Every time that I think to myself that my 3-gun set up is too heavy (18" barrel, full stock, 9.5lbs with 1-4 optic), I go to the range and leave glad that I have a heavy rifle. Heavy, of course, is a matter of perspective because before the world of lightweight aluminum and polymers there were guns with wooden stocks that are truly heavy. WWII guns like the M1 Garand and Thompson weighed in around 10-11 lbs with iron sights and the M249 SAW that I had to carry a few times is over 15lbs not counting the ammo.
Bit I digress, I do have some SBR and other lightweight rifles which all weight in around 6.5 lbs with optics, but when it comes to 3-gun competitions, I have never had any moments during competition where I said to myself, "I wish that my rifle was lighter".
And speaking of recoil management, it is hard to tell when you are shooting, but I often have other people who are new to the sport shoot my weapons and when watching a new person shoot a lightweight rifle and then my competition rifle, I can see the benefit of the extra weight as they appear to be shooting smoother and have more hits on target when shooting rapidly.
my set up is basically
18" heavy stainless barrel
Jerry Miculek comp
Midwest Industries lightweight handguard
standard receivers, BCG, charging handle, buffer system
Armalite two-stage trigger
Magpul full stock (helps with the balance of the rifle because of the heavy barrel)
Trijicon 1-4 optic
Aero Precision lightweight mount