Well, I was hoping for my 1000th post to have a bit of good news, but not so far.
As some of you know last July (2006) my daughter reported to us that she had been molested by her mothers boyfriend. We of course reported it to the police and every other agency out there. The prosecutor in Lacey decided not to press charges seeing as there was no physical evidence, only the word of an 8 year old, even though the guy had been charged with the same thing 10 years ago in Arizona. Since that time we've been fighting the ex-wife for everything and she's been using the kids, my son in particular, as weapons.
So far my son (11 years old) has flushed my wifes (current wife) heart medication down the toilet, threatened her with knifes, threatened to hurt her, her unborn baby, me and his sister and swung his CAR-15 around on me one day while shooting (the reason I haven't been out shooting so much). All of this has been done at the urging of his mother. We have had him into counseling, and reported everything to the police and Child Protective Services. Until recently there have been no real investigations done because CPS has just been considering this a "Custody issue".
3 Weeks ago he told my wife that he was planning on killing himself so that he "Didn't have to hurt anyone anymore". He even had a plan on when, where and how to do it. I took him into the hospital and they had him placed into Fairfax Mental Hospital, When his birth mother found out she tried to have him removed, and it took me threatening to get a Judges order and CPS telling her that she couldn't before she'd back off. The Physciatrist says that he doesn't have mental issues so much as enviromental issues (ie his mother- who exploded on me and on the shrink at Fairfax), and another Counselor says that he can't be helped until he is away from his mother.
CPS has finally launched an actuall investigation, and had the children removed from the mother (we found out in a meeting last week that there are 14 complaints against the mother in Washingtons CPS System, and I know of 7 more in Montana). However she is telling everybody that I am planting stuff in the kids's heads so I don't have them either, they are with two of her sisiters (my family is in Montana so they weren't an option). The CPS worker is hoping to have all of this straightened out within 30 to 60 days. We both (the x and me) have been ordered to take psych evals with a parenting emphasis and to go to counsleing until the investigation is complete. CPS has told me to line up counseling for the kids, and I'm taking this as a good sign that they want me in the picture.
To top it all off I'm supposed to be leaving for Drill Sergeant School in October and this will probably be dragging on still. Depending on what happens in the next couple weeks I may be defering that for 120 days, if the Army will let me.
I know that there are a few people out there who work in this kind of field, any advice? Right now we're just holding our breath. We've been fighting this so long we hate to get our hopes up because the kids's mother always seems to have an ace in the hole (did I mention that she has a sister who works in the same CPS office that is doing the investigation? We've{ie my lawyer and me} been assured that the sister will have nothing to do with the investigation).
On a happy note the little unborn scout is a girl, so more pink cammo will be at the LCR's if we ever get this problem fixed!
If anybody has any ideas, let me know. Thanks, Jon