This might sound dumb, but it bugs me.

my b/f always is on the computer,he gets up in the moring gets ready and goes on computer then goes to work,, but when he gets home he goes right back on the computer,,and then when i ask him to do something or try to ask him something he always bits my head off.

I am always doing everything for him and he treats my like crap, not all the time but like just these last two days its been like computer is more important.. and when i get on the comp, he gets pissed and ask me to do things and i do but ,, i think i should stop being nice to him or sometrhing.

i have already tried to talk to him about it but it didnt seem to work.
iam just stress, because i do alot for him and i dont get any thing back.
all i asked for was to spend time with me and not the computer so much.
i just cant believe he is on the computer like that all the time and its like ok well computer must be more important then my needs. but when he starts callng for his needs i always do for him..

i just dont now what to do.

thanks for reading.

Break up with him.  I'm serious.

I know that situation far too well, and it does not change.  He's far too self-involved to care about much else at this point.

You'll be better off with someone who treats you the way you deserve.

I'm sorry; but one person working to save a dying relationship just goes down with the ship.

I know the situation, but not to the same degree.  my hubby will go for the computer right after he gets home and after he gives me a hug.  It never fails.  walk in the door, hug, kiss, arfcom.  We've talked about it a few times and each time it'll get better for about 2 weeks and then it'll start getting bad again.  When he starts spending 8-9 hours on the computer a day, that is when i call him on it!  I love my hubby and he loves me, enough so that when i ask him for a few minutes, he'll give me an hour or so.  Take me to a movie or something to make sure I know i'm still his #1!

My advise, if it is really this bad, get out of dodge.  If he cant give you the time of day, he doesnt deserve the time of day!

Mrs. Snaps

thank you for your replies.

my b/f and i have been together for a year and 1/2 and i know he loves me and i love him.
because he does the smiliar thing he does to "strawberry-snaps" he always finds a way to make up for it and he always makes me know that iam his number one too, but after like he got sick hes accuse were to be on the computer.

so he would use that excuse to be in the room, and after that its been going on for like a month know and he is always on ar15.com and i dont mine its like not for like hours of the day you know,. it just sucks.  if i left he probably wouldnt know that i left.

i have talk to him earlier today about it again andtold him i did alll his errans and i want to spend time with him, not be out in the living room once again by myself. but today he made up for it. but i had a really long conversatin about it and now he says he going to try his best to do want i want ..so ill see how it goes from there.

thank you once again for your replies and your advice.. it helped

Quoted: This might sound dumb, but it bugs me. my b/f always is on the computer,he gets up in the moring gets ready and goes on computer then goes to work,, but when he gets home he goes right back on the computer,,and then when i ask him to do something or try to ask him something he always bits my head off. I am always doing everything for him and he treats my like crap, not all the time but like just these last two days its been like computer is more important.. and when i get on the comp, he gets pissed and ask me to do things and i do but ,, i think i should stop being nice to him or sometrhing. i have already tried to talk to him about it but it didnt seem to work. iam just stress, because i do alot for him and i dont get any thing back. all i asked for was to spend time with me and not the computer so much. i just cant believe he is on the computer like that all the time and its like ok well computer must be more important then my needs. but when he starts callng for his needs i always do for him.. i just dont now what to do. thanks for reading.

Honestly, leave his ass and find somebody better.

Guys like me are forever burnt that "the good ones" are taken.  You can be rest assured that you could find somebody else more than willing to treat you as their best friend and want to spend time with you.


It's more or less what I am looking for, a gal to be my best friend for life as well as my best shooting buddy.   I know they are out there but finding them while they are single and available is the damned challenge.

It sounds like he is addicted to the internet.  The only thing that will help is a clean break from it.  Either that, or you need to make a clean break from him.

I dont think you understand the full magnitude of what ARFCOM is and represents. Maybe you should start spending more time on ARFCOM?
jjust kidding

I have to stop myself from spending too much time online too. My girlfriend is very understanding of this though. I have about the same routine though. Get up, check mail, go to work, come home kiss+hug, get online. I spend an hour or two a day or every other. I guess moderation is the key.

Try this. When your BF gets online go do something in another room or go somewhere with friends. Maybe he's just taking you fro granted.

I agree. This website is far too addictive for any one person. My wife gets mad at me that I am online all the time also, but she works the 12-10 shift and I'm a 7-4:30 kinda guy. When she is home, I am not online. She still gets pissed that I am on all the time though. She thinks I have girlfriends or some shit but it's this frackin arfcom. My name is Kevin, and I'm addicted to arfcom.

Good for you for speaking to your b/f about the issue and not letting it continue to slide and cause further frustration for you.  

I agree Arfcom is addictive!  

I understand that many people find the computer relaxing and an enjoyable escape from the stresses of life.  However, I think the big question is how much time and if they are not willing to stop to spend time with you once you bring it to their attention then maybe it is time to put an end to the relationship.

Hopefully a gentle reminder will do the trick but if not, don't settle for less than you deserve from a relationship!   A persons actions can speak louder than their words.  

Good Luck!

Seriously, offer him the hottest mind blowing sex he's ever had if he'll just lay off the forums for a week.


If he is still lethargic and seemingly uninterested, ditch his ass.


Oh, and when you do, make sure to post pics in the "ARFcom ladies" thread...

What is he *doing* on the computer?

What I'm saying is that you have one set of challenges if he spends hours researching new fishing rods for example, or participating in curent events discussion groups.

And you have a whole different set of problems if he is looking for love in all the wrong places.

If he's just playing video games or shooting the breeze on arfcom, then the problem is just with how much time you two spend togrther, talking or doing things you like to do.

I don't know, I have a different perspective on this.  My man is retired, he has his own interests.  I have mine.  I come home from work and often get on the computer.  To my way of thinking, if I'm on the computer, and he's out in his shed, then we're both having a nice evening "together".  Seriously.  He'll come in to see me, or I'll go out to see him, just for a little company from time to time.  But we eat together and sleep together, and that is a lot of togetherness.  It's healthiest for us both to be able to do the different things that interest us the rest of the time.

But what is important is what is he doing on the computer.  Researching the history of the Roman Republic is a different ball of wax from "Hot Farm Animal Love" websites.

Spam his e-mail and pm's with "I Love You" & "I miss you".  

I dunno, this is situation was one I was living for way too long.  It had gotten to the point where he wouldn't leave the apartment, for any sort of time together, not even for a movie (that I WANTED TO PAY FOR), quick dinner (same thing), or just a walk around the block on a nice day.  Don't even ask me how pitiful our sex life was.

I sincerely hope this isn't what she's going through, because he never learned, he never cared, and he never gave an effort.

thanks for all your replies.

because we ahd a nice long talk and he is already changing, he is actually trying and isnt being selfish kinda way.. so far its going great.