Posted: 10/31/2011 11:58:02 AM EDT
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Been doing a lot of thinking lately with our first little one due any day now...
Growing up neither me nor my wife's family were allowed to have a tv in their bedroom. We've observed a lot of folks that put tv's in their kids bedrooms, even from an early age and it disturbs us. Is this the growing trend or what? |
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Don't do it. My kids have dark in there rooms and they all sleep great and always have. Weren't planning on it. My SIL's stepson is 4 and goes to sleep with the tv on.  My MIL does that and it drives me nuts as she sleeps on the sofa in the living room. Serious wack job. She stays up til 2am every night just zoning out before she goes to sleep and has to have the noise on all night to stay that way. I turn it off. Our son/baby has a radio in his room for playing go the F to sleep music. |
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Been doing a lot of thinking lately with our first little one due any day now... Growing up neither me nor my wife's family were allowed to have a tv in their bedroom. We've observed a lot of folks that put tv's in their kids bedrooms, even from an early age and it disturbs us. Is this the growing trend or what? My step got one at 15...mainly because we had nowhere elseto put it. It is not hooked up to the cable, but has an attached DVD player. |
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Our policy is no TV's in the rooms. However, in our experience, a bigger problem is with video games for little ones (4 and 5 year olds). My boys were starting to get into Angry Birds, and other internet games. After a short while, they were acting up more than usual. My wife and I put 2 and 2 together and decided that the games might be part of the problem, We cut them off cold and their behavior went back to normal within a day or 2.
My guess as to why: Video games can be very frustrating trying to get to the next level, etc. Little kids don't know how to deal with that frustration and they develop a bit of a shitty attitude. Some adults do too, I'm sure. 
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Been doing a lot of thinking lately with our first little one due any day now... Growing up neither me nor my wife's family were allowed to have a tv in their bedroom. We've observed a lot of folks that put tv's in their kids bedrooms, even from an early age and it disturbs us. Is this the growing trend or what? Not at my house, no TV in any bedroom. Daughter's wireless connection get shut off at 10pm. Oh the misery... 
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First post and all that. There is only 1 T.V. in my house. It is in the living room. And I like it that way. Same, and it doesn't get cable, satellite or broadcast input. Just round shiny discs or Netflix. So no freakin', annoying as hell commercials. |
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Our policy is no TV's in the rooms. However, in our experience, a bigger problem is with video games for little ones (4 and 5 year olds). My boys were starting to get into Angry Birds, and other internet games. After a short while, they were acting up more than usual. My wife and I put 2 and 2 together and decided that the games might be part of the problem, We cut them off cold and their behavior went back to normal within a day or 2. My guess as to why: Video games can be very frustrating trying to get to the next level, etc. Little kids don't know how to deal with that frustration and they develop a bit of a shitty attitude. Some adults do too, I'm sure. Same thing with the SIL's kid. Electronic stimulation (hand held games etc) is the only way he can be entertained. They never read to him or work with him to teach him things. We were thinking about getting him some lincoln logs or the big legos for Christmas but we don't know if he knows how to "play" and build things. Kids are missing out it seems. I didn't realize how lucky I was growing up! |
| My daughter had one in her room for the first 3 years or so before her brother showed up. Just for DVDs though, no cable or network t.v. She seems to be doing okay. Now the 2 of them have a play room with the t.v. in there. FWIW, they spend a lot of time outside. Yesterday they spent about 3 hours catching ladybugs. |
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Been doing a lot of thinking lately with our first little one due any day now... Growing up neither me nor my wife's family were allowed to have a tv in their bedroom. We've observed a lot of folks that put tv's in their kids bedrooms, even from an early age and it disturbs us. Is this the growing trend or what? I have 4 kids and one about to be here anyday now. None of the kids have a TV in their room. My wife and I are against it. I had one in my room growing up and I spent a lot of time in there away from my folks and sister. I regret all the time I spent in my room and dont want my kids to grow up that way. We watch tv together as a family and makes life more enjoyable. |
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You do what you think is right. You'll know when your little one is born. Don't second guess yourself, either, based on what everyone else is doing. Good luck!!!  best advice for any parenting situation right here. your child is unique, as is your family unit. parenting will come natural to you, it's like a switch gets flipped. no book or outside opinion can help you nor should it. |
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Our daughter has a TV in her room.. She is 8 YO but does not use it a lot. It is never on when she goes to sleep. It does not have cable or any other TV service. It has a VCR built in........she only get to watch a few movie a week on the TV. Control is the key!! |
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I used to stay up until the wee hours of the morning watching discovery channel in my room (back when it was still interesting). I did pretty shitty in school due to being tired and not really giving a shit, which continued once I got into computers. I tend to not watch TV now, but I tend to lose focus and peruse the internet quite often, but at least i'm doing great in college. |
| You want to observe every detail of what your child reads, watches and hears from others until they are out of your house. To let them have a TV in another room convinces them that it is OK to "check out" and leave you out of their life. Of course you wil have to watch a lot of really aweful TV and kids videos. You acall that being a family. |
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Quoted: You want to observe every detail of what your child reads, watches and hears from others until they are out of your house. To let them have a TV in another room convinces them that it is OK to "check out" and leave you out of their life. Of course you wil have to watch a lot of really aweful TV and kids videos. You acall that being a family. When I have kids, I don't think I want to observe every little detail of them spanking it to internet porn. edit- I wasted post 1776 on this |
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My son got a 32" flat screen for his room on his 13th birthday that we connected to a DVD player and basic cable. He spent very little time watching it, other than when he had friends stay over and we didn't want them being loud and hogging the living room tv with video games. When he did watch it, it was stuff like Family Guy, South Park, and the like. Door open, off at a specified time, or it's gone; he always followed the rules. |
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We started out with a TV in the living room. Daughter would put her toys all around her in front of it. Moved it to her bedroom onto a dresser with a Wii. She watches some programs, sometimes plays a game... not much. Does homework first, takes a bath, practices guitar, has dinner with us at the dining table every night... and used a laptop and ipad.
It's not the TV. Or the toys. or anyTHING. It's the parents. You. Parents set the tone, create your life and world-view. TV overuse is a symptom of bad parenting; lack of the word NO, or a lack of discipline. You seem to be aware of the problem; you care, therefore, you will not have a problem. 
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