Posted: 1/11/2006 8:19:16 PM EDT
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NO. If you croak she gets everything. Also a year is a long time for a woman to sit around for you. She may cheat and get things out of hand. Havent you learned anything about relationships from this site? If she really loves you she will wait for you to get back. Why the hurry? You are only 22. |
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If you have to "think" about it...don't do it. Try communication. If you are really serious and she loves you back, she'll wait if she is mature enough for marriage. If she's not mature enough to wait, then she's not mature enough to get married. I was in a similar situation. I was going to flight school at Fort Rucker and wanted to take my girlfriend that I had just met not too long before that. But I KNEW I wanted to marry her. From our first date, I said to myself, "I could marry this one". She wasn't mature enough at the point when I actually left for flight school, but she grew up pretty fast and accepted it. We are still together after 22 years. |
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My opinion, Wait. If she waits for you and stays true, than you know you picked a winner. I know you are thinking that if you lose her you will never feel this way again about another woman. That is simply not true. You will change a lot in that year, so will she. Wait and see if things are the same, or better when you return. Again, IMHO... Eric 
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Run Forrest, RUN!!!! J/K Seriously, this is the wrong place to ask. You may get one or two real serious responses. I would say at your age and with you deploying, chances are not very good that it will work out. However, no two people are alike and no two situations are alike. Consider any good advice you may get, weigh the odds according to what YOU know, and try to make the best decision you can, then stick with it. No matter what you decide, it is you who must live with the consequences, either way. JMHO. |
Never get married until you learn to use proper puncuation 
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No you are young, and what makes you think she will wait if you are married? You seem unsure that she would wait if you are not married. If the woman will not wait without the ring, why in the hell would you think she will WITH the ring. If it is true love and you are really for each other don't rush into anything. If you rush you will loose out big time. It is easier to loose a GF than a Wife. Frankly you should concentrate on setting yourself up financially BEFORE thinking about getting a wife. |
If she loves you she will wait. It is better for her to wait on a boyfriend and mess up and cheat/leave him/whatever than a husband. Being married makes it a LOT more complicated to break up dating makes it a phone call to break up and you start over instantly. If she loves you she will wait. If she does, she may be worth marrying. GR |
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... Not yet ... I you both really love each other, the bond will stand the test of time. Shoot for marriage only after a good year of courtship. As it stands now, you probably haven't seen her with her "hair down" yet. Get to really know her before proposing. Do a background and credit check. Get some character references - I'm serious. |
Temptation is a very strong influence. A year is a long time considering the ages of you two. Marriage is a huge commitment,requiring a lot of work and communication. It only takes a second to remove a ring. It is impossible to know how she will react, given the absolute fact that temptation will surround her. At first she will shrug it off because she would be newly married, but as time goes on she will become more and more suseptible to the advances of others. When you return, ask people that know her whether or not she has dated anyone else etc. Remember....You will be gone for a year, and whether or not she loves you will not change a " bad choice" she may have made while you were gone. I found out that after I married my ex, she had an affair on me while I was in Parris Island. Had I checked with people before I married her,I would have kicked her to the curb.Protect yourself!
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Late 06?? Dood, PLEASE let me borrow that crystal ball of yours
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| Don't ask us. That is a situation where you need to talk to your family and your priest/preacher/whatever you have. Ask people that really know the both of you. Don't ask a bunch of opinionated people that don't really know you as well as needed for such advice. Myself included. |