Posted: 1/11/2012 3:52:09 AM EDT
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so, I was asked to be the best man for one of my best friend's weddings.
I assume this means I need to coordinate the bachelor party, right? Besides the obvious hookers and blow answers - I've never done this before, what do I need to do, in terms of planning the party, like time frames and such? Does the Groom get let in on the plans, or is it supposed to stay a secret to him? thanks in advance for the one or two reasonable responses. 
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No set rules, depends on the person involved.
Mine was a week before my wedding so as not not have to show up hungover to my Wedding, my best man farmed out planning duties to my "More connected" friend who knew club owners in DC . My friend got us a private room at a club and 2 strippers , it was quite excellent  .
Remember 2 strippers is not twice as much fun ... it's 10x the fun  
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Your responsible for contacting and coordinating with all the friends you think he would want around . Pay for all his expenses . Make sure hes dead drunk all day and night .
Mine we went to Foxwoods had a limo shuttle , Got shit housed in all the clubs and bars , Offended plenty of women and just had a great time in general . |
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so, I was asked to be the best man for one of my best friend's weddings. I assume this means I need to coordinate the bachelor party, right? Besides the obvious hookers and blow answers - I've never done this before, what do I need to do, in terms of planning the party, like time frames and such? Does the Groom get let in on the plans, or is it supposed to stay a secret to him? thanks in advance for the one or two reasonable responses. I have planned 2 and attended more You are charge of everything, including payment, But the attendees should chip in to pay for stuff. You don't tell him a word about what is being done until it happens. |
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If you don't want to talk him out of getting married then make sure that it is a safe party.
I chose to be the designated driver for my friends bachelor party. We went to about 3 tittie bars and I only drank cokes. It was a bitch not drinking with the rest of the fellows but it was worth it not going to jail or worse. |
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so, I was asked to be the best man for one of my best friend's weddings. I assume this means I need to coordinate the bachelor party, right? Besides the obvious hookers and blow answers - I've never done this before, what do I need to do, in terms of planning the party, like time frames and such? Does the Groom get let in on the plans, or is it supposed to stay a secret to him? thanks in advance for the one or two reasonable responses. I have planned 2 and attended more You are charge of everything, including payment, But the attendees should chip in to pay for stuff. You don't tell him a word about what is being done until it happens. that's good to know. I have a few months to plan this out, so I should be OK. looking for something fun to do around here. |
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You can keep the plan secret from the groom but I would caution against it for several reasons. You don't want him to be unavailable due to work or other critical commitments.
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Your responsible for contacting and coordinating with all the friends you think he would want around . Pay for all his expenses. Make sure hes dead drunk all day and night . This point bears repeating. I've attended more than one bachelor party where this did not happen. The groom (to be) shouldn't have to fork out one dime. Sadly, this does not always occur. |
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You can keep the plan secret from the groom but I would caution against it for several reasons. You don't want him to be unavailable due to work or other critical commitments. Quoted:
Your responsible for contacting and coordinating with all the friends you think he would want around . Pay for all his expenses. Make sure hes dead drunk all day and night . This point bears repeating. I've attended more than one bachelor party where this did not happen. The groom (to be) shouldn't have to fork out one dime. Sadly, this does not always occur. I work with the Groom. I'm his supervisor. I can make all the arrangements to manipulate his schedule without him knowing. got that part covered. 
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I got married in August.
My best man/groomsman kidnapped me with the blessing of my fiance and we road-tripped to vegas. Left at like 2200, arrived in vegas a little before noon. small nap, couple hours of hard pregaming, the hit the strip. IIRC, we weren't in vegas for 24hrs. Fucking awesome trip nonetheless. the road trip was just as fun as vegas. |
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I got married in August. My best man/groomsman kidnapped me with the blessing of my fiance and we road-tripped to vegas. Left at like 2200, arrived in vegas a little before noon. small nap, couple hours of hard pregaming, the hit the strip. IIRC, we weren't in vegas for 24hrs. Fucking awesome trip nonetheless. the road trip was just as fun as vegas. that could be fun. we'd have to fly to Vegas, but that can be arranged. |
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We usually rent out a hall. Sell tickets and invite everyone he knows. We do a 50/50 raffle for the groom and usually whom ever wins just lets him keep all the money. Also if you have friends that like to play poker having a couple tables going and raking the pot for the groom isnt a bad way to help him out.
Local deli to cater it with things like buffalo wings , sausage and peppers, baked zitti, salad and bread. Plus we get various chips, pretzels and shit also. As for the drinking. We usually get 4 kegs. 2 common and 2 higher end along with some booze for shots, mixed drinks along with common mixers. It seems theese days alot of guys couldnt give two shits about strippers so Id consider them optional. |
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We usually rent out a hall. Sell tickets and invite everyone he knows. We do a 50/50 raffle for the groom and usually whom ever wins just lets him keep all the money. Also if you have friends that like to play poker having a couple tables going and raking the pot for the groom isnt a bad way to help him out. Local deli to cater it with things like buffalo wings , sausage and peppers, baked zitti, salad and bread. Plus we get various chips, pretzels and shit also. As for the drinking. We usually get 4 kegs. 2 common and 2 higher end along with some booze for shots, mixed drinks along with common mixers. It seems theese days alot of guys couldnt give two shits about strippers so Id consider them optional. some good ideas there. yeah, gonna catch flack for this, but no strippers at this one... Groom is a nice, respectful Christian guy, and it wouldn't be right for him or the bride to be. flame all you want, but we're probably going to do shooting/gambling/drinking/maybe a hockey game. arranging transportation is a great idea. I'm meeting with his brother tomorrow to work on some of the details. |
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You can keep the plan secret from the groom but I would caution against it for several reasons. You don't want him to be unavailable due to work or other critical commitments. Quoted:
Your responsible for contacting and coordinating with all the friends you think he would want around . Pay for all his expenses. Make sure hes dead drunk all day and night . This point bears repeating. I've attended more than one bachelor party where this did not happen. The groom (to be) shouldn't have to fork out one dime. Sadly, this does not always occur. just make sure if you are renting a place and selling tickets you get the money ahead of time, I got fucked out of nearly $500 once because of a bunch of no shows. |
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We usually rent out a hall. Sell tickets and invite everyone he knows. We do a 50/50 raffle for the groom and usually whom ever wins just lets him keep all the money. Also if you have friends that like to play poker having a couple tables going and raking the pot for the groom isnt a bad way to help him out. Local deli to cater it with things like buffalo wings , sausage and peppers, baked zitti, salad and bread. Plus we get various chips, pretzels and shit also. As for the drinking. We usually get 4 kegs. 2 common and 2 higher end along with some booze for shots, mixed drinks along with common mixers. It seems theese days alot of guys couldnt give two shits about strippers so Id consider them optional. some good ideas there. yeah, gonna catch flack for this, but no strippers at this one... Groom is a nice, respectful Christian guy, and it wouldn't be right for him or the bride to be. flame all you want, but we're probably going to do shooting/gambling/drinking/maybe a hockey game. arranging transportation is a great idea. I'm meeting with his brother tomorrow to work on some of the details. raffles are good money maker at the less crazy type of bachelor parties, get a few bottles of some high end liquor and few other nice things and you will be good to go. |
| I've lost track of how many batchelor parties I've been to. Exactly one had strippers. Frankly if the best idea you can come up with is strippers you suck at party planning. It's just lame. Figure out what the groom likes to do and work around that. Golf, gambling, shooting, skydiving, whatever. It's his party, not yours. You're trying to give him a good send off, not veneral disease. |
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Really there are no set rules EXCEPT that the bachelor pays for NOTHING that evening.
I was the best man for my little brother but his friends set up all of the plans and he knew about them. When he was my best man he coordinated with my buddies and it really was a "by the seat of your pants" kind deal. For 2 of the 3 ive been a part of (1 being mine) we ended up at the strip club. No hookers, blow, or private strippers. |
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Quoted: I've lost track of how many batchelor parties I've been to. Exactly one had strippers. Frankly if the best idea you can come up with is strippers you suck at party planning. It's just lame. Figure out what the groom likes to do and work around that. Golf, gambling, shooting, skydiving, whatever. It's his party, not yours. You're trying to give him a good send off, not veneral disease. Of the few I have been to, strippers havent added anything spectacular. In fact, at my BP, I told them no strippers; its a waste of money. If you want to buy girls, we can go pick up some whores. At least I know what I'm getting for my money at the end of the night. |
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We usually rent out a hall. Sell tickets and invite everyone he knows. We do a 50/50 raffle for the groom and usually whom ever wins just lets him keep all the money. Also if you have friends that like to play poker having a couple tables going and raking the pot for the groom isnt a bad way to help him out. Local deli to cater it with things like buffalo wings , sausage and peppers, baked zitti, salad and bread. Plus we get various chips, pretzels and shit also. As for the drinking. We usually get 4 kegs. 2 common and 2 higher end along with some booze for shots, mixed drinks along with common mixers. It seems theese days alot of guys couldnt give two shits about strippers so Id consider them optional. some good ideas there. yeah, gonna catch flack for this, but no strippers at this one... Groom is a nice, respectful Christian guy, and it wouldn't be right for him or the bride to be. flame all you want, but we're probably going to do shooting/gambling/drinking/maybe a hockey game. arranging transportation is a great idea. I'm meeting with his brother tomorrow to work on some of the details. Don't forget to stop at the strip club |
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I work with the Groom. I'm his supervisor. I can make all the arrangements to manipulate his schedule without him knowing. got that part covered. Just don't get in trouble with HR. 
Another tip: have a plan B. You don't know what will go wrong with your plans and being best man it is YOUR job to fix problems. Real example: we show up to bachelor party in Las Vegas after flying from the East Coast. Best man is told, upon arrival, that the gentlemen's club that he booked for our bachelor party has gone out of business.  After much scrambling he managed to arrange a limousine and VIP table at a different club but it was touch and go for a while there.
Moral of the story: be prepared.
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You can keep the plan secret from the groom but I would caution against it for several reasons. You don't want him to be unavailable due to work or other critical commitments. Quoted:
Your responsible for contacting and coordinating with all the friends you think he would want around . Pay for all his expenses. Make sure hes dead drunk all day and night . This point bears repeating. I've attended more than one bachelor party where this did not happen. The groom (to be) shouldn't have to fork out one dime. Sadly, this does not always occur. I drank my face off and ate and my brother in law / best man gladly forked out every dime . He was thinking about his bach party coming up soon which i will be retuning the favor |