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Originally Posted By Sovereign14er: I own a restaurant in a small town. We always have a big Thanksgiving dinner there with open doors to everyone. There are several older widowers and bachelor's that come eat with us and play board games with the kids. Its a hike but DM me if you want to come up. Its suprising how many older people are out looking for an open restaurant that day. So we turn on the open sign and people always show up. Most even stay. Were having an old school flint lock shooting day the following day as well on the farm. Then the day after that is Deer season opener! Good job. That is awesome. |
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Alone but not "alone". I won't even notice, to be honest. It will just be a Thursday for me. I'm in Madagascar and my wife and kids are thousands of miles away. I'll see them in a couple weeks though and we'll be together through Christmas. I honestly don't remember the last time I was home for Thanksgiving. I spent a few at Army DFACs overseas and the last 4 I've been in Africa. I've spent most of my birthdays and holidays for the last 15 years alone somewhere, typically overseas. I don't even think about the holidays anymore other than for the kids. A few years ago I couldn't get home for Christmas with my wife and kids, and that was the first time I've ever felt lonely on a holiday. It would be way different if I was "alone" like OP instead of just physically isolated. It would be much harder emotionally I think. Especially if you have decades of memories on those holidays. Sorry for your situation OP, it really sucks. But like a few guys here have mentioned, try to find someone worse off than you and help them out - take your mind of your own problems for a few minutes and make the difficult day brighter for someone else who needs it. |
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Originally Posted By tooly: If I was used to it, it wouldn't be so bad! The curse of arf.com is real! Married 32 years and it's been almost 4 since she left and it's still rough! I need to take up drinking! |
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I have told everyone, friends, family etc I am not going to do TG anywhere. It's like I am committing a sin cuz I do not want to drive somewhere over eat and listen to blah blah. I am not mad at anyone I just don't want to. No other reason I did this last year. I simply asked myself to be honest to myself. Do I want to go? Answer; nope, nein, Οχι |
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I'll be by myself this year at Thanksgiving, and maybe Christmas too. Wife is on the left coast with her ailing Mom. She and her siblings will be there as they can, until Mom finally succumbs. Civilians think being away from home for the holidays is horrible, but we .mils have done this before and we lived through it. I spent my first three years somewhere else. Twelve more at another. I lived. Dad passed decades ago, and Mom passed in the same decade. Of my three sisters, one has passed, another and I haven't spoken since the '90s, and the third is living her life but we can still talk. I remember a kitchen and dining room with everyone there and the sounds and smells, but I don't dwell there. But a little memory isn't so bad. |
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