OK, first some background.
This girl is my ex, my only serious relationship Ive held down for more than six months. We broke up about three years ago, and only started talking again about a year ago. Ive known this girl since I was 4, and we started dating senior year of high school, and broke up freshman year of college. (Yes, we were at the same school) So I go home after boot for leave, and Im hanging out with her a bunch, one thing leads to another, end up in a tent together on a random mountain, having some alone time....she tells me she loves me, yadda yadda yadda. Fast forward three months (with me talking to her on the phone and online at least every night)...I ask her if she want's to make things official again, she tells me shes not ready for another relationship yet, so shes not gonna say yes, and shes not gonna say no. Her previous relationship ended just about 2 months before I came home on leave. (He was very physically abusive, put her head through the glass of a mini-van. Kinda guy you whoop his ass just on principle.)
So, I see this means one of two things: A)She's just not ready for a relationship yet. B) She's not ready for a relationship - with me, but doesn't want to stress me out any worse than than the job does.
I'll be honest - I still love this girl, and did even after our breakup. - it was a pretty bad breakup too, lots of things said on both sides, that really didn't need to be said/done.
So, against my better judgement, I throw my personal life to the man-eating (woman-hating?
) sharks of ARFCOM.
EDIT: I guess this is just sematics - what can I do from half the planet away about it?