Posted: 5/21/2015 8:35:55 PM EDT
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First thread. Got trolled and I took the bait. Cool of mods to not smack my hand. Sorry.
http://www.ar15.com/forums/t_1_5/1750721_First_night_separated_____.html What a drag. Car has no spark, can't figure it out. Nothing but time I guess. Got nowhere in conversations. Just I did this and she did that. Wants a "few days" but that's not realistic. It won't work out. 
Think I'll make that decision for her. I'm not a yo yo and I'm not going to be put on hold for days that can turn into weeks. 
Thanks for the cool words and advise, my friends. 
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Been there, had that done to me. It will make you more cautious next time . . . which is a good thing. Whatever you do, do NOT jump into another commitment quickly. Enjoy life for a while. THIS! After me and my ex wife seperated I took a year off dating/hooking up. Best descision I've made. |
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Life has a way of being livable as time passes. Wise words. I went through the same as OP a dozen or so years ago, and at the time, I thought it would be the end of my business, my health, and my future. Things got better after that. Much better. I'll "semi-retire" in the near future. :-) I don't post much, but this thread caught my eye, Some of the Arf guys here were helpful (in Real Life) in getting through that rough time and I appreciate that... and them. Hope you, OP, find the same encouragement and support that I did. It'll be OK. Time really does heal, Move forward, and hang in there. |
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I posted in the last one OP. Truly feel your pain. Do you have to work this weekend? If not, go do something you really like.
If you need to hang out with some people, do something with your friends. If you enjoy some solitude, go fish or camp or something. Hell if you need someone to talk to IM me. We are practically neighbors anyway. 
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Damn, that other thread turned into a train wreck, no fault of yours. I wouldn't stand for left out vacations to see ex either. I don't see what the big deal about saying a neighbor is hot, not sure why that would even be an issue. Sounds like you're better off. Ignore the posters that tell you to get drunk and screw some strange, that won't really help anything. Spend some time starting some new interests and hobbies. Focus on yourself, you'll meet someone better someday. Hobbies don't have to be really expensive. There was a thread on fixing up a used jonboat. That would be fun. I'll try and think of some more. |
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Not the worst idea either. Quoted:
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Here's my advice, OP. Shut this thread down and open one up in Team where there is some sense of decorum due to the stricter conduct code. I can smell the trolls and assholes headed this way. Not the worst idea either. |
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Chin up my brother.
There is a nice 3 day weekend coming up. Go do something fun. Laugh, drink beer, put your toes into some warm water, go tubing with friends, just do anything besides sit around the house and feel glum. Everything has a season right? A time to live, a time to love etc. There will be more seasons ahead in your life. Just remember that God loves you. The Earth is a beautiful place. You are loved by your family and friends. Most importantly, the sun will come up tomorrow. Now go forth and revel in your time. 
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| Women are straight up crazy anymore. At least Americans. They demand the fairytale but that is just not possible. I'm currently working through counseling with mine, but each day I lose a little bit of drive to save it. Looking through tinder myself, but not touching. It's interesting the mindset of single women nowadays. If my current one doesn't work out I don't think I will remarry, I will just have fun while I'm still alive. If you need to talk privately feel free to pm me. |
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Damn, that other thread turned into a train wreck, no fault of yours. I wouldn't stand for left out vacations to see ex either. I don't see what the big deal about saying a neighbor is hot, not sure why that would even be an issue. Sounds like you're better off. Ignore the posters that tell you to get drunk and screw some strange, that won't really help anything. Spend some time starting some new interests and hobbies. Focus on yourself, you'll meet someone better someday. Hobbies don't have to be really expensive. There was a thread on fixing up a used jonboat. That would be fun. I'll try and think of some more. I'm almost done with a huge rear end rebuild on my Porsche. Maybe on the road tomorrow since next job is a week or two out and now I have nowhere else to go after work.
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Here's my advice, OP. Shut this thread down and open one up in Team where there is some sense of decorum due to the stricter conduct code. I can smell the trolls and assholes headed this way. Not the worst idea either. I think there's enough balance of good and harsh, and I need both. Tired of being the lesser. Seems I could use a spine and hear similar stories. |
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THIS! After me and my ex wife seperated I took a year off dating/hooking up. Best descision I've made. Quoted:
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Been there, had that done to me. It will make you more cautious next time . . . which is a good thing. Whatever you do, do NOT jump into another commitment quickly. Enjoy life for a while. THIS! After me and my ex wife seperated I took a year off dating/hooking up. Best descision I've made. The best advice I ever got was "Don't do anything for a year". No new girlfriends. No new cars. Don't move. No new jobs. Dont do anything. Just repair yourself. Your perspective will change greatly over the next year. |
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I'm seeing gym / working out as a common suggestion. Last year I had a membership to a community center gym. I went like THREE times, and tried really hard each time, but was not getting the results I was looking for. Don't quit after three times, it take considerably longer than that to see any results. |
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Here's my advice, OP. Shut this thread down and open one up in Team where there is some sense of decorum due to the stricter conduct code. I can smell the trolls and assholes headed this way. This is excellent advise actually for a thread such as this. |
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I'm seeing gym / working out as a common suggestion. Last year I had a membership to a community center gym. I went like THREE times, and tried really hard each time, but was not getting the results I was looking for. A good diet is far more important. Skip the booze and fast food, eat less garbage overall. That said, if you make the right choices 75% of the time, you'd be amazed what you see happen to your energy levels and sleep patterns. You also need to have realistic expectations. With good diet and consistent exercise you can expect visible results in 3 months going to the gym 3 days a week. 3 trips is only a start. |
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I'm seeing gym / working out as a common suggestion. Last year I had a membership to a community center gym. I went like THREE times, and tried really hard each time, but was not getting the results I was looking for. Nope, gotta go 4 times. Sucks nobody mentioned that, you were almost there. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |