[ARCHIVED THREAD] - advice please (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 10/25/2011 10:00:51 PM EDT
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My ex, who was once a member here..safeways1217 is now out of prison and off parole is trying to contact me. My protective order just expired and he wasted no time sending me a friend request on facebook. He's a lunatic and I am nervous about how far he'll go. Without a protective order, what are my rights to protect my kids and myself if he pops up or follows me , etc.?
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Document everything. Document his contact, document your reaction, document that you have made it clear you want no contact from him and any further contact will result in you reporting it to the police as harassment. I assume you have the self defense angles covered already? Carry everywhere you're legally allowed to carry and make your home as difficult to access as possible.
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Got your carry permit yet? If not, contact a local range or store (and check in your hometown forum here) - I'm sure someone can square you away quickly.
Otherwise, the law is there to prevent non-crazy people from doing things. It won't stop the crazy though... |
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He's already out? I remember when he went in.
I would at least make a police report. Then can't you get a new protective order? I don't need to tell you, but protect yourself and your kids at all times and do not let your guard down with this guy. Shouldn't there be something in place like the terms of release that he have no contact with you? I'm not familiar with a lot, but it would seem that it would be stated in writing that he avoid you even with him being released from prison/parole. Stay safe, and good luck Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Document. Document. Document. Contact the police officer whom worked with you in the past (or the unit that worked with you).
Get gun. Learn to use it. Get CCW. Get new restraining order. Ditch facebook or be very selective about who you friend. If you have mutual friends, watch out. |
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Yep, he's out. He spent several months in jail awaiting trial, only 1month in prison, 4 months in a halfway house..totaling one year. Then one year on parole. He has to threaten us to get a new order. I haven't posted in so long because I worry he's on here under a new name.
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Yep, he's out. He spent several months in jail awaiting trial, only 1month in prison, 4 months in a halfway house..totaling one year. Then one year on parole. He has to threaten us to get a new order. I haven't posted in so long because I worry he's on here under a new name. I don't know if he's 'active' or what, but according to his user info he last logged in 2 days ago... |
Pieces of paper do not stop scumbags. Hunker down and arm yourself at all times. Develop EXTREME situational awarenes...not nervousness. You are smart enough to know what you need to do to protect yourself and your kids, there is no substitute for maternal instinct. 
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take some firearms training courses so you actually are prepared to use your weapon. train your daughter as well and have a talk with the other kids about it. contact police about it just so they know. delete facebook. If he has a way to track you it will feed his infatuation. Ignore him completely. Probably stop posting here or ask site staff if you can change your screen name. This would seem like a circumstance they might allow it. |
Two years ago staff verifie d everything I said through arrest record. They said he would NOT be allowed back on ever. He also lied about being in the military on here. Now I feel sick. How do I get staff to do something about him being on here? Someone help please!!!
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Two years ago staff verifie d everything I said through arrest record. They said he would NOT be allowed back on ever. He also lied about being in the military on here. Now I feel sick. How do I get staff to do something about him being on here? Someone help please!!!Well, his account doesn't show up in the auto-fill when you go to search for a username, so I think the date there was when he last tried to log in, and it kicked him out. |
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Rape your 13 yr old daughter?'
Both of you should enroll in a self defense class. Learn the vulnerable points of the body and how to attack them. Both of you should also enroll into a shooting class. Arfcom member Ferfal from Argentina tells of a mother who told a rapacious individual that he would have to walk over her dead body before he could touch her daughter. That POS killed her before raping the daughter and then tried to kill her too (if I recall correctly). Does he know what school she attends and is her school aware that she may be endangered? I'm sure she knows always to travel in the company of friends and never to go anywhere alone. He should be a registered sex offender and it might be possible to have him arrested for messing (unfortunately) with some other kid, |
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What does it take to get a permanent PO? Attempted rape of a 13yo should be enough. WTF? Do you have family nearby? Get rid of your Facebook crap. Google yourself and see what comes up. You can remove your info from most websites. Does he know where you live? |
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I had a gf once who told me on the phone after we split up that she hated my fucking guts and was going to hit me in the face with a hammer next time she seen me. I never called her again. lol I suggest you take that approach when contacted. Of course, Im somewhat normal and it sounds like he is not. |
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I had a gf once who told me on the phone after we split up that she hated my fucking guts and was going to hit me in the face with a hammer next time she seen me. I never called her again. lol I suggest you take that approach when contacted. Of course, Im somewhat normal and it sounds like he is not. I think I just peed a little. Too funny |
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Quoted: Quoted: I had a gf once who told me on the phone after we split up that she hated my fucking guts and was going to hit me in the face with a hammer next time she seen me. I never called her again. lol I suggest you take that approach when contacted. Of course, Im somewhat normal and it sounds like he is not. I think I just peed a little. Too funny  |
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Yep, he's out. He spent several months in jail awaiting trial, only 1month in prison, 4 months in a halfway house..totaling one year. Then one year on parole. He has to threaten us to get a new order. I haven't posted in so long because I worry he's on here under a new name. Just be vigilant unlike you have ever been before. Don't take any chances, if you think he is following you, watching you, go straight to the Police. It is a shame how "Justice" works sometimes Cover all of your bases, I'm sure it is difficult for you. Refuse to be a victim |
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I don't think there are permanent protective orders. Mine was good for two years and the judge had tons of evidence that he is crazy. protective order, no.....Restraining order (Which will cost you probably over 1k to get a lawyer to do) and they are only as good as the agency enforcing it....Check with the PD about their policy on enforcing RO and ask if violation is arrestable behavior as a norm for their department policies. Just because a Judge signs it, does not mean that all agencies will enforce it with an arrest for first offence. Some officers give a warning, some a CT, depends on the officer unfortunately. I would invest in a good CCW , training, and permit, before I would invest in RO. RO when it comes down to it is just a piece of paper, and will not save you, where a CCW will. If you can afford, get both. -PC- |
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Quoted: maybe I'm way off but... I would think that him being convicted sex offender and trying to contact the family of his victim should be more than enough to get the police re-involved and at the least should merit a new protective order. You would think so, huh... |
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maybe I'm way off but... I would think that him being convicted sex offender and trying to contact the family of his victim should be more than enough to get the police re-involved and at the least should merit a new protective order. You would think so, huh... Agreed, What were the original charges, and what exactly was he convicted of?``` "tried to rape" is not a real charge. |
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Quoted: My ex, who was once a member here..safeways1217 is now out of prison and off parole is trying to contact me. My protective order just expired and he wasted no time sending me a friend request on facebook. He's a lunatic and I am nervous about how far he'll go. Without a protective order, what are my rights to protect my kids and myself if he pops up or follows me , etc.? You have a crazed ex con molester on the loose that you are worried about yet have a facebook page?  Contact a women's shelter or whatever they call the battered women's organization in your area. they should be able to tell you the law in your area about what constitutes criminal harassment, stalking etc. and the procedures to obtain a new order of protection and whether you are entitled to one or talk to a lawyer in your state someone tried to log into his account here on 10-24 |
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maybe I'm way off but... I would think that him being convicted sex offender and trying to contact the family of his victim should be more than enough to get the police re-involved and at the least should merit a new protective order. You would think so, huh... Agreed, What were the original charges, and what exactly was he convicted of?``` "tried to rape" is not a real charge.
Since when is attempted rape not a real charge? |
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My ex, who was once a member here..safeways1217 is now out of prison and off parole is trying to contact me. My protective order just expired and he wasted no time sending me a friend request on facebook. He's a lunatic and I am nervous about how far he'll go. Without a protective order, what are my rights to protect my kids and myself if he pops up or follows me , etc.? You have a crazed ex con molester on the loose that you are worried about yet have a facebook page?
That one was a big "WTF???" moment for me as well. |
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Got shovel? and lyme? and a good alibi. A good defense is a tough offense. Get pro-active about dealing with this douche. Get yourself a carry permit and CARRY. Everywhere! As previously discussed, dump FB. Dump Myspace, twitter, reddit, angry birds, hotmail, cable, GEICO, don't watch Oprah, and most of all get your ass moving when it comes to your kids and yourself; i.e. NOW! If you think you have sufficiently erased yourself, google yourself, then Bing yourself, yahoo etc... Once you have yourself covered, start getting pro-active about him. Google him. He better be a registered sex offender so his address should show up on the interwebs. Mark it and remember it. Find out what type of restrictions he has. Depending on how far you want to pursue it, being a predator is much better than being the prey. Find out what he drives (if he can in fact drive). His place of employment and any attempts to get to know people you know. That is the best way to reintergrate is to share a common person. Tell your friends about him (picture of him and what he has done goes a long way to cement it in their minds). You are only as vulnerable as you let yourself be. You can be the alpha-female that your kid(s) need right now. Don't let a little punk like this freak you out, you are more than capable of taking care of yourself, you just need to find the confidence in you to do it. After you do that, take the fight to the little prick. |
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Got shovel? and lyme? and a good alibi. A good defense is a tough offense. Get pro-active about dealing with this douche. Get yourself a carry permit and CARRY. Everywhere! As previously discussed, dump FB. Dump Myspace, twitter, reddit, angry birds, hotmail, cable, GEICO, don't watch Oprah, and most of all get your ass moving when it comes to your kids and yourself; i.e. NOW! If you think you have sufficiently erased yourself, google yourself, then Bing yourself, yahoo etc... Once you have yourself covered, start getting pro-active about him. Google him. He better be a registered sex offender so his address should show up on the interwebs. Mark it and remember it. Find out what type of restrictions he has. Depending on how far you want to pursue it, being a predator is much better than being the prey. Find out what he drives (if he can in fact drive). His place of employment and any attempts to get to know people you know. That is the best way to reintergrate is to share a common person. Tell your friends about him (picture of him and what he has done goes a long way to cement it in their minds). You are only as vulnerable as you let yourself be. You can be the alpha-female that your kid(s) need right now. Don't let a little punk like this freak you out, you are more than capable of taking care of yourself, you just need to find the confidence in you to do it. After you do that, take the fight to the little prick. I had lyme once, and it was a great alibi. I was flat on my ass for a week 'till the antibiotics kicked in. HoustonGirl, best of luck to you. If a time ever comes in your life when you need to shoot, don't talk. Shoot. |
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Two years ago staff verifie d everything I said through arrest record. They said he would NOT be allowed back on ever. He also lied about being in the military on here. Now I feel sick. How do I get staff to do something about him being on here? Someone help please!!!His account is locked. Attempts to log in are logged as "logged in" but his account IS permanently locked. Good luck with all this.
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Move.
Delete your account here, delete your facebook account. Seriously, this kinda social crap isn't worth dieing over. ETA: I went to a community college with a girl who had an ex like that. She sat in front of me. He strangled her in the parking lot. She had been waiting on a restraining order. Move away. |
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get rid of your facebook account aswell as anyones that you have power over [daughter ect]
be well armed at home..if you have a CCW be well armed always. if texas allows it like florida you can leally keep a firearm in your car [check local laws] if he shows up at your home and you fear for your life... do what you gotta do dont try and contact him to ask him to stop..any attempt at contact even negative toward him will just prompt him to keep it up. |
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Quoted: Quoted: My ex, who was once a member here..safeways1217 is now out of prison and off parole is trying to contact me. My protective order just expired and he wasted no time sending me a friend request on facebook. He's a lunatic and I am nervous about how far he'll go. Without a protective order, what are my rights to protect my kids and myself if he pops up or follows me , etc.? You have a crazed ex con molester on the loose that you are worried about yet have a facebook page? Contact a women's shelter or whatever they call the battered women's organization in your area. they should be able to tell you the law in your area about what constitutes criminal harassment, stalking etc. and the procedures to obtain a new order of protection and whether you are entitled to one or talk to a lawyer in your state someone tried to log into his account here on 10-24 And he can read threads anonymously. Searchable through google, if my past experience holds true. |
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My ex, who was once a member here..safeways1217 is now out of prison and off parole is trying to contact me. My protective order just expired and he wasted no time sending me a friend request on facebook. He's a lunatic and I am nervous about how far he'll go. Without a protective order, what are my rights to protect my kids and myself if he pops up or follows me , etc.? You have a crazed ex con molester on the loose that you are worried about yet have a facebook page? Contact a women's shelter or whatever they call the battered women's organization in your area. they should be able to tell you the law in your area about what constitutes criminal harassment, stalking etc. and the procedures to obtain a new order of protection and whether you are entitled to one or talk to a lawyer in your state someone tried to log into his account here on 10-24 And he can read threads anonymously. Searchable through google, if my past experience holds true. yes, a search of her user name will likely bring up this thread...and i assume he knows her username |