[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Kids... (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 4/25/2011 4:50:36 PM EDT
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I just got home after spending two hours with a good friend of mine. His wife was off to work just as I got there, leaving the two of us with his six month old, and his two and a half year old sons.
Now, I'm 28, and I'll preface this by extending my most sincere admiration to any parents reading this, but OH FUCK NO. There is no godamned way I'm having children. Not now. Not ever. That was the most annoying 2 hours of my life. Every time he got one of them settled down, the other one would lose it, looking for mom. It was absolutely horrifying. His patience was otherworldly. I need to go scrub my brain with a wire brush to get the screaming out. |
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I just got home after spending two hours with a good friend of mine. His wife was off to work just as I got there, leaving the two of us with his six month old, and his two and a half year old sons. Now, I'm 28, and I'll preface this by extending my most sincere admiration to any parents reading this, but OH FUCK NO. There is no godamned way I'm having children. Not now. Not ever. That was the most annoying 2 hours of my life. Every time he got one of them settled down, the other one would lose it, looking for mom. It was absolutely horrifying. His patience was otherworldly. I need to go scrub my brain with a wire brush to get the screaming out. They "seem" to mellow out around 6 (IF I'm remembering correctly?) lol |
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I'm in a classroom with twenty-six 10 year olds for about 7 hours a day. I do intensive reading and writing. Many of them never had a male teacher, nor do many of them have male adults in their lives. I sometimes have to tell them, "You're annoying me," "You're not that special," or my favorite, "Shut you chocolate milk chugger and get back to work!" It's a shock to many of them!  They gotta' learn sometime! |
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I tend to agree with other people kid's...
My own however is pretty good. If he starts whining or yelling I usually just get into a boxing match and body slam him on the couch. Works out pretty well until he sneaks up on me and hits me with a hard object while I'm laying on the couch... Don't let anyone tell you a 2 year old can't do some damage....  
BTW I think my Son is a little more independent and fearless since it is just me and him and he doesn't whine for Mom or anyone else. |
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No kids here, wife hates kids I don't want them.
I'm encountering more and more people that DON'T want them and don't view having kids as a natural part of life like getting a job or buying a house like people used to, with reasons varying from the fact that they just don't like them to they don't like the world in which they will grow up in. I wholeheartedly understand and agree with the second reason. I'm not really sure why the first reason has become so popular. |
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My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me, seriously. You are the coolest thing in the world to them. You are Superman to them. You fix their toys, and take them on cool camping trips, and ride on 4-wheelers, and tractors. They look up to you in a fashion to keep them safe, and love them unconditionally. Sure they cost money, but in the long run, you might have someone to change your diapers.
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You may not realize it, but the kids could have been hyperactive due to the company. Things might be a bit more chill at your buddy's house when it's just them.
My kids bounce off the wall pretty much all the time, but they crank it up a notch when adult friends come over. Kids will fall all over themselves trying to impress visitors. I really can't imagine anything worse than two-year-old twins AND a baby, though. Thank God we only have two, and they are several years apart. |
| I enjoy hanging out with my nieces and other peoples kids. Could be because my wife cant have children could be because for some reason even the shy ones at first always come around to me eventually and we have a blast. My wife will be around shortly to tell me i am actually a toddler and kid at heart so maybe that explains it. |
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i have found patience i didnt even know i had after my son was born, sure there are times when you need a break, but i wouldnt trade him for anything in the world. he is 4 and im 27 I discovered a lot of my better qualities through having kids, too. I would definitely be a weaker man without the challenge. |
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The irony is...your parents once said the same thing. 
My parents STILL say it...
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You know even tough guys like kids. Maybe one day you'll grow up. Not wanting to have kids is one thing. Whining about it like an asshole on the internet is another. Calling people names on the internet is fun, isn't it? |
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My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me, seriously. You are the coolest thing in the world to them. You are Superman to them. You fix their toys, and take them on cool camping trips, and ride on 4-wheelers, and tractors. They look up to you in a fashion to keep them safe, and love them unconditionally. Sure they cost money, but in the long run, you might have someone to change your diapers. Yup., I wouldn't trade mine for anything. It's a lot work at times but it's one hell of a fun ride. I laugh at/with my daughter every single day. It doesn't get any better than an "I love you daddy". 
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I have 5 here and another on the way. 
You know, if you don't want them you shouldn't have them. They are a lot of work, and a lifelong commitment. If you don't think you wish to do your part to raise them properly, you are correct in deciding not to have any. I for one would thank you for not having any if you feel this way. We have enough children in this country with their parents (and I use that term loosely here) not caring enough to train then to be responsible children and adults. We don't need you to add any more to that number. |
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I got a 3.5yo son and 1yo daughter.
They cost a shit ton of money, it feels like we are at the doctors every other week for shots and runny noses. never ending diapers, formula, milk. take up all of my free time, i can only imaging what cool toys I would own i didnt have children. and I would give up everything for them. my wife and I would be lost without them. its just one of those things that you are afraid of before you have them, but once they are here you can't figure out how you could live without them |
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I have 2 boys 2 and 6, there is no way there will be a third. I love them to death, but man can they destroy stuff. Put it this way look at everything you have that is nice now, go bang it against the wall and floor, take marker and write all over it than take food and smear it all over it. Thats pretty much how everything looks at my house. Also, if you are one of those people that require alot of sleep, forget about it.
On the other hand it makes you a whole lot less materialistic, all your shit is broke and you got no money to replace it. |
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but you get to miss playing baseball with their cell phone . my teenage daughter found out yesterday how far i can throw a cell pgone thru the woods. she still can not find it. 
Why doesn't she just call it from another phone and follow the ringing sound? As for kids... mine is great but Lordy some days she tries my patience. |
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We have two 13 year olds and an 11 year old, it's a ride for sure. I really don't know what else I would be doing without them anyway, we all have fun together. My wife, my parents and my brother are my best friends. I like family, they are mine and I am theirs.
Sure being single forever and having no kids would be financially sound and create minimal stress, looking back it would be boring as hell as well
To each his own, by the way I'm only 33, hell I will probably be a grandfather by 40 or 45, kinda looking forward to it so these little bastards can get a dose of their own medicine as soon as possible
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I had no idea this board was full of lazy whiners with zero life sacrifice. You'd think that none of us worked hard or had a nano second of perseverance. I love and enjoy my kids. My wife and I were very intentional about having kids and didn't just decide to "dip it" and worry later. We actually were responsible and looked forward to raising a family.
Those that actually feel like the OP, please keep your swimmers out of the gene pool. You will be a very shitty, selfish dad and someone I would regret ever hiring at work. Have your fun, enjoy your guns, and squeeze your money tight. Does an AR ever warm up after a marathon spooning session? You would know. |
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I think it's perfectly natural for 20-somethings to feel that way.
In ten years many of you will have kids, and love it. I didn't think i wanted kids until my wife and I were married at 30, then it was time, and the best thing that ever happened to me. Life isn't all that challenging once you get the hang of it, eventually you want some deeper purpose in it. It's great if yours isn't kids, if you find something so fulfilling that you don't ever want them though I'd be surprised, can't imagine life without my family personally. |
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Have em early and you can still be young enough to have fun with the returnable ones that come later........
My buddy babysits his grandson often. Takes him about 1 hour to disillusion the kid. Doesn't let the kid whine. Just tell him what it is and it's yes or no. Just no BS allowed. Picked the family up at the airport and the kid is just exstatic to see Gpa. A little later he runs off with mom calling him to stop. Kid keeps going. Gpa calls his name and says STOP. Kid stops and waits. Ever notice some people always seem to have good dogs and some don't? It's kind of like that. |