[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Thanks everyone, problem solved. (Page 1 of 4)
Posted: 7/14/2010 10:53:06 AM EDT
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If you have complete proof from the source would you tell a friend that his wife was cheating on him or would you MYOB.
Keep in mind this a "move a body" friend not a "move a couch" friend. *****************Thanks for the overwhelming response everyone. Guess I have a call to make.************************************** |
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So what you're saying is that you would help him commit and conceal a murder but you're debating on telling him about his whore wife? 
Either you're a troll or very ignorant. It's more complicated than you think. I've already made up my decision to tell him but there will be a huge amount of fallout from this. I know the right thing to do is to tell him, I just need that last little bump is all. His wife and my wife have been best friends for 30 years. They have been married for about 5 years. They are currently living in his in-laws' basement and he is living on disability due to being in a horrible car accident and has a pending lawsuit with a large payout. If things go south he will lose his place to live, need to find a caretaker, and will likely lose a huge portion of a likely insurance settlement. |
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I've had friends confront me with the fact that a past girl was cheating on me. I didn't believe them and was hostile initially. After having a day or two to think on it and realize they were right... I said my apologies to them and they said more or less said "that's what friends are for".
Had I found out she was cheating and they knew about it, I wouldn't be friends with them much longer. |
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If you have complete proof from the source would you tell a friend that his wife was cheating on him or would you MYOB. Keep in mind this a "move a body" friend not a "move a couch" friend. Are you fucking kidding me? Who fucking raised you? Did you have two fucking mommys? I'm not fucking kidding. You weren't raised by any kind of man. That, or you were and are just too stupid for it to take. Jesus H. Christ on a motherfucking Ritz... |
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I have a large circle of colleagues and acquaintances but only a few friends. If I discovered one of my friends knew my wife was cheating and did not tell me I would likely no longer consider him a friend.
So...if I knew about his wife cheating I would definitely let him know. |
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If I had proof, then yes. Written proof from his wife to my wife as well as pics and said guy kissing last week before he was taken to jail for child pornography. Another twist, his wife is bipolar and completely unstable. So you're 'move a body' close to someone who would marry a woman like that? Think twice is the only advice I can offer. 
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His wife and my wife have been best friends for 30 years. They have been married for about 5 years. They are currently living in his in-laws' basement and he is living on disability due to being in a horrible car accident and has a pending lawsuit with a large payout. If things go south he will lose his place to live, need to find a caretaker, and will likely lose a huge portion of a likely insurance settlement. If the marriage is dissolved due to infidelity, he'll be getting ALL of that insurance settlement. |
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It's more complicated than you think. I've already made up my decision to tell him but there will be a huge amount of fallout from this. I know the right thing to do is to tell him, I just need that last little bump is all. His wife and my wife have been best friends for 30 years. They have been married for about 5 years. They are currently living in his in-laws' basement and he is living on disability due to being in a horrible car accident and has a pending lawsuit with a large payout. If things go south he will lose his place to live, need to find a caretaker, and will likely lose a huge portion of a likely insurance settlement. Ah, is it possible (however unlikely) that due to the disability he can no longer have sex, and thus he and his wife have an "open" marriage? If not, the wife needs to go before the big insurance settlement. |
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If I had proof, then yes. Written proof from his wife to my wife as well as pics and said guy kissing last week before he was taken to jail for child pornography. Another twist, his wife is bipolar and completely unstable. Bipolar, cheating on hubby w/ a child pornographer... after a horrible accident that left him disabled. And bragging about it. Wow. She sounds like a real winner. BTW - I know this is going to come off as offensive, but I can't help but ask: Your wife's been friends w/ her for 30 years? 
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Quoted: Probably not - domestic disputes are damn unpredictable things to get yourself involved in, regardless of how appealing it is to talk about loyality. This. You may come to find that you're the enemy after it's all said and done. If I did tell him, it would be done very tactfully. |
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If I had proof, then yes. Written proof from his wife to my wife as well as pics and said guy kissing last week before he was taken to jail for child pornography. Another twist, his wife is bipolar and completely unstable. Bipolar, cheating on hubby w/ a child pornographer... after a horrible accident that left him disabled. And bragging about it. Wow. She sounds like a real winner. BTW - I know this is going to come off as offensive, but I can't help but ask: Your wife's been friends w/ her for 30 years?
My wife is a ridiculously forgiving person. |
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Alwyas the slight possibility that he knows and is ok with it. I'd help him find out, make sure he knew, while still respecting his privacy.
He needs to know before the settlement stuff, though. She'll get more afterwards than she will before. Plus, consider all the decisions to be made with the money, and how those choices could go differently if he thinks she's a loving wife. Who the hell knows. Be prepared for the news to not be welcome, though. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Probably not - domestic disputes are damn unpredictable things to get yourself involved in, regardless of how appealing it is to talk about loyality. This. You may come to find that you're the enemy after it's all said and done. If I did tell him, it would be done very tactfully. So you guys would rather preserve your need for a friendship than actually be a friend to the guy & tell him what he damned-well needs to know? Absolutely pathetic. |
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Hell yes. Just went through this with one of my best friends. Several of us found out through "rumors", then when we found indisputable facts, we told him. I cannot stand a cheater.
Happend to me during my first marriage. Too... I took my vows seriously. Too bad my wife didn't. 
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Probably not - domestic disputes are damn unpredictable things to get yourself involved in, regardless of how appealing it is to talk about loyality. This. You may come to find that you're the enemy after it's all said and done. If I did tell him, it would be done very tactfully. So you guys would rather preserve your need for a friendship than actually be a friend to the guy & tell him what he damned-well needs to know? Absolutely pathetic. no he is speaking the truth.. i have lost friends because i felt the need to speak the truth to them.. in a situation like that you had better tread lightly or things could come back to bite you in the ass. this isnt a situation to take lightly as it will be a huge life changing event for his friend and not in a positive way |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Probably not - domestic disputes are damn unpredictable things to get yourself involved in, regardless of how appealing it is to talk about loyality. This. You may come to find that you're the enemy after it's all said and done. If I did tell him, it would be done very tactfully. So you guys would rather preserve your need for a friendship than actually be a friend to the guy & tell him what he damned-well needs to know? Absolutely pathetic. Oh, to live in the black and white moral utopia of keyboard pugilists. Delivering marriage-ending news to a friend might make you feel like the proud moral warrior that you are, but it also may have very negative consequences on him, on her, on any children involved, their families, their friends and yes at the end of the day might mean your friend turns on you in some cases. You might be the bearer of news that makes your friend a very very unhappy person, or even a violent person, or worse. Does he deserve to know this about his spouse? Indeed. Is it your duty to bring about this tumult to him? Well, that's a better question. What's in it for you? It would depend greatly on the situation how and when I told my friend, and if that displeases you then I suggest we should not be friends, and you should be a better choice of spouses than to put your friends in that terrible situation. |