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Posted: 8/18/2005 12:09:25 PM EDT
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:10:27 PM EDT
Mercedes-Benz 450 SEL.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:10:38 PM EDT
$100 Bills
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:12:10 PM EDT
Are you saying you have to drug her to get some?
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:12:54 PM EDT

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.



You mean to tell me that jumping into the bedroom wearing nothing but tube socks and swinging your yutz like a lasso and yelling "WAHOO" doesn't work for her anymore?

note to self...get plenty of batteries
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:14:12 PM EDT
Are you sure it ain't you?

Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:14:18 PM EDT
Is she on the "pill"? When mine went on the pill her sex drive dropped through the floor but she switched to something else and needless to say ..... I'm all smiles.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:15:59 PM EDT

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.

Testosterone. Look for dietary methods of raising it. Hormone Replacment Therapy (HRT) works to restore libido, but is having some terrible side effects.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:17:49 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 12:20:07 PM EDT by TexasSIG]
W-2's work good for some folks. The others have to lease Mercedes and BMWs

In all seriousness, 31 is too young for it to be physical. What else is going on with her?
Money worries, kid worries, something. My wife is 32 and when she started that
behavior it turned out to be mental, worrying about some things that were going
on with her family. Takes a toll more then they would like to admit.

There is something else going on in her life that's keeping her from relaxing.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:18:57 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Lumpy196:
Are you saying you have to drug her to get some?



No..the key word is arousal. She just does'nt have that geddy up and go like she used to. It's almost like those old sitcoms when the wife says she has a headache or she's too tired. I just wish she could be a little more happy with the prospect of banging instaed of sighing or rolling eyes. She thinks it's just a stage of life...I've done the wine and dine, nice restaurant, romatic evening with a nice gift. She has a great time we get home and it's on...a couple fo days later, she's sighing again.

I thought there were some vitamins or some get up and go pills for her. My get up and go, is going all the time lately. Weird.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:20:13 PM EDT
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:20:31 PM EDT
Porn... works every time.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:20:58 PM EDT
My tongue...I don't know, always seems to work for me...knowing just where and how to properly apply it yields good results
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:21:07 PM EDT

Originally Posted By dvr9:

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.



You mean to tell me that jumping into the bedroom wearing nothing but tube socks and swinging your yutz like a lasso and yelling "WAHOO" doesn't work for her anymore?

note to self...get plenty of batteries



LMAO!

Nope...it's not anything that I have done to make it worse. Hell, she even started working out again...she acknowledges she wished she was like she used to be. And no to the battery operated evil bed friends. They are the enemy from what I am told.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:21:42 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 12:22:38 PM EDT by Carbine_Man]
I think it's you, fella. In my experience, a woman gets hornier and hornier through her 30's. My wife never needed any stimulus. I remember her saying "now I know what it's like to be a teenage boy feels like." (edited to fix the innuendo.)
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:22:12 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 12:22:51 PM EDT by VTDefender]
Try a little buck in rut urine!

Works wonders with the ladies.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:22:44 PM EDT

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:

Originally Posted By dvr9:

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.



You mean to tell me that jumping into the bedroom wearing nothing but tube socks and swinging your yutz like a lasso and yelling "WAHOO" doesn't work for her anymore?

note to self...get plenty of batteries



LMAO!


Nope...it's not anything that I have done to make it worse. Hell, she even started working out again...she acknowledges she wished she was like she used to be. And no to the battery operated evil bed friends. They are the enemy from what I am told.



Have you tried bringing in a uber hot, hands on "sex-therapist?"
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:22:58 PM EDT

Originally Posted By rayra:

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.

Testosterone. Look for dietary methods of raising it. Hormone Replacment Therapy (HRT) works to restore libido, but is having some terrible side effects.



What "side" effects?

I think her libido is gone-o..sucks too. Even the showers we used to take together don't get her rolling.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:23:06 PM EDT
Maybe you should try kissing her more than once??.........not a prob around my house..........keep changing things.......women love variation......................use more lube!!
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:24:46 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 12:41:14 PM EDT by NAKED-GUNMAN]

Originally Posted By tpsh:
Is she on the "pill"? When mine went on the pill her sex drive dropped through the floor but she switched to something else and needless to say ..... I'm all smiles.



Really? She actually changed to the coochy ring not long ago. I wonder if thats it? It's the new birth control that women are using...it's a trampueline looking thing that they use.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:24:46 PM EDT
She's saving it for the boyfriend.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:25:52 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 12:26:02 PM EDT by M4arc]
All I have to do is walk into the room and my wife gets aroused
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:26:22 PM EDT

Originally Posted By MK4Mod0:
Maybe you should try kissing her more than once??.........not a prob around my house..........keep changing things.......women love variation......................use more lube!!



/John Cleese on/ What's wrong with a kiss boy? No need to go diving right for the clitoris... /John Cleese off/
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:27:50 PM EDT

Originally Posted By M4arc:
All I have to do is walk into the room and my YOUR wife gets aroused

Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:30:04 PM EDT

Originally Posted By M4arc:
All I have to do is walk into the room and my wife gets aroused



Used to be that way...no kidding. It was like she had a switch attached to her lips. Kiss her and she was breathing fire.

I do everything you need to do to please...but, it's the initial contact to foreplay that does'nt work. I just wish I could give her little vitamin and blammo we're off.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:35:52 PM EDT
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:39:59 PM EDT


Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny?




yeah, it's called a 18 year old.................sex in marriage is like having steak, 3 times a day, for years and years, decades after decades...........no matter how you try to "spice" it up, it's still the same cut of meat.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:40:02 PM EDT
She is not too young for it to be physical.

Hormones can fluctuate. I started perimenopause [the time before menopause that lasts 3-15 years] very early at 31. None of the drs even tested for it because "I was too young". NOT!
The average age of menopause is 51.
Do the math. Women can start peri at 36! 31 is only five years early. And that is jsut average, so many women have it early or late.

So it might be as simple as peri starting and the working out she is doing will help as well as vitamins and good OTC like estrovent.

Sometimes we just need a change, a break, and time to find out who we are after the kids are old enough to take care of themselves most of the time. Childbirth changes us bigtime. So does the time between 27 and 35. Give her time, encouragement and court the hell out of her like you did when first dating. Eventually she will be back to the old sex drive, or possibly a new stronger one!

Ask her what you can do to offer more excitement. She might surprise you with her answer.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:42:49 PM EDT
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:43:59 PM EDT
Romance!!!
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:46:28 PM EDT
http://www.kazakhstanflowers.com/ff/cu/1/300/3.jpg

or, a jelly egg vibrator. No, I'm not being a smartass, it works to bring a woman to orgasm if properly applied to the right spot.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:47:10 PM EDT

Originally Posted By yekimak:
Are you sure it ain't you?




+1.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:48:47 PM EDT
Horny goat weed or B vitamin supplements.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:50:44 PM EDT
Do you live in Hawaii? A pineapple and a twenty.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:51:11 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Joyce:
She is not too young for it to be physical.

Hormones can fluctuate. I started perimenopause [the time before menopause that lasts 3-15 years] very early at 31. None of the drs even tested for it because "I was too young". NOT!
The average age of menopause is 51.
Do the math. Women can start peri at 36! 31 is only five years early. And that is jsut average, so many women have it early or late.

So it might be as simple as peri starting and the working out she is doing will help as well as vitamins and good OTC like estrovent.

Sometimes we just need a change, a break, and time to find out who we are after the kids are old enough to take care of themselves most of the time. Childbirth changes us bigtime. So does the time between 27 and 35. Give her time, encouragement and court the hell out of her like you did when first dating. Eventually she will be back to the old sex drive, or possibly a new stronger one!

Ask her what you can do to offer more excitement. She might surprise you with her answer.



Thank you Joyce.

I love this woman more than life itself sometimes, I court her constantly. I put cards on her car when she's at work, write love notes on her mirror, write love notes in her purse and briefcase I try to use our date night to let her do whatever she wants. I call her first thing in the morning and tell her I love her. She does appreciate it, she really does. But, she is a funk right now, she admits it like it is some kind of unwanted flu. She feels bad about it and gets frustrated to the point of almost tears. She says she does'nt want me to hate her, she loves me more than I love her...anyway, she talked about it this morning like she was going to go to a Doctor..dunno, whats hs's up to. I just thought I would ask the collective perverts men on ARfcom if they've found something that works.

I am patient, I just don't want to look back when we're 60 and say man I wish we could have done more. I want to hit it as much as I can and make her as happy as she can be. And I have seen her very happy in the past. She is'nt that happy anymore. It may be the new job title she holds, which has brought her more responsibility. Again, we both have seen our young love drift away and we both want it back.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:54:08 PM EDT
...there's a little yellow pill

she'll go running for the shelter of her mother's little helper...
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:55:42 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 12:58:41 PM EDT by NAKED-GUNMAN]

Originally Posted By mattja:

Originally Posted By yekimak:
Are you sure it ain't you?




+1.



Tried like hell for it not to be that way, without being overbearing or fatal attraction...I love her, she loves me. SHe is not stand-offish nor is she ignoring me. She just does'nt have the bounce she used to. I don't either but it does'nt stop me from booty call or attempting to hit it. There is no other woman I want to be with than her..cept for maybe that chick on L.A. Law..kidding. I want to be with her becuaue she is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:56:23 PM EDT

Originally Posted By avengeusa:
oh my gosh, your killing me, this is too funny

here honey, take this



Not exactly..but if it works, she is willing.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 12:56:43 PM EDT

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
I love this woman more than life itself sometimes, I court her constantly. I put cards on her car when she's at work, write love notes on her mirror, write love notes in her purse and briefcase I try to use our date night to let her do whatever she wants. I call her first thing in the morning and tell her I love her. She does appreciate it, she really does. But, she is a funk right now, she admits it like it is some kind of unwanted flu. She feels bad about it and gets frustrated to the point of almost tears. She says she does'nt want me to hate her, she loves me more than I love her...anyway, she talked about it this morning like she was going to go to a Doctor..dunno, whats hs's up to. I just thought I would ask the collective perverts men on ARfcom if they've found something that works.

I am patient, I just don't want to look back when we're 60 and say man I wish we could have done more. I want to hit it as much as I can and make her as happy as she can be. And I have seen her very happy in the past. She is'nt that happy anymore. It may be the new job title she holds, which has brought her more responsibility. Again, we both have seen our young love drift away and we both want it back.



Seriously (I have to add that to all my serious posts), desperation is what turns women off more than anything else, and that's what I just read there. Clinginess will only make things worse. Backing off and giving her some space and time may not work, but it's the only thing that might.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 1:04:29 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Rodent:

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
I love this woman more than life itself sometimes, I court her constantly. I put cards on her car when she's at work, write love notes on her mirror, write love notes in her purse and briefcase I try to use our date night to let her do whatever she wants. I call her first thing in the morning and tell her I love her. She does appreciate it, she really does. But, she is a funk right now, she admits it like it is some kind of unwanted flu. She feels bad about it and gets frustrated to the point of almost tears. She says she does'nt want me to hate her, she loves me more than I love her...anyway, she talked about it this morning like she was going to go to a Doctor..dunno, whats hs's up to. I just thought I would ask the collective perverts men on ARfcom if they've found something that works.

I am patient, I just don't want to look back when we're 60 and say man I wish we could have done more. I want to hit it as much as I can and make her as happy as she can be. And I have seen her very happy in the past. She is'nt that happy anymore. It may be the new job title she holds, which has brought her more responsibility. Again, we both have seen our young love drift away and we both want it back.



Seriously (I have to add that to all my serious posts), desperation is what turns women off more than anything else, and that's what I just read there. Clinginess will only make things worse. Backing off and giving her some space and time may not work, but it's the only thing that might.



Yeah, well backing off can also cause the breach to widen..I hear what you are saying and understand. But this is a story of 2 people that see a difference in the love making not the love. It could be a rut and I hope it does'nt become a pattern. That would suck. The way she is treating this is pretty much the same way I am. She is frustrated and wants her mojo back. I am sure there will be something that can get us over the top..she is driven so she will find it before I do.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 1:21:43 PM EDT
NAKED-GUNMAN,

I've been dealing with this exact same thing for years now. Mrs. Shane suffered some severe nerve damage giving birth to our first, and it was a solid year before she started to heal. Her passion, however, never returned even years later.

I don't know what to tell you, as I'm still searching for the solution myself.

I will tell you this, "giving her space" is bologna. I've given my wife space for a long time, and it doesn't make any difference.

Before our first child's birth, she was as eager as I was. Goodness, usually she'd come surprise me wearing lingerie or nothing at all. Now there's no drive whatsoever.

Fortunately she realizes the problem, and also feels guilty about the fact that she knows I'm frustrated all the time. We're going to a specialist in a few months and I'm hoping we find a solution.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 1:27:02 PM EDT

Originally Posted By Shane333:
NAKED-GUNMAN,

I've been dealing with this exact same thing for years now. Mrs. Shane suffered some severe nerve damage giving birth to our first, and it was a solid year before she started to heal. Her passion, however, never returned even years later.

I don't know what to tell you, as I'm still searching for the solution myself.

I will tell you this, "giving her space" is bologna. I've given my wife space for a long time, and it doesn't make any difference.

Before our first child's birth, she was as eager as I was. Goodness, usually she'd come surprise me wearing lingerie or nothing at all. Now there's no drive whatsoever.

Fortunately she realizes the problem, and also feels guilty about the fact that she knows I'm frustrated all the time. We're going to a specialist in a few months and I'm hoping we find a solution.



I hear you Shane. It's not as cut and dried as some people may think. The "giving" space thing really never works unless there is one person who has become controlling or domineering. Negative on that in my case. I am 10 years older than wife and I feel like I am the younger one.

here's some stuff I have found on google.

Arginine is essential to nitric oxide production which has been scientifically shown to promote blood flow critical to both male and female sexual function.

Vitamin B- Complex calms the nervous system and reduces anxiety.

Vitamin E- is necessary for proper functioning of the reproduction system and glands.

Ginkgo Biloba- is a powerful antioxidant that enhances circulation and increases the supply of oxygen to the brain and sexual organs.

Horny Goat Weed- is a natural aphrodisiac that helps restore sexual desire in men and women.

Kelp- is a good source of iodine and other important minerals that support thyroid function.

Maca- has been used throughout the world to increase energy, libido, stamina and sexual performance in men and women.

Muira Puama- has long been used in the Amazon by shamen as a powerful aphrodisiac tonic and sexual stimulant.

Damiana, known as the “woman’s sexuality herb,” contains alkaloids that directly stimulate the nerves and organs.

Wild Yam- rejuvinates and gives vigor to lovemaking.

Yohimbe- has been Successful in treating both organic and psychogenic impotence.

Sarsaparilla- contains a testosterone-like substance that is effective in men.

REFERENCES: Prescription for Nutritional Healing, 3rd Edition, Phyllis Balch, CNC; James F. Balch, M.D.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 1:27:14 PM EDT

Originally Posted By dvr9:

Originally Posted By NAKED-GUNMAN:
Besides alcohol are there any new "arousal" type drugs/vitamins to get women horny? My wife who just turned 31 has lost some of her "arousal"...we used to just kiss and she'd turn on like a chainsaw. Now, it's almost boring for her or even a chore. Lil' remedies that work for you guys if you don't mind. I'm trying to bust out of this funk.



You mean to tell me that jumping into the bedroom wearing nothing but tube socks and swinging your yutz like a lasso and yelling "WAHOO" doesn't work for her anymore?

note to self...get plenty of batteries



Yup...your done...!
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 1:29:06 PM EDT
This is a tough one for me...not having any experience with this sort of thing. Most women ooze a bit when I walk in the room. Now, back to your problem. It's hard to do but you've got to do it. Don't bath for a week. Really. It works for the French jerks! Who would screw 'em if they didn't emit some kind of pheromone or whatever that crap is!!!
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 1:39:33 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 8/18/2005 2:03:38 PM EDT
She's probably depressed.
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 2:11:07 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 8/18/2005 2:12:21 PM EDT by JavaMan]
I guarentee this will make her wet:

Link Posted: 8/18/2005 2:14:40 PM EDT
Best damn 42.99 you will ever spend my friend;

(Not work safe, BOTD)
www.adameve.com/catalog_name=adameve/category_name=vib_clitoral/product_id=4552/product.htm
Link Posted: 8/18/2005 2:18:59 PM EDT

Originally Posted By pzjgr:
My tongue...I don't know, always seems to work for me...knowing just where and how to properly apply it yields good results



This is a fact. Even when she's not in the mood, All I gotta do is give her a few swipes of the tongue, and it's ON...then again my wife is a redhead. She's kind of a nympho. If I don't give it up, she just TAKES it.
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