Posted: 1/23/2004 8:08:26 AM EDT
| my girlfriend and i are thinking about moving in together (we've been seeing each other for about four years, two of those while in college), and I think marriage would be in the not so distant future. however, that would put a hurtin' on my wallet and i want to buy more expensive firearms. is this wrong? |
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Is what wrong? Not wanting to get married because you'd rather buy toys? Moving in together will likely save you money in terms of bills. Half the rent, less utilities, groceries are combined,, etc. I'll tell you what though, I let one girl get away because I was more concerned with spending money on toys than her. If your finanaces are straight, stable, and secure, don't let wanting more crap keep you from marrying this girl. What exactly about marrying her is going to "put a hurin' on your wallet"? |
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Tough call. You will have to look into your heart to find the correct answer. In order to marry my wife, I gave up scuba and firearms for several years. In fact, I have not resumed scuba. I wanted an AR15 since at least 1980, but I wasn't able to afford one until 2000. NIB preban Bushmaster A2's on the rack at the Base Exchange for $575.00....and I could not afford even one... [>(] It has been a lot of hard work and a few large bumps in the road, but it has been worth it! |
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I lived with my wife for a few years before getting married in Oct of 2002. It was different, but nothing bad. Having a serious realtionship, rent, bills, etc does play havoc with your "toys money." I went from having $700 extra per month for toys to about $200. THAT REALLY SUCKS!!! Our only child is a 1yr old bulldog named Winston. I like it that way!! |
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Quoted: Moving in is not responsible. If you are commited to her, marry her, if not, don't. That's bullshit. In this day and age of being able to buy a "divorce in a box", living together first is crucial. Trust me when I say you have no idea about what a person is like until you've lived with them. This goes for both of you, for all you know you may make her nuts with some of your habits. |
| Move in! It's a great trial run for marrage. You're quite young still and neither of you have established your 'adult' lives yet. Who knows what will happen while you establish yourself. If it works, get married, if not, the separation will be a hell of a lot better than a divorce. |