[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Never mind.... (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 4/24/2015 2:16:33 PM EDT
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Should've known better than to post on GD....
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I'm not saying I shouldn't take care of my woman. My mistake was giving in to the (her) idea she is my equal - which she is not. Don't take that wrong. In certain things she is smarter and having a different (emotional) perspective can offer insight that I don't get. But the bottom line is : she was made to be my HELP MATE. Period. 
That arfcom curse is pretty much much self induced most of the time. |
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I've come to realize that catering to my woman is a self-perpetuating defeat. Before I married I was already established - good job, house and cars were paid for (in fact everything I owned was paid for including my '98 Viper GTS). Then I met the woman whom - after being ill-advised from a friend - I married. And it started. I wanted to be a good husband...I wanted her to be successful, have financial freedom and ...well....be like me I guess... And so did she. And the fact is ...she can't - because she's all about instant gratification. And doesn't know the meaning of the word - sacrifice. Oh - she might hint at it when having to do something for one of our kids - but she always feels put out. Like a large majority, she has the Liberal instilled mindset that prettiest / biggest / more is better.....and she's ENTITLED to it after all. Now it has all turned to shit. I'm in debt up to my ass (and she is STILL not satisfied) and I am wanting out.. Don't think that I'm not aware this is my own fault and that this is God's judgement upon me. I either didn't follow His Word or neglected to seek His guidance. I got pu$$y - whipped and started using the wrong head. I'm not saying I shouldn't take care of my woman. My mistake was giving in to the (her) idea she is my equal - which she is not. Don't take that wrong. In certain things she is smarter and having a different (emotional) perspective can offer insight that I don't get. But the bottom line is : she was made to be my HELP MATE. Period. I'm to be the head of the family (and my life) - and she should have my back. My job is to love and lead....not give her everything she can bitch / whine / argue / manipulate me into. Yet she drives a WAY nicer car than I do.... shares in a gorgeous home on 6 - acres of beauty....hardly works...clothes busting out of her walk - in closet... Been this way since Adam fell for Eve's bullshit thinking she wanted to be like God - and Adam wasn't thinking apparently. In fact my story parallels the Garden story with the same result. I had it all - threw it away over some woman, and now will have to work all the days of my life. Idiot....... Sounds like you chose....poorly You know how guys always say hot chicks only dig assholes? It's my understanding that nice guys only fall for bitches. Some people just like being treated like shit. I'm sorry, but you were stupid. |
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It's time to turn your head around and see if she'll follow. If not, it's time to eject. LOL.... this is one of those scenarios where it would be cheaper to keeper. she clearly can't take care of herself and OP has established a high standard of living that she is accustomed to. Fucked, you're it. |
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I know what are trying to say, but you did a piss poor job of saying it.
In short, while you were hoping for a life PARTNER you have apparently ended up with a grown CHILD. You don't have someone to help carry the water, but rather, another person's water to carry. At least you admit that it is your fault. So now what? |
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So who's gonna ask for pics? I'm not- that would be rude.  Whatever happend to the emoji with the sign saying "this thread is useless without pics" without pics, we cant even judge if you were duped by a women we'd all want to smash (some badly enough to be willingly duped) or just settled for a 6 (and thus the root of your problem) seriously.....eject or start posting pics |
So how much for the Viper GTS? I'm sort of in the market and I know your woman wants new clothes 
As for your dilemma. It is incredibly difficult to weed out the women who just wants to stay at home and leech, likewise, woman find the same difficulty with finding deadbeats. In any case, this is why you must do a shit ton of leg work and root them out... of course in your situation it's too late. The only thing you can hope for is that she also wants out without wanting to take half of everything and request for spousal support.... |
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OP - sounds like your going through some rough stuff. Marriage is like everything else in life - sometimes it sucks, and shit doesn't go the way it should. I'd advise you to try sitting down with her & honestly addressing your concerns. Look into some counseling, and see if you can get her to take one of Dave Ramsey's classes with you, or at least read some of his writings. Not being on the same page financially is a huge problem for lots of couples - BT,DT. I know this is GD, but I won't bash you for just wanting to vent. |
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I'm not saying I shouldn't take care of my woman. My mistake was giving in to the (her) idea she is my equal - which she is not. Don't take that wrong. In certain things she is smarter and having a different (emotional) perspective can offer insight that I don't get. But the bottom line is : she was made to be my HELP MATE. Period. 
Yes, I'm sure that's exactly what your in-laws had in mind. |
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Im debating whether i should put OP out of his misery by editing out the post quote up there..... Quoted:
Im debating whether i should put OP out of his misery by editing out the post quote up there..... This one? Quoted:
I've come to realize that catering to my woman is a self-perpetuating defeat. Before I married I was already established - good job, house and cars were paid for (in fact everything I owned was paid for including my '98 Viper GTS). Then I met the woman whom - after being ill-advised from a friend - I married. And it started. I wanted to be a good husband...I wanted her to be successful, have financial freedom and ...well....be like me I guess... And so did she. And the fact is ...she can't - because she's all about instant gratification. And doesn't know the meaning of the word - sacrifice. Oh - she might hint at it when having to do something for one of our kids - but she always feels put out. Like a large majority, she has the Liberal instilled mindset that prettiest / biggest / more is better.....and she's ENTITLED to it after all. Now it has all turned to shit. I'm in debt up to my ass (and she is STILL not satisfied) and I am wanting out.. Don't think that I'm not aware this is my own fault and that this is God's judgement upon me. I either didn't follow His Word or neglected to seek His guidance. I got pu$$y - whipped and started using the wrong head. I'm not saying I shouldn't take care of my woman. My mistake was giving in to the (her) idea she is my equal - which she is not. Don't take that wrong. In certain things she is smarter and having a different (emotional) perspective can offer insight that I don't get. But the bottom line is : she was made to be my HELP MATE. Period. I'm to be the head of the family (and my life) - and she should have my back. My job is to love and lead....not give her everything she can bitch / whine / argue / manipulate me into. Yet she drives a WAY nicer car than I do.... shares in a gorgeous home on 6 - acres of beauty....hardly works...clothes busting out of her walk - in closet... Been this way since Adam fell for Eve's bullshit thinking she wanted to be like God - and Adam wasn't thinking apparently. In fact my story parallels the Garden story with the same result. I had it all - threw it away over some woman, and now will have to work all the days of my life. Idiot....... |
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Im debating whether i should put OP out of his misery by editing out the post quote up there..... This one? Quoted:
I've come to realize that catering to my woman is a self-perpetuating defeat. Before I married I was already established - good job, house and cars were paid for (in fact everything I owned was paid for including my '98 Viper GTS). Then I met the woman whom - after being ill-advised from a friend - I married. And it started. I wanted to be a good husband...I wanted her to be successful, have financial freedom and ...well....be like me I guess... And so did she. And the fact is ...she can't - because she's all about instant gratification. And doesn't know the meaning of the word - sacrifice. Oh - she might hint at it when having to do something for one of our kids - but she always feels put out. Like a large majority, she has the Liberal instilled mindset that prettiest / biggest / more is better.....and she's ENTITLED to it after all. Now it has all turned to shit. I'm in debt up to my ass (and she is STILL not satisfied) and I am wanting out.. Don't think that I'm not aware this is my own fault and that this is God's judgement upon me. I either didn't follow His Word or neglected to seek His guidance. I got pu$$y - whipped and started using the wrong head. I'm not saying I shouldn't take care of my woman. My mistake was giving in to the (her) idea she is my equal - which she is not. Don't take that wrong. In certain things she is smarter and having a different (emotional) perspective can offer insight that I don't get. But the bottom line is : she was made to be my HELP MATE. Period. I'm to be the head of the family (and my life) - and she should have my back. My job is to love and lead....not give her everything she can bitch / whine / argue / manipulate me into. Yet she drives a WAY nicer car than I do.... shares in a gorgeous home on 6 - acres of beauty....hardly works...clothes busting out of her walk - in closet... Been this way since Adam fell for Eve's bullshit thinking she wanted to be like God - and Adam wasn't thinking apparently. In fact my story parallels the Garden story with the same result. I had it all - threw it away over some woman, and now will have to work all the days of my life. Idiot....... Yep that's the one |
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This one? Quoted:
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Im debating whether i should put OP out of his misery by editing out the post quote up there..... This one? Quoted:
I've come to realize that catering to my woman is a self-perpetuating defeat. Before I married I was already established - good job, house and cars were paid for (in fact everything I owned was paid for including my '98 Viper GTS). Then I met the woman whom - after being ill-advised from a friend - I married. And it started. I wanted to be a good husband...I wanted her to be successful, have financial freedom and ...well....be like me I guess... And so did she. And the fact is ...she can't - because she's all about instant gratification. And doesn't know the meaning of the word - sacrifice. Oh - she might hint at it when having to do something for one of our kids - but she always feels put out. Like a large majority, she has the Liberal instilled mindset that prettiest / biggest / more is better.....and she's ENTITLED to it after all. Now it has all turned to shit. I'm in debt up to my ass (and she is STILL not satisfied) and I am wanting out.. Don't think that I'm not aware this is my own fault and that this is God's judgement upon me. I either didn't follow His Word or neglected to seek His guidance. I got pu$$y - whipped and started using the wrong head. I'm not saying I shouldn't take care of my woman. My mistake was giving in to the (her) idea she is my equal - which she is not. Don't take that wrong. In certain things she is smarter and having a different (emotional) perspective can offer insight that I don't get. But the bottom line is : she was made to be my HELP MATE. Period. I'm to be the head of the family (and my life) - and she should have my back. My job is to love and lead....not give her everything she can bitch / whine / argue / manipulate me into. Yet she drives a WAY nicer car than I do.... shares in a gorgeous home on 6 - acres of beauty....hardly works...clothes busting out of her walk - in closet... Been this way since Adam fell for Eve's bullshit thinking she wanted to be like God - and Adam wasn't thinking apparently. In fact my story parallels the Garden story with the same result. I had it all - threw it away over some woman, and now will have to work all the days of my life. Idiot....... 
fucking nailed it, dude! |
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So how much for the Viper GTS? I'm sort of in the market and I know your woman wants new clothes
As for your dilemma. It is incredibly difficult to weed out the women who just wants to stay at home and leech, likewise, woman find the same difficulty with finding deadbeats. In any case, this is why you must do a shit ton of leg work and root them out... of course in your situation it's too late. The only thing you can hope for is that she also wants out without wanting to take half of everything and request for spousal support.... Really? Who the hell actually wants a Viper GTS? 
I could think of at least a dozen other cars to spend some coin on. |
My wife is my best friend. She's my pass-out-afterwards hot sex partner. She's an AWESOME step-mom to my kids. She's her own person, but more often than not rolls with things my way because I'm much more headstrong than she is about most things. She's a pleasure to go through life with. She's not perfect. On occasion, a day comes along when we are not one and I need some space from her (and she the same with me). But that's normal for two different human beings -- one being male and one being female. I don't look at her as my "help mate". Most of the time I look at her as an "angel" who makes me a better, happier person than I could be without her. Unlike my ex, she's not dead weight that drags me back down to earth. She really is the wind beneath my wings. She couldn't be everything that she is, while just being my "slave". She's a true blessing to me. And I thank God that she and I were put on intersecting paths. 
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