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Posted: 6/26/2013 8:19:19 PM EDT

Over 40 years ago and 2 marriages ago I broke up with a women because I did not think I loved her. Now I realize that she may have been the only one I really loved. Is that possible this many years later or is it just a fantasy?? Pretty fucking sad isn't it??

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:21:03 PM EDT

[#1]

ib4trainwreck

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:21:50 PM EDT

[#2]

Yes.

(based on title, not into my marriage)

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:23:18 PM EDT

[#3]

Yes.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:24:56 PM EDT

[#4]

Yes

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:25:55 PM EDT

[#5]

From a BTDT perspective, you are only "remembering" what you perceive now what your relationship was then.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:26:35 PM EDT

[#6]

i did realize that , fortunately for me, she is my best friend, and about 6 months ago, i had the opportunity to make it right, we have been dating since the beginning of december.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:27:32 PM EDT

[#7]

Yes

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:28:29 PM EDT

[#8]

Grass is greener...it's an illusion...

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:28:48 PM EDT

[#9]

Quoted:
From a BTDT perspective, you are only "remembering" what you perceive now what your relationship was then.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:30:02 PM EDT

[#10]

I would say "yes," but I'm not really sure I know what love is. Well, actually, love is just a chemical process in the brain. So, yes, I have experienced this chemical imbalance called love.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:30:12 PM EDT

[#11]

It always happens. Especially if you go a long time between good relationships.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:31:08 PM EDT

[#12]

It's a fantasy. Our brains for the most part are set up to only remember the good. Unless you experience a shit ton of bad then you get PTSD.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:32:16 PM EDT

[#13]

Quoted:
From a BTDT perspective, you are only "remembering" what you perceive now what your relationship was then.

Yes

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:33:25 PM EDT

[#14]

Yes

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:34:05 PM EDT

[#15]

It's all in your head. Really.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:34:41 PM EDT

[#16]

Just hump your fist and forget about it

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:34:46 PM EDT

[#17]

Quoted:
It's all in your head. Really.

This.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:38:48 PM EDT

[#18]

Let me get a razor blade before I read this.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:46:35 PM EDT

[#19]

Kinda sorta relevant song?

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:48:22 PM EDT

[#20]

Quoted:

Quoted:
From a BTDT perspective, you are only "remembering" what you perceive now what your relationship was then.

Yes

This x 1000

Even if my some miracle you were to get back with this woman, it would would be two completely different people in a different relationship.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:49:28 PM EDT

[#21]

Yes, but she was with another man, so I walked away. I still see her now and than, but if you can "turn it off" than it isn't so bad.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:54:14 PM EDT

[#22]

Been in lust.

I wish I had said something to her.

She's getting married within the month.

Posted: 6/26/2013 8:58:56 PM EDT

[#23]

Very possible, especially if you don't meet someone else to fill that void.

Remember though you are never alone. If you want to see your best friend, look in the mirror.

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:02:54 PM EDT

[#24]

Love is the triumph of emotion over intellect. But I hope you find something good to fill that need.

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:04:20 PM EDT

[#25]

You're clinging to a memory.

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Posted: 6/26/2013 9:06:21 PM EDT

[#26]

Yes
But by the time I realized it, she had died of a heart murmur... She still haunts me to this day
I will always love her

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:46:17 PM EDT

[#27]

It's not your fault. . .

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:51:09 PM EDT

[#28]

Love is not a feeling that you fall in and out of.... Love is a choice you make!

- Clint

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:51:38 PM EDT

[#29]

It's because time makes you remember the good and forget the bad.

Chances are that she's still the same bitch / whore / loser that you couldn't stand in the first place.

(Man I miss her tits though.)

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:53:01 PM EDT

[#30]

Yes, then several years later it turned out not to be too late after all. Then I entered a relationship that was so horrible that I haven't been on a date since.

So yeah, don't worry about it. It was probably for the best anyway.

ETA: I do intent to start dating again eventually. But I want to be squared away first. I've learned that good grades and girlfriends are mutually exclusive, so I don't intend to start dating until after I'm done with college, am financially stable, AND own the minimum gun collection I could "live with" for the rest of my life.

Disregard females, acquire currency/education/firearms!

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:56:08 PM EDT

[#31]

YEP

Broke up, realized I fucked up big time, got her back (which wasn't easy), and been with her ever since.
I almost get sick when I realize how close I came to losing her now.

Posted: 6/26/2013 9:56:16 PM EDT

[#32]

Posted: 6/26/2013 10:23:08 PM EDT

[#33]

You broke up with her for a reason. It's not love. Just the thought of what could have been.

I've had similar feelings about my decision to not sell PMAGS at $50 a piece during the panic.

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:09:38 PM EDT

[#34]

Quoted:
Grass is greener...it's an illusion... Because it's fertilized with bullshit

Made that mistake once, not going to make it again with the current woman.

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:10:20 PM EDT

[#35]

Yes.

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:15:25 PM EDT

[#36]

I suppose it can happen.
It's easy to fuck up a relationship when you are young and stupid.

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:24:08 PM EDT

[#37]

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:44:13 PM EDT

[#38]

Quoted:
It's a fantasy. Our brains for the most part are set up to only remember the good. Unless you experience a shit ton of bad then you get PTSD.

Good lol here.

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:51:05 PM EDT

[#39]

Quoted:
You broke up with her for a reason. It's not love. Just the thought of what could have been.

I've had similar feelings about my decision to not sell PMAGS at $50 a piece during the panic.

33rd PNI

Posted: 6/26/2013 11:52:30 PM EDT

[#40]

Quoted:
Love is not a feeling that you fall in and out of.... Love is a choice you make!

- Clint

I have to disagree with this statement. Only because when you find someone you "love", your brain subliminally gets attached to the person. It's not like you pick and choose who you love.
I love listening to Katy Perry sometimes, but I don't want to. Why would I choose to love music that I have to roll up my windows in my car to listen to? hahahahaha

Posted: 6/27/2013 12:13:15 AM EDT

[#41]

Quoted:
From a BTDT perspective, you are only "remembering" what you perceive now what your relationship was then.

this

Posted: 6/27/2013 12:47:22 AM EDT

[#42]

Quoted:
Over 40 years ago and 2 marriages ago I broke up with a women because I did not think I loved her. Now I realize that she may have been the only one I really loved. Is that possible this many years later or is it just a fantasy?? Pretty fucking sad isn't it??

Just a fantasy, you have problems.

Posted: 6/27/2013 12:52:35 AM EDT

[#43]

Quoted:

Quoted:

Over 40 years ago and 2 marriages ago I broke up with a women because I did not think I loved her. Now I realize that she may have been the only one I really loved. Is that possible this many years later or is it just a fantasy?? Pretty fucking sad isn't it??

Just a fantasy, you have problems.

Yeah for real, let that shit go

Posted: 6/27/2013 1:01:22 AM EDT

[#44]

Love is a verb. It is something you do.

Posted: 6/27/2013 1:56:09 AM EDT

[#45]

I now realize that my first wife suffered from bipolar disorder. I think that was a major reason she was really hot in bed. Unfortunately, it wasn't always my bed.

No, I thought I loved her. But back then I really didn't know what love was.

Posted: 6/27/2013 1:59:11 AM EDT

[#46]

Everyone has that feeling. We as men screw up. Live and learn. Treat the next gem better. Don't listen to all the hard ass young bucks above.

Posted: 6/27/2013 2:20:31 AM EDT

[#47]

No. Almost.

Posted: 6/27/2013 2:23:31 AM EDT

[#48]

Damn....Lay off the soap operas.

Posted: 6/27/2013 2:24:09 AM EDT

[#49]

"Yes, it's sad to say, you will romanticize

All the things you've known before

It was not, not, not so great

It was not, not, not so great..."

-They Might Be Giants

Posted: 6/27/2013 2:31:36 AM EDT

[#50]

Yes. Senior year in high school.....I went off to the Army. She went off to hang out with junkies and became one herself. Years later we reconnected. She was clean and we dated. Cutest girl ever. Half Japanese inkie. Betty Page wannabe. Turns out she had major mental health and emotional problems, no doubt to using heroin for years. And we split up a few months later. I still wonder what would have happened if I had a clue back in high school. If I could have saved her.

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