Posted: 8/4/2004 3:16:39 PM EDT
Well, I never thought it would happen to me, but next Sat (14Aug) I'm getting married to the girl of my dreams!! We've been together for just over 2 years and engaged for just over a year. Anyone have any last minute advice before I take the plunge and any words of wisdom for the future?? Thanks in advance. 
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Congrats tallguy! Words of advice from a guy married 11 years: Hmm. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't still be romantic and take her out on a "date"... A gift once in a while shows you still love, cherish and care about her. My wife loves it when I bring home one rose every once in a while, especially when she's been down. Learn the "Smile and Nod" routine when she asks if you did something you totally forgot to do (then go do it after she reminds you) Don't worry when you're 3, 4 years into the relationship and you're on a long drive and you haven't talked for the last 80 miles. It's okay to not talk sometimes, and anyway, there will be plenty of times when you're stumbling over each other's words to get them out. Just some small things I've learned. I hope your marriage is as fulfilling to you as mine has been for me. jim |
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(Jurassic Park)Sure,... 1st comes all the uuuhhs, & aaahhs, then ,...well then the screaming begains.(/jurrasic Park) I have no words to say at this point, please be very carfull, things are about to change for you in ways you never, ever thought they would. Enjoy yourself, &,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,(now drawing a blank, as my mind, & memory spins violently out of control. My whole life flashing in front of my eyes. A dual image of what I dreamed I would get, & what I really got, AHHHHHHHH!) Uhmmmmm,,,,,,,,never mind.  Added: did I mention it's my 14th anniversary today? no kidding, really. 
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I do stuff like stop and buy flowers from this little Cuban lady near where I work. She sells them on the side of the road and is not there all the time, so her being there on different days make it easier for me to get them spontaneously and the (future) Mrs. loves them. Her girlfriends are all jealous, because I often buy her jewelry out of the blue, for no reason. We've been living together for about ten months and do go on "dates" from time to time, just to keep the spark alive.
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NEVER!! LOL She's actually a good woman, she not only likes guns, but encourages me to add to my collection when I see a new gun that I like!!  Now if I could only talk her into buying me an MP5 A3, I would truely have all that I ever wanted!! LOL
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"Impenetrable in their dissimulation, cruel in their vengeance, tenacious in their purposes, unscrupulous as to their methods, animated by profound and hidden hatred for the tyranny of man. It is as though there exists among them an ever-present conspiracy toward domination, a sort of alliance like that subsisting among the priests of every country." On Women, Denis Diderot (1713-1784) "What we love about love is the fever which marriage puts to bed and cures." Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotics notebook "Marriage may be compared to a cage: The birds outside frantic to get in and those inside frantic to get out." Montaigne, 1588 "The poor wish to be rich, the rich wish to be happy, the single wish to be married and the married wish to be dead." Ann Landers "The most persistent hate is that which doth degenerate from love." map, de nugis curialum "Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards." Benjamin Franklin "Marriage is the triumph of hope over experience." Samuel Johnson "Everyone is guilty of thinking that there must be more - more excitement, more ego gratification, more status and more fulfillment - and everyone is innocent of the knowledge of what the more will cost." Merle Shain, Some Men are more Perfect than Others "Women can be divided into two types, those that you pay to stay with you and those that you pay to stay away." J.Paul Getty "I'm a housekeeper. When I leave a man, I keep his house." Zsa Zsa Gabor "Remember the Alamo-ny" Song title by Barbara Fairchild "If she's not happy, you're not happy. And if she's unhappy for long enough, you're unhappy with half your stuff." Jeff Foxworthy "Who does not tremble when he considers how to deal with a wife?" Henry VIII "Trust not the words of a girl nor yet of a married woman, for their hearts have been shaped on a turning wheel and inconstancy is their nature" from a fragment of ancient Norse manuscript "Marriage isn't a word - it's a sentence." King Vidor "The wrath of a woman is much to dread." Tristam & Ysolt "Love in practice is a harsh and dreadful thing, compared to love in dreams." Dostoyevski "Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it, you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left." Jean Kerr "No compass has ever been invented for the high seas of matrimony." Heinrich Heine "A guy in a relationship is like an ant standing on top of a truck tire. The ant is aware that something large is there, but he cannot even dimly comprehend what it is. And if the truck starts moving and the tire starts to roll, the ant will sense that something important is happening, but right up until he rolls around to the bottom and is squashed, the only thought in his tiny brain will be Huh?" Dave Barry, What Women don't Understand about Guys "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor Hell a fury like a woman scorned." William Congreve "A woman's weak and timid in most matters; the noise of war, the look of steel make her a coward. But touch her right in marriage, and there's no bloodier spirit." Medea "You are about to see the cold side of your spouse, a primal, hissing, bone chilling transformation... As you begin your divorce, understand that your wife is capable of saying or doing anything against you, or your children, to get what she wants." Lawrence Shannon, The Predatory Female "A married man is a guy walking a tightrope, balancing dangerously while his smirking wife and her amused friends pull and shake the rope." Jim Lockridge "Love is a deadly poison injected by black vipers, that crawl from the caves of Hell. The poison seems fresh as dew and the thirsty soul eagerly drinks it; but after the first intoxication the drinker sickens and dies a slow death." Kahlil Gibran, Thoughts and Meditations "Love... Fire and flames for one year, ashes for twenty." Tomasi di Lampedusa, The Leopard "A wife is a high-priced consumer item with no warranty." B.D. Rohdenburg "Ah, yes, divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet." Robin Williams |
That's like "yeah, I wear the pants in my relationship...she just tells me which ones to wear!!" LOL 
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At the alter, instead of saying "I do" they say "I used to, but I don't have to anymore!!" LOL |
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SUCKERRRRRRR!!!!!!!! Anyone remember what Sam Kenisin(SP?) said about marriage!!! The only thing that comes to mind is RUNNNNNNNN!!!!! UHHHHH UHHHHH!!!!! Ok yeah it's good for the first year or maybe some cases 2, but after the hunnymoon is over it is frickin OVER!!!! Say good bye too sex when ever!!! Say good bye to going out with the guys (she'll want to go now)!!! And after kids start shooting out like hot lead GOOD BYE MONEY!!!! But other than that man have fun with it you only live once.  stay single aslong as you can, if not party hard (I mean HARD CORE)the last night!!!!
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Well, I'm 32 and gotten just about everything out of my system when I was younger, so I think I'll be OK. But the Bachelor should be unreal!! 
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