[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Marriage (Page 1 of 4)
Posted: 2/5/2017 7:58:22 PM EDT
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It's not a word.
It's a sentence. |
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I tell my children I'll know I've done my job right when they grow up and DON'T get married, or have children...
Anymore all it is for is to feed the "family law" system, where the goal is not to resolve issues, but to keep all parties fighting and paying into the system... My divorce was a legit horror story. I'm not sure how I'm still here, I easily could've stroked out or had multiple heart attacks... I changed just as many if not more diapers as she did, but I catch her with another man in the house and I'm the bad guy???? lol |
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I tell my children I'll know I've done my job right when they grow up and DON'T get married, or have children... Anymore all it is for is to feed the "family law" system, where the goal is not to resolve issues, but to keep all parties fighting and paying into the system... My divorce was a legit horror story. I'm not sure how I'm still here, I easily could've stroked out or had multiple heart attacks... I changed just as many if not more diapers as she did, but I catch her with another man in the house and I'm the bad guy???? lol This needs its own thread! |
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I've been married since '78. Got her prego and back then you dove on the hand grenade. We were in marriage counseling 2 years later. We decided the counselor was more fucked up than we were. Had another daughter, then two sons. Very unhappy until the last 10 years or so. Much of the stress was brought on by our oldest daughter who has grown up to be a very responsible daughter and mother of her own 4 children. Younger daughter is doing fine too, married with twins and both sons, 30 and 28 are doing better than their dad. Older son is in business, single and taking down about $300K. Younger son is also single, but dating a med student, and is in an Orthopaedic Surgery residency. Bottom line for me is that the wife and I ran out of energy to fight. I step over piles of shit left around the house instead of bitching about it.
I asked my older son if he was a mgtow, and he asked me what that was. He finally acknowledged that he knew what it was but he was not going down that path. He collects expensive bourbon, drives a Mercedes (the first car he ever paid for), works hard and plays somewhat hard, less the older he gets. |
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In-Depth pre marriage counseling.
Google pre marriage questions...fill it out in writing...exchange the answers. Seriously, hammer that shit out long before you wed. You must have 100% understanding of what each answer means and the actions it will require. Money- who/how/when/permissions. Debts, assets... Religion- Kids raised how/school/church/who to go to if things go south for advice Family- Yours/Hers/neither...holliday plans/kids/involvement in your relationship. Cars Houses Work schedules- Yours/hers/stay at home/kids expectations on all of the above... Social circles- Yours/Hers/Ours...involvement in your life, drinking, partying, etc. Divorce- Discuss it in depth. How you see it going, how she sees it going, kids, custody, house, spousal support money...gauge her feeling on all topics. Sexual history- Find out now what he/she has done, will do, how they see it in the future, expectations for the future... Health- All health problems, genetics, ability to have kids, want kids, etc. Be specific and looooong discussion about all of it. |
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You make 50k working your ass off. She makes 35 working in a bank. All is good. 85k income. House, 2 cars, bunch of furniture.
Then she gets preggo. Income goes to 50k. Not same bills, like 15k more per year. STRESS. Then while youre at work, upset at your wifes constant nagging, some dude in your condo complex catches her fancy..............he's smart, attractive and caring. She bangs once and feels guilty. But the hot sex causes her to come back for more. Giving him better and hotter sex than you've had with her in years. Hair pulling, titty sucking, screaming orgasm smoke a cigarette afterwards sex.......... You get divorced. Judge says pay her 40% of your pay for 5 years including child support. Oh and GTFO out of your apartment. Your attorney looks at you and shrugs. Your life sucks. Sell your guns, truck, jet ski and you Dads Browning O/U you got when he died. Go back to eating mac and cheese. Your weekly paycheck is $300 after everyone takes their cut. 
GET A PRENUP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Or you could just choose someone who believes marriage is a lifelong commitment and that the marriage is more important than either of your individual needs. Quoted:
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...... Or you could just choose someone who believes marriage is a lifelong commitment and that the marriage is more important than either of your individual needs. Go ahead and bet 50% of your gross (not net) worth...plus the lifetime of slavery called "spousal support" that you get to pay forever. Enjoy paying your ex for life while she lives in your previous house, driving a car you are still paying payments on, sharing a bed your paid for with ber new BF...while you have to move in with your parents as a 45 year old man. Seen it...not keen on living it. |
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Or you could just choose someone who believes marriage is a lifelong commitment and that the marriage is more important than either of your individual needs. Quoted:
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...... Or you could just choose someone who believes marriage is a lifelong commitment and that the marriage is more important than either of your individual needs. because finding out you are irreconcilably incompatible AFTER you are married is so much better than finding out beforehand... Under your theory, people should marry random strangers and just suck up their displeasure. |
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I am reminded of a poem.
There was a little girl And she had a little curl Right in the middle Of her forehead And when she was good She was very, very good And when she was bad She was horrid When marriages are good, they are very, very good. And when they're bad, they're horrid. And if you have one, rarely can you truly understand the perspective of the other. Not all marriages and wonderful. Not all marriages are horrid. It just depends on the individuals involved. |
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I am reminded of a poem. There was a little girl And she had a little curl Right in the middle Of her forehead And when she was good She was very, very good And when she was bad She was horrid When marriages are good, they are very, very good. And when they're bad, they're horrid. And if you have one, rarely can you truly understand the perspective of the other. Not all marriages and wonderful. Not all marriages are horrid. It just depends on the individuals involved. Your posts are increasingly nauseating. |
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@hicksville
Wow. Must really hate your kids to say they are such a curse that they should never have any. Maybe instead of teaching them to be cynical and lonely, you could teach them to learn ways to make better choices and hope they have great marriages and families. |
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In the land where marriages are as disposable as diapers, I got lucky!
It takes time, effort, and understanding to make it work. It's not a convenience, it's quite the opposite. But if you both put in the work, add forgiveness, and more than a little patience, it's a great thing. |
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Your posts are increasingly nauseating. I could be harsher, but why bother? 50% of people are dumber than average, and that's the only reason I can think of that they really believe it's all just random luck and their selection criteria and conduct during a marriage has zero influence on the outcome. Then again, these are the same folks who judge how much shit to put up with based on a person's appearance, so I shouldn't be surprised. Looks fade, but a bitch is forever. |