Posted: 7/29/2011 2:48:03 PM EDT
I just found out the news last night . Now it's " WE NEED TO SAVE NO NEW TOYS" comment[ V]
How do you guys convince your wives/ girlfriends to let you buy new toys??? Thanks |
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well I have no experience with a wife as I'm only 19 and I'm not exactly the type to ask my girlfriend if I'm "allowed" to buy something...but I do know of a theory my dad passed along to me. just pulling numbers from thin air, but say you "want" (you don't actually) an upper for $500. You tell your wife about it and receive the expected disapproving look and sarcastic comment. You then show her the upper you ACTUALLY want that goes for say $400. By first giving her the price of the initial item you don't want, you warm her up to the item you plan on buying. Theoretically.
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Same way you would go about making money without paying taxes on it. (Not condoning that)
DONT TELL EM!!!!! hahaha Theres only 1 key to my safe, she'll never know what was already in there and what just made its way in there!!! As long as I can pay cash 
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I got two more in the safe, because they are for him. One for each of his birthdays. And actually after I bought the second one for his "first" birthday, I decided I am going to make it a tradition atleast for a few years.
So I'm looking at: M4 (purchased for birth) Cricket 1st B-day next month. Not sure what's next, but in there he'll get a: 22 hand gun Bolt gun shotgun I'm not planning on getting him all the fixins for each, but rather a basis to start from that we'll build up together. |
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What you do is force her to watch the nightly news.
Preferably "The Drudge Report" online. Within a week she will or should be convinced that you need to protect your family as danger is imminent. This yielded me an AR and all the fixins, a CC pistol, and 3 months worth of emergency food so far. 
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set back a little each week...keep track of her purchases of new clothes, shoes, etc. in about 3 - 6 months when you are ready to order ___________, simply add together what she has bought and divide by two...this should equal just about anything you want and she cant say a word because if she wants to talk about spending money, then she has you beat 2 to 1.
You get what you want. She has learned a valuable lesson about shopping and will either keep at it, allowing you to do the same. Or she does not go shopping as often. You win either way... Congrats by the way. |
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we each get an "allowance" every week for our personal discretionary spending. This includes my gun stuff, her getting her hair done, etc. If it's not for the house, kids, or vehicles it needs to come out of that money. Just started about a month ago and it's working out well. We are saving quite a bit actually. It's interesting how much you spend when you are holding a debit card vs watching the cash disappear from your wallet. |
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I got two more in the safe, because they are for him. One for each of his birthdays. And actually after I bought the second one for his "first" birthday, I decided I am going to make it a tradition atleast for a few years.
So I'm looking at: M4 (purchased for birth) Cricket 1st B-day next month. Not sure what's next, but in there he'll get a: 22 hand gun Bolt gun shotgun I'm not planning on getting him all the fixins for each, but rather a basis to start from that we'll build up together. +1 I have a 3 year old daughter and a 1 year old son...they both have a BB gun (Pink for her and a Red Ryder for him), Cricket (Pink for her, Black for him) and I bought 3 Rock River Stripped Lowers with consecutive numbers so I/we can build up AR's for all three of us. I have a few more tucked away that they can have too but for now, those just stay "hidden." As for how do you do it......as it has been mentioned, my wife doesn't know exactly what I have, she just says I have "a lot." They don't really keep track...I don't keep track of her shoes and purses....As long as you can pay to take care of your child, then take care of yourself! :) CONGRATS! |
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Tell her she can't have new shoes, clothes, handbags, or a new car then either. See who lasts longer. It's almost always me. This. I had this conversation when we decided to save for a house. I got in trouble for buying a new optic, so I asked her why, considering that we make the same amount of money, have the exact same cost in personal bills (cell phone, insurance, etc.) and all shared bills are spilt down the middle, AND I have a small car payment (0% interest so I keep money invested instead of paying that off), but I'm able to save around $400-500 more PER MONTH than she does. I convinced her to spend everything for one full month on her debit card only, no cash whatsoever, and when we sat down to look at what spending she could cut out I almost lost my mind. I'll give her some credit, she's not a reckless spender, has no debt, and saves around $500 per month towards our house goal. But she no longer gives me grief when I get a new toy. As far as bringing a new gun in, my dad had lots of tricks that he taught me. Pack the car up like you're going shooting, but bring an extra, empty case. Go to gun store, buy new gun, go shooting, bring home in empty case. Also, bring it in in parts. Or, bring it in and say your buddy, let's say his name is Chuck, got a case stuck and you're going to try getting it out. Not tonight, though, because you're tired, so put Chuck's gun in the safe. Congrats on the kiddo. |
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The hardest thing to do is convince women with a bun in the oven that they don't need to buy everything right now. My wife wanted to buy the car seat travel system, crib, stroller, clothes, and a case of diapers to go along with the cloth diapers when she was around 10 weeks pregnant. It don't have to be.
You have 9 months. Don't feel like you NEED to buy stuff right now. Look for sales, clearances (we bought a crib at Target for $60), pick stuff up over the 9 months. If you do that, you'll still have some money to play with, but yes, most of the new toys are going to be put on hold. It seems strange now, but when you see your kid and you can either buy a case of diapers, or 100 rounds of .223, you're not going to mind choosing the diapers over the ammo. Believe me. Best bet would be to buy what you want now before the baby bills start coming in. BTW, don't get suckered into buying the travel system. Just get a convertable car seat, and a stroller. The travel system is a waste of money - it's useless after 3-4 months - kid will be too big for it and you'll just go out and buy the convertable car seat anyway. Cloth diapers are for boneheads also. Poured money into them for 6 months before saying "screw it" and bought disposable. |
| Congrats!!! Now you just switch gears and start buying stuff for the kiddo. My 5 year old and 2 1/2 yr old both have their own AR, and I am building one for my 5 month old. Just convince the missus that it's for the kiddo and never tell her how much it really cost. |
First of all Congrats!
Now to answer your question. If you don't have a good large safe get one. tell her its to keep the child safe from the guns. Then never let her see whats inside. tell her its a legal thing. just look up "joint use, mutual access" and show it to her. |
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Tell her she can't have new shoes, clothes, handbags, or a new car then either. See who lasts longer. It's almost always me. Definitely this..Women have their vices also. Along with getting their nails done, make-up, etc plus the above..I broke my wife in early before marriage. We have a joint account for bills, food, kids, and we put a set amount in every check. the rest is of my salary is used at my discretion and the same goes for her. If something pops up outside of known expenses, we split it 50/50..I make a little more than she does so, I offer to pay for family outings and fun stuff for the family.. |
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I don't know which is sadder......the fact that you're worried about your *toys* after just getting the news that your firstborn is on the way or the fact that she's telling you what you can and can't buy.
So I'll just say congratulations and that none of the stuff in the first sentence matters in the big picture. |
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I just found out the news last night . Now it's " WE NEED TO SAVE NO NEW TOYS" comment[ V]
How do you guys convince your wives/ girlfriends to let you buy new toys??? Thanks Grow up. You life has changed. It is no longer about you. If you can't come to grips with this, then please don't bring this kid into the world. |
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I just found out the news last night . Now it's " WE NEED TO SAVE NO NEW TOYS" comment[ V]
How do you guys convince your wives/ girlfriends to let you buy new toys??? Thanks You wait till the kids are grown up You are a Dad now, you need to put family first |
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Tell her she can't have new shoes, clothes, handbags, or a new car then either. See who lasts longer. It's almost always me. This. I had this conversation when we decided to save for a house. I got in trouble for buying a new optic, so I asked her why, considering that we make the same amount of money, have the exact same cost in personal bills (cell phone, insurance, etc.) and all shared bills are spilt down the middle, AND I have a small car payment (0% interest so I keep money invested instead of paying that off), but I'm able to save around $400-500 more PER MONTH than she does. I convinced her to spend everything for one full month on her debit card only, no cash whatsoever, and when we sat down to look at what spending she could cut out I almost lost my mind. I'll give her some credit, she's not a reckless spender, has no debt, and saves around $500 per month towards our house goal. But she no longer gives me grief when I get a new toy. As far as bringing a new gun in, my dad had lots of tricks that he taught me. Pack the car up like you're going shooting, but bring an extra, empty case. Go to gun store, buy new gun, go shooting, bring home in empty case. Also, bring it in in parts. Or, bring it in and say your buddy, let's say his name is Chuck, got a case stuck and you're going to try getting it out. Not tonight, though, because you're tired, so put Chuck's gun in the safe. Congrats on the kiddo. I like these...A whole thread should be started on the art of Gun Smuggling past your SO! |
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Tell her she can't have new shoes, clothes, handbags, or a new car then either. See who lasts longer. It's almost always me. This. I had this conversation when we decided to save for a house. I got in trouble for buying a new optic, so I asked her why, considering that we make the same amount of money, have the exact same cost in personal bills (cell phone, insurance, etc.) and all shared bills are spilt down the middle, AND I have a small car payment (0% interest so I keep money invested instead of paying that off), but I'm able to save around $400-500 more PER MONTH than she does. I convinced her to spend everything for one full month on her debit card only, no cash whatsoever, and when we sat down to look at what spending she could cut out I almost lost my mind. I'll give her some credit, she's not a reckless spender, has no debt, and saves around $500 per month towards our house goal. But she no longer gives me grief when I get a new toy. As far as bringing a new gun in, my dad had lots of tricks that he taught me. Pack the car up like you're going shooting, but bring an extra, empty case. Go to gun store, buy new gun, go shooting, bring home in empty case. Also, bring it in in parts. Or, bring it in and say your buddy, let's say his name is Chuck, got a case stuck and you're going to try getting it out. Not tonight, though, because you're tired, so put Chuck's gun in the safe. Congrats on the kiddo. I like these...A whole thread should be started on the art of Gun Smuggling past your SO! easy, the wife has no idea of what is in the safes, all she knows is i have a lot of firearms. if i can get it in the house the rest is easy and the conversation goes like this -
wife - is that a new gun ? me - [look of disapointment] um ... no .. i just don't shoot it that much wife - i don't think i've seen that one before me - i had it at the range, the other day we went shooting, but you did'nt want to shoot it wife - oh ...... ok .... well it looks nice, maybe next time ok ... me - sure honey ..... by the way ... are those new shoes ?
wife - um.... no ... [look of disapointment] me- i don't remember seeing you wear those before wife - i just don't wear them that often .... you don't remember the other night when i was wearing that little black dress ? me - sorry ....i wasn't looking at your feet wife - i guess i need to wear that dress a bit more often me - 
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To the few pricks on this site that was kind of a joke. I was more than excited to find out I am going to become a father! If I am unable to buy another toy for the next 18 years I am fine with that. Any advice to a soon to be first time father? They grow up fast and they cause grey hair.  So prepare accordingly.
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This is a hard one...We are all different when I found out I had a girl on the way I had a 215$ bike payment on a 2008 R1 and sold it about 6 months after I got it there will be other toys in my life later down the road but I did not need an R1 at the time so its all good I wish you the best Enjoy being a new dad. Mine is almost 3 now and we have a son due in 3 weeks.
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