Posted: 9/21/2016 8:08:44 PM EDT
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Hi all. I don't want to drag anyone down with my problems but I've come to think of ARFCOM as a community of like minded friends and some members here have been awesome friends to me even though we've never met and likly never will.
So, to the issue at hand I need help from anyone who can in dealing with suicide. My mom has always been unhappy and I think she has been diagnosed as clinically depressed a few years ago ( Since then she doesn't go to doctors anymore) Lately she has gotten worse and has let slip that she as thought of driving into a train. She has also made remarks about how if she could get a hold of my guns she woukd shoot herself. So the whole situation has definitely escalated and if anyone fits the phrase of lead a horse to water but can't force it to drink she fits it perfectly. I don't think she wants help and she wont seek it. There are some significant (In her view anyway) recent issues in her life which have triggered this escalation and her putting thought into how to do it is new. How do I deal with this? I've called life line and they gave me a crisis number to call and the cops are an option but I don't think it has gone that far yet and could make it harder to help her, but the situation may get worse within a week or so depending on if she gets good or bad news in regards to selling her house. I guess I just need to know from those who may have delt with this before. Is there a magic word or phrase to get her to accept she needs help and get her to see someone? Is there a silver bullet drug or something I should say or do that has worked for others before or is this as I think it is- just an individual case by case illness where there is no one size fits all solution? I feel like my depression and feelings of hopelessness is coming back with all of the dark depressing stuff around us. Thanks in advance for any help or suggestions and thanks for listening. |
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It is no secret that I have a neuro biological disorder called Bi Polar Disorder. I have attempted suicide at least twice. My oldest child killed himself at age 17. I know depression and suicide all to well.
The only magic words are to call the police and tell them that your mother is suicidal and needs to be taken to the hospital for evaluation. If you are serious, this is what you do. You do not try to get them to admit they have a problem. They have a problem whether they admit it or not. Get them to the hospital now. You have to shit or get off the pot regarding this. Your mother is no longer in the decision-making loop. |
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Thanks mate, thats what I was afraid of.
I'm so sorry for your loss and your troubles. I don't know you, but no one deserves to go though these things. Sorry mate. I'll have a sit down with her today and call the cops or crisis team today if I can't get through to her. I'll give her this one chance but I don't see it going well. She is with people now, so no immediate danger but I'll see her today. Thanks again. |