[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Truth? (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 8/29/2013 5:49:04 AM EDT
| How does one feel when being lied to? What do you consider to be lies? Answers from both men and women are encouraged, please. |
Op should have posted this in team to avoid the dogpile. OP is apparently married. Marriages, the good ones at least, are built on a foundation of love, TRUST, and respect. Being lied to, even about minor things does not impart trust in your spouse. After all, if they lie about the little things, they certainly will lie or play semantics about the bigger ones. |
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Some people just love to lie. I don't know if it's just a bad habit, or fills some deep seated psychological need, but some people are like that.
Others learn that lying is the best policy to keep the peace, or limit their own personal aggravation. Sounds like it was your husband lying? Context is everything. Was it something he just didn't want to be nagged about? Maybe he thought you would react with negativity and just didn't want to hear it? It's impossible to comment further without you being more specific. |
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I don't care either way. I have a friend that used to lie just to lie. If you asked him what he had for lunch, he would say a hamburger when he actually had a taco. We knew he was full of it and so did he. We remained friends. Now being married to someone like that might cause some problems.
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Cannot stand when people lie to build themselves up. Have a cop buddy that does it a ton and it is irritating. How does the old saying go... "Ya ain't gotta lie to kick it"
With my spouse? You lie, you break down years of building trust. Unacceptable, unless they are trying to hide some sort of surprise party, being the only exception that comes to mind. |
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Quoted: Thanks for the input. I am not married for the record lol. Have no idea why, but was requested to use "Mrs". Guess we will see how things go! If a person has self-esteem issues, they may lie to make themselves appear more interesting. Other times, the lie is pure deception. I feel that the truth may sting, but a lie cuts forever. |
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How does one feel when being lied to? I, myself, feel it can seriously affect one's relationship. Lying about things that would ultimately make no difference in the relationship...where is the significance in that? Thinking you are with someone you can see yourself with for a long time and finding out specifics were stated incorrectly to you on purpose? Hmmmmm....makes me think about lots of things...what else is not as it seems? Worries about my personal health? Answers from both men and women are encouraged, please. Gunna need pics to evaluate. |
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My ex-wife would lie about any little thing if she thought it would make her life easier. That's a big part of why she is an ex. Now I do not tolerate lying one bit. I've even told the current girlfriend that if I feel I am being lied to then I'm walking away from the relationship. I much rather be single than be in a relationship with someone that lies even if it is just about the small things. |
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How does one feel when being lied to? I, myself, feel it can seriously affect one's relationship. Lying about things that would ultimately make no difference in the relationship...where is the significance in that? Thinking you are with someone you can see yourself with for a long time and finding out specifics were stated incorrectly to you on purpose? Hmmmmm....makes me think about lots of things...what else is not as it seems? Worries about my personal health? Answers from both men and women are encouraged, please. [s] Nevermind. If you surround yourself with people that lie to you on a regular basis you need different friends |
