Yes, I know the feeling. I am only passive until I have to tell some hapless engineer his design will not work. The chicken chokers usually take it personally, thinking I don't like their design or they specified the wrong color when in actuality, someone could get killed if the design were built and used.
They just do not get it...their calculations "prove" the design works but what they miss is the finer details that are lost in the educational process. And the other is scale.
One engineer was dealing with a 1.2 million pound load and thought a W12X106 beam was sufficient because the span was short. Never mind shear flow...when I suggested a W14X211, he about crapped a cinder block because that would be TWICE as heavy. For a 1,200,000 pound load, 105 pounds of ste4el per foot of beam made a difference. Engineering school must be getting mighty easy.