Posted: 2/21/2012 3:20:26 PM EDT
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me.
So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. |
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Sounds to me like she's looking for you to take the lead in the relationship and decide on its course. You need to decide where you want the relationship to go long term (if anywhere) and then let her know. /serious advice
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Sounds to me like she's looking for you to take the lead in the relationship and decide on its course. You need to decide where you want the relationship to go long term (if anywhere) and then let her know. /serious advice Pics not loading Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile This is kind of what im thinking. I may just need to change my attitude and lay it out there for her. |
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So you basically cannot have a relationship unless there is alcohol involved? Or and I missing something here?
If you want to have a relationship be honest with yourself and her and see where the cards fall. If you don't want to have a relationship with her be honest with yourself and her and see where the cards fall. This isn't rocket science! If you choose to have an intimate relationship hold her hand, open the door for her, help her with her chair, tell her you like her, etc.... This isn't exactly rocket science! You have the chance to loose out on a great friend or a great romance. Stop being a pussy and make a decision, just make sure it's the honest one! |
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. It will never work out in the long haul. Keep her as a friend and only get blowjobs from here out. 
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. A different method? It does not appear that you have been using any method. If you want more of a real relationship with her, then tell her that's what you want. |
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Drinking lowers inhibitions. In other words you are doing what you really want when you are drinking. Stop fucking around and start dating. Shees. It's really not that complicated. I agree as well, just trying to figure out a easy way to go from best firends for years to something more. Thats the weird part for me. Im not excatly the most serious person. |
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Just so you'll know that I might have some idea what I'm talking about, the 28th of March will be my 25th wedding anniversary. Being best friends is already at least half the battle. You enjoy each other's company, you enjoy doing things together, and you've stuck together through good times and bad. Tell her you want to go beyond friends, and explain it the way I mentioned it if you want, as long as it is all true. Be sure to tell her how much you care about her, and where you see the two of you in five years, and maybe ten years down the road. If she turns you down, will you be able to remain friends? Sounds like it to me, but you have to figure that out. You need to get this out there or it could be an issue in the future.
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So you basically cannot have a relationship unless there is alcohol involved? Or and I missing something here? If you want to have a relationship be honest with yourself and her and see where the cards fall. If you don't want to have a relationship with her be honest with yourself and her and see where the cards fall. This isn't rocket science! If you choose to have an intimate relationship hold her hand, open the door for her, help her with her chair, tell her you like her, etc.... This isn't exactly rocket science! You have the chance to loose out on a great friend or a great romance. Stop being a pussy and make a decision, just make sure it's the honest one! Well Put. I know what I want and im willing to quit being a puss about it. Im just wondering how to change from being friends to more. I basically do all the things you listed other than holding her hand. |
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. It will never work out in the long haul. Keep her as a friend and only get blowjobs from here out.
Hmmmm I also feel like this is not bad advice. 
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| This is a pretty hard situation, but as I always say: communication is key! When you talk about these sorts of things it is a lot better than keeping it bottled inside. You do not want to leave the situation unattended because it will eventually blow up into an even bigger problem than you already have. It will be a lot harder to handle once everything explodes, so it is better to conquer the problem before it gets any worse. I would say talk to your roommate and see why she hates your boyfriend and then talk to your boyfriend and see why he hates your roommate. It’s possible that it could just be an age-old tale of jealousy. Since you and your roommate are best friends, she might be envious of the time you spend with your boyfriend and visa versa. If you manage your time with both of them and maybe even incorporate one into an activity with the other, then there should be less hostility. If jealousy isn’t the issue, then talking it over with both of them, figuring out what exactly is wrong, then assessing it should ease the tension. If you still don’t know what to do when you understand the problem, let me know what it is and I’ll try and help! At this stage, my best advice is to communicate with your roommate and boyfriend. It may be a hard discussion to have, but I think it’s necessary. Also, if they care about you as much as you care about them, then they should understand why it needs to happen and why it matters so much to you that they at least get along and are friendly. You shouldn’t have to give up one to have the other. I wish you the best of luck. |
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Instead of acting like a pussy the morning after, act like a man and stop getting nervous and timid over the fact that you two just fornicated.
It's really not that hard. Instead of awkward silence just give her a kiss on the cheek and ask her if she wants to go get some goddamn waffles! Or man the fuck up and call her right now and ask her on a date this weekend. |
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Just tell each other you won't fuck anybody else and keep hanging out like you do. What's the difference? You like hanging out as friends and fucking. Sounds like a great relationship. Very true. its just awkward because we are so much a like. The booze helps remove the awkwardness I guess. Im usually in predator mode trying to get in the sack with females, but with her it is different for some reason. |
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Just tell each other you won't fuck anybody else and keep hanging out like you do. What's the difference? You like hanging out as friends and fucking. Sounds like a great relationship. Very true. its just awkward because we are so much a like. The booze helps remove the awkwardness I guess. Im usually in predator mode trying to get in the sack with females, but with her it is different for some reason. Man, that's love dude. |
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Instead of acting like a pussy the morning after, act like a man and stop getting nervous and timid over the fact that you two just fornicated. It's really not that hard. Instead of awkward silence just give her a kiss on the cheek and ask her if she wants to go get some goddamn waffles! Or man the fuck up and call her right now and ask her on a date this weekend. I do love me some damn waffles. |
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Man up and ask her out on a real date and make it known that that's what it is. Is she says yes then take the relationship to the next level, if she says no then if you are happy with the relationship you have with her now, leave it alone.
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Just tell each other you won't fuck anybody else and keep hanging out like you do. What's the difference? You like hanging out as friends and fucking. Sounds like a great relationship. Very true. its just awkward because we are so much a like. The booze helps remove the awkwardness I guess. Im usually in predator mode trying to get in the sack with females, but with her it is different for some reason. Man, that's love dude. Fuck. That would be a new one for me.... |
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Instead of acting like a pussy the morning after, act like a man and stop getting nervous and timid over the fact that you two just fornicated. It's really not that hard. Instead of awkward silence just give her a kiss on the cheek and ask her if she wants to go get some goddamn waffles! Or man the fuck up and call her right now and ask her on a date this weekend. I agree. |
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Just tell each other you won't fuck anybody else and keep hanging out like you do. What's the difference? You like hanging out as friends and fucking. Sounds like a great relationship. Very true. its just awkward because we are so much a like. The booze helps remove the awkwardness I guess. Im usually in predator mode trying to get in the sack with females, but with her it is different for some reason. Shot in the dark here, but I think that feeling is most often referred to as "love".
ETA - VBC beat me to it. Fuck not two of yall! 
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This is a pretty hard situation, but as I always say: communication is key! When you talk about these sorts of things it is a lot better than keeping it bottled inside. You do not want to leave the situation unattended because it will eventually blow up into an even bigger problem than you already have. It will be a lot harder to handle once everything explodes, so it is better to conquer the problem before it gets any worse. I would say talk to your roommate and see why she hates your boyfriend and then talk to your boyfriend and see why he hates your roommate. It’s possible that it could just be an age-old tale of jealousy. Since you and your roommate are best friends, she might be envious of the time you spend with your boyfriend and visa versa. If you manage your time with both of them and maybe even incorporate one into an activity with the other, then there should be less hostility. If jealousy isn’t the issue, then talking it over with both of them, figuring out what exactly is wrong, then assessing it should ease the tension. If you still don’t know what to do when you understand the problem, let me know what it is and I’ll try and help! At this stage, my best advice is to communicate with your roommate and boyfriend. It may be a hard discussion to have, but I think it’s necessary. Also, if they care about you as much as you care about them, then they should understand why it needs to happen and why it matters so much to you that they at least get along and are friendly. You shouldn’t have to give up one to have the other. I wish you the best of luck. I must have missed something or are you sure you posted in the right thread? |
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I was in a similar situation, minus the sex. Been friends with a girl for years, and everyone thought we would end up together.
Eventually we dated...sort of.... and the result was that she was not the woman I wanted to spend my life with. If we hadn't dated, I'd probably always wonder. ETA: The end result was that we're not friends anymore; I haven't talked to her in almost 3 years. But I think the reality is that this kind of relationship fades out no matter what. Whether you eventually marry her or marry someone else and drift apart from her, I think being close friends with a person of the opposite sex is a limited relationship |
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This is a pretty hard situation, but as I always say: communication is key! When you talk about these sorts of things it is a lot better than keeping it bottled inside. You do not want to leave the situation unattended because it will eventually blow up into an even bigger problem than you already have. It will be a lot harder to handle once everything explodes, so it is better to conquer the problem before it gets any worse. I would say talk to your roommate and see why she hates your boyfriend and then talk to your boyfriend and see why he hates your roommate. It’s possible that it could just be an age-old tale of jealousy. Since you and your roommate are best friends, she might be envious of the time you spend with your boyfriend and visa versa. If you manage your time with both of them and maybe even incorporate one into an activity with the other, then there should be less hostility. If jealousy isn’t the issue, then talking it over with both of them, figuring out what exactly is wrong, then assessing it should ease the tension. If you still don’t know what to do when you understand the problem, let me know what it is and I’ll try and help! At this stage, my best advice is to communicate with your roommate and boyfriend. It may be a hard discussion to have, but I think it’s necessary. Also, if they care about you as much as you care about them, then they should understand why it needs to happen and why it matters so much to you that they at least get along and are friendly. You shouldn’t have to give up one to have the other. I wish you the best of luck. I must have missed something or are you sure you posted in the right thread? I was thinkin the same thing. Cocaine is a hell of a drug. |
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. Why don't you tell her what you just told us? |
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. Why don't you tell her what you just told us? Looks like thats what im going to do. |
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Instead of acting like a pussy the morning after, act like a man and stop getting nervous and timid over the fact that you two just fornicated. It's really not that hard. Instead of awkward silence just give her a kiss on the cheek and ask her if she wants to go get some goddamn waffles! Or man the fuck up and call her right now and ask her on a date this weekend. This is the only answer |
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So you basically cannot have a relationship unless there is alcohol involved? Or and I missing something here? If you want to have a relationship be honest with yourself and her and see where the cards fall. If you don't want to have a relationship with her be honest with yourself and her and see where the cards fall. This isn't rocket science! If you choose to have an intimate relationship hold her hand, open the door for her, help her with her chair, tell her you like her, etc.... This isn't exactly rocket science! You have the chance to loose out on a great friend or a great romance. Stop being a pussy and make a decision, just make sure it's the honest one! Well Put. I know what I want and im willing to quit being a puss about it. Im just wondering how to change from being friends to more. I basically do all the things you listed other than holding her hand. Then start holding her hand, and stop chasing other women. Continue to hang out/date and have a great time with her! Talk about the future. Take a deep breath and relax. That's pretty much it. |
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Pics aren't loading for me. Exactly. We have fucking standards around here. Everyone one of these limp dick fuckers are trying to be the next Ann Landers or something. For fuck's sake, where is the goddamn testosterone these days? Without pics, there is no advice to be given. TRG |
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. Why don't you tell her what you just told us? Looks like thats what im going to do. Don't be a bitch. Right now you are alpha and she respects it. Post hte pics likea real man would. TRG |
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So I have a friend that I have known for roughly 9 years, she is a very awesome person. We are pretty much best friends and have been for a long time. This is where it gets complicated, we are both attracted to each other and just about everytime we drink togather she ends up telling me how much she likes me and wants something more than friends. This results in us having wild crazy drunken sex. . We have done this at least 5 times and everytim the next day it is just awkward. Its not that She or I dont want it to happen, We just dont know how to go from being friends to something more. I feel like we both know it would work and thats what scares her. I would like to be with her, but in the end I dont want to lose a great friend. Even though we have gone through this awkward situation more than once we are still very good friends. I just have different prioties with her than other girls ive dated. I guess I actuallty care about her more than just banging her brains out wich is uncommon for me. So what do yall think should I give up, or try a different method? whatever that may be. I dont have any pics right now so sorry in advance. LOL. You have already been banging her. WTF? Just hang out more and keep banging her and you are good. You are the one making this complicated. |