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Posted: 8/23/2017 8:39:08 PM EDT

Both my sister and I do not want children. This would be the end of my family name.

Have you ever gone through this? Ever felt bad? I won't lie and say I don't, but I do not ever want to deal with kids...

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:40:14 PM EDT

[#1]

No. Not yet anyways.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:41:23 PM EDT

[#2]

A guy in my gun-club took his wife's name for this reason.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:42:17 PM EDT

[#3]

Nope.

My brother and I both have boys (mine is 10 months, his is 3 months). They will both be carrying on our last name and other family names as their middle names.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:42:33 PM EDT

[#4]

Nope. Don't care. I'm sure there are cousins out there somewhere.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:42:49 PM EDT

[#5]

Never wanted kids. Ever. Holding my 11 week old son right now.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:42:53 PM EDT

[#6]

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Wtf?

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:43:22 PM EDT

[#7]

I'm a 4th and the only male born on my father's side. My son (who we decided not to be the 5th) is the only one who can carry on our name. It would be a shame if he didn't.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:43:58 PM EDT

[#8]

What's your family name? It's probably not that unusual.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:44:01 PM EDT

[#9]

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Both my sister and I do not want children. This would be the end of my family name.

Have you ever gone through this? Ever felt bad? I won't lie and say I don't, but I do not ever want to deal with kids...

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Yep.

My paternal grandparents had 8 children that survived into adulthood - 6 girls and 2 boys. My uncle has no children of his own, is now divorced, and had a vasectomy years ago. I only have a sister.

I have two girls, and plan on getting the snip in a couple of months.

I'll be the last of my grandparents' line to bear the Simon name. My only consolation is that I was adopted by my father, so I'm not blood anyhow.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:44:10 PM EDT

[#10]

My name is rare. Its decline started in WWII, all were killed in Toulouse, France. One remained; a man that made his way from Toulouse, France to Chile.

There he had one son in Chile, my father. He himself went to Catholic University in Chile, then went to Harvard University. Had 2 sons; my brother and i. My brother had 2 girls. I never wanted children and never had any.

The name dies with me as i am the youngest.

Family Motto, translated from French:

Dignity, pride, honor.
Good life, good death.
As one, united and free.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:44:14 PM EDT

[#11]

Fail.All of your ancestors that survived wars, famine, plague
tyranny, economic collapse etc....Fail.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:44:35 PM EDT

[#12]

My family name goes back 1600+years of Scottish origin and I have one son. It's not a big deal to me if the name continues or not. It's not like we are living in the Middle Ages and we are royalty or anything.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:45:56 PM EDT

[#13]

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Never wanted kids. Ever. Holding my 11 week old son right now.

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It's crazy how it changes you, isn't it? I was like you, didn't want kids. Then she came out of the bathroom with the stick and said "oops"

My life changed at that moment.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:46:04 PM EDT

[#14]

Ours ends with my brother, a cousin and I.

All 3 of us are from late 30s to mid 40s, none are married, no kids and no plans for kids.

Kind of bums me out sometimes but not enough to have a kid (or kids) that I don't want.

Funny thing is I have a lot of cousins it was my dad's sisters that had the big families. He and his brothers mostly had small families and the one who had a lot of kids had all daughters.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:47:08 PM EDT

[#15]

My branch of the family ends with me. I can trace my direct lineage to Cork, Ireland in 1740 and it ends with me. we were here for the revolution, fought for the Confederacy, fought in WWII and Vietnam, and have many military records, mine included. It makes me sad once in awhile but then I realize no one cares and it really doesn't matter to anyone else or in the grand scheme of things. That's just life.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:47:30 PM EDT

[#16]

I am the last and I don't give a fuck.

Names don't mean much to me anyways.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:49:36 PM EDT

[#17]

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Both my sister and I do not want children. This would be the end of my family name.

Have you ever gone through this? Ever felt bad? I won't lie and say I don't, but I do not ever want to deal with kids...

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2016 NFL coach of the year, so not worried.

Avenge me!

My little bro has 3 good kids, so we're fine for a bit longer.

Chris

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:50:08 PM EDT

[#18]

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It's crazy how it changes you, isn't it? I was like you, didn't want kids. Then she came out of the bathroom with the stick and said "oops"

My life changed at that moment.

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My outlook on it changed before she was ever pregnant. We had been trying for months, then she learned she was pregnant on my birthday and told me after I got home from work.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:50:38 PM EDT

[#19]

I did when i was 25 and thought i was going to be forever alone, thankfully i meet my wife a few years later and have 2 sons now.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:51:02 PM EDT

[#20]

My name is unusual, and I have records of it back to the 1200's and the two villages in England that have that name.

My dad is an only child, as was his dad. So, our branch nearly died there, but there are 3 boys in my generation and now 4 in the next. We're doing our part.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:51:32 PM EDT

[#21]

two daughters, no sons. Hell, it was Ellisized anyway, it stopped being a family name as soon as it got changed. Besides, my dad had an older step brother, one could almost say that is the legitimate line anyway.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:52:10 PM EDT

[#22]

I have 2 little boys. The name would've died with me if I didn't. Always wanted kids before so never really thought about it too much. I figure we're all mutts of some type at this point in history.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:52:18 PM EDT

[#23]

I've got two sons and my brothers have 3 between the two so we should be good for now.....................Hell at 42 I might just go bust another nut and get me another son..............

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:52:18 PM EDT

[#24]

The House Taboot should be secure. I've sired 4 male heirs, who so far, seem to be red-blooded young American men with a healthy appreciation for women.

My mother's family has dead-ended, due to the death of my cousin (RIP, my best friend) and the homosexuality and female nature of his cousins. They were direct descendants of Samuel Carpenter, first Treasurer to William Penn, founder of Pennsylvania. Mary Chapin Carpenter is my mother's cousin, once or twice removed.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:53:31 PM EDT

[#25]

My wife and I waited too long and now we can't have kids. My last name ends with me. My sister had four kids but they don't have our last name obviously. My dad's brothers all had daughters, except for one, but he's gay. So our name comes to an end. I'm descended from one of the Rough Riders. I had one biological job to do and I failed at it. So that's it.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:53:40 PM EDT

[#26]

I feel awful. My awesome family name ends with me.
I had 3 girls. when I was a kid my dad always told me "you have to have a son." This really does bother me and I try not to think about it. I know I cant control any of it.
Last name: Savage.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:53:58 PM EDT

[#27]

My family name ends with me.
No kids and I don't want any.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:57:59 PM EDT

[#28]

If I don't have a son, as far as I am aware of; My legal last name dies with me.

I have a 5yo daughter and she is amazing but I don't want another kid.

No, I don't feel bad.

I much prefer the other side of my family who's last name I don't legally share.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:59:00 PM EDT

[#29]

Thought the same thing from teen to 41 & then something happened

Met a guy from work for a beer. I didn't want to like him, but once we started talking guns it was on. We talked for hours about life & what if we had it to do over......

I wanted to redo all my mistakes. He didn't want to change a thing. All his choices led to having his current wife & son...

His son was just about to start his senior year of HS & my new buddy's enthusiasm for his son was contagious. It gave meaning to his life

At the end of the evening I felt I had made a friend of the caliber I hadn't known since jr high. It started pouring rain so we called it a night

He died in a traffic accident on the way home. I was gobsmacked. I bought a boat.... changed jobs......felt death breathing down my neck

My son was born less than a yr later. I HATED kids ( I thought).......I was not sure how this was going to work........I feel like such a fool every day when I think that I could have had 20
more years with my son. Parents could never explain to me how much fun it is watching every little quirk develop. You'll laugh more than you ever have. You'll love like you never have.
You'll unlock the genetic parent code you didn't think you had. Now I get into a murderous rage over every story on the news where shit bags hurt kids. Its weird, but it was a piece I didn't know I was missing. Don't cheat yourself and figure it out too late.

Posted: 8/23/2017 8:59:57 PM EDT

[#30]

Out of three sisters a brother and myself. Only two sister had kids.

One had a boy and a girl making 4 boys total. The other one had a girl with no kids at 40.
'The rest of us three sibblings have had no kids of our own.
My brother adopted 3 boys.
My sister adopted three boys and one girl. Foster parented over 550 kids since 1985.
Me. Fuck the problems with crappy little brain washed kids. I dont want any.

So ARFCOM can be happy that the buck stops here.
Nothing to follow in my footsteps.
Darwin Wins.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:00:00 PM EDT

[#31]

This branch-- It ended with me.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:00:28 PM EDT

[#32]

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Both my sister and I do not want children. This would be the end of my family name.

Have you ever gone through this? Ever felt bad? I won't lie and say I don't, but I do not ever want to deal with kids...

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I have two girls. End of the family name. There's a big emphasis in Asian cultures to have a boy to carry the family name. I'm not big on some Asian traditions. So, I'm not sweating the issue. I also got a vasectomy without a second thought about the whole 'whose going to carry the family name' thing.
I love my kids. Did not want a third child.

whether you want them or not is up to you. It is not a bad thing to not want kids. What you need to do is be honest with whoever you decide to be your soulmate and tell her you never want kids. If she wants kids, it will be an issue in the marriage. A major issue. If she is a super hot ten and your chemistry jives with her and then you find out she wants kids, then eject and let an arfcom wingman takeover.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:00:47 PM EDT

[#33]

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My family name ends with me.
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Same here. I am fine with this. Very little is known about my name past my grandfather. he has a bad upbringing and did not share much of his family history. We only know a little. I do not feel bad letting it end.

If I decide I want a child. I am sure there is a child out there looking for a good father figure and I would be happy to be that person. I am currently already doing that with a boy in the neighborhood, who's real dad is a great guy, but is sadly on deployment again. The Boys dad is thankful for the time I invest in his son, and I am happy to help guide the young man. I can't open the garage without him running over to come as if he can help with what ever I was doing. I am okay with this. As for myself. I don't feel the urge to have my own. There's plenty already out there that I can make an impact on.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:01:38 PM EDT

[#34]

This isn't the Middle Ages, what significance does a name really have any more?

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:02:03 PM EDT

[#35]

If my brother or myself don't produce kids, it's the end for our name.

In a strange way, that was a large motivator for me when I was on the fence.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:02:04 PM EDT

[#36]

my family was terrible, going back to the year 1000, mass genocidal murders "notably the serbs", crusaders, human traffickers "stole first born daughters to sell to ottoman businessmen, for 300 years.", and more recently Nazis, and thats just the Austrian side of my family, the British is equally bad, the dutch side is more mild but still bad.

but it will still go on, in this present time half of my family are functional drunks, and im the only one that is is not a democrat or shocialist out of the 27 adults in the family.

.. fuck

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:02:09 PM EDT

[#37]

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Thought the same thing from teen to 41 & then something happened

Met a guy from work for a beer. I didn't want to like him, but once we started talking guns it was on. We talked for hours about life & what if we had it to do over......

I wanted to redo all my mistakes. He didn't want to change a thing. All his choices led to having his current wife & son...

His son was just about to start his senior year of HS & my new buddy's enthusiasm for his son was contagious. It gave meaning to his life

At the end of the evening I felt I had made a friend of the caliber I hadn't known since jr high. It started pouring rain so we called it a night

He died in a traffic accident on the way home. I was gobsmacked. I bought a boat.... changed jobs......felt death breathing down my neck

My son was born less than a yr later. I HATED kids ( I thought).......I was not sure how this was going to work........I feel like such a fool every day when I think that I could have had 20
more years with my son. Parents could never explain to me how much fun it is watching every little quirk develop. You'll laugh more than you ever have. You'll love like you never have.
You'll unlock the genetic parent code you didn't think you had. Now I get into a murderous rage over every story on the news where shit bags hurt kids. Its weird, but it was a piece I didn't know I was missing. Don't cheat yourself and figure it out too late.

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Well said.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:06:03 PM EDT

[#38]

I'm the last of my kind.

Or pretty damn close. Last name is not common at all.

Think my dad and myself are only males in the state.

Married, but I don't want kids, and couldn't have them if we did.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:07:01 PM EDT

[#39]

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Both my sister and I do not want children. This would be the end of my family name.

Have you ever gone through this? Ever felt bad? I won't lie and say I don't, but I do not ever want to deal with kids...

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LOL!!!!!!!! I'm killing off two families. Who gives a shit , when you are dead then what difference does it make.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:07:14 PM EDT

[#40]

I was sent to die.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:10:18 PM EDT

[#41]

How old are you OP?
I was 32 before I realized how bad I wanted them.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:12:37 PM EDT

[#42]

Two sons and two grandsons, so we're going on.

The one thing I am a little bummed about is neither joined the Army. Every generation has been in from the War of Independence through me. I'll admit it's a little disappointing. But their decisions. Getting dragged around the world as kids probably had some effect. The oldest tested high enough to pick anything he wanted. He wanted to be a Cav Scout, but changed his mind.

242 year run done. But they're whole and happy. That's all that really matters.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:12:47 PM EDT

[#43]

Yeah it looks like my family name might die off as well. It's just me and my bro. So far neither of us are married, or even in a serious relationship, and no kids yet. Parents want us to have kids. But we are both broke, haha. Unless one of us figures out how to become rich and fast, it doesn't look good.

Posted: 8/23/2017 9:14:20 PM EDT

[#44]

The only family heritage I have to pass on its a predisposition for mental illness and substance abuse.

At this point, the only reason I would procreate is to add to the number of white conservatives.