Posted: 11/3/2010 4:41:21 PM EDT
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Ok so things have been a little weird at home for a bit. Things not seeming quite right and not being able to put my finger on it. So today I get to looking at the wireless log from home and I find some websites that dont make any sense. I do a little research and I find that the wife unit has been texting one number a whole lot in the past weeks. Then I find out that one of the websites that was visited was to order a 135 dollar vibrator that I had no idea was in the house. So I do some more research and confront the wife. He explanation does not match my findings and what was discussed didnt make any sense to me at all. After all of that I try to get some understanding of what was going on and I am just as in the dark as I was. And she wasnt going to tell me who she was texting at first. So after a lengthy discussion and a subsequent argument I think its time to eject. What does Arfcom think? Poll inbound...
UPDATE: I too a look at the cell records and she was texting him again right after work. Never got a word from her. Not a fuck you or anything. I texted her and confronted her about it and I got the I have a friend bit and you are all wrong about it. Basically more bullshit. And she had the nerve to accuse me of wanting out which is the furthest from my plans. This morning was completely fucked.  
UPDATE 2: Ok so here are the cliffs notes: I am an asshole (my own admission) she is a Gigantic ASSHOLE. (Her admission) I wont go into the details here (IM me if you need to know) But the quick and dirty is that She was telling me the truth but did fail to tell me she had made a new dorky friend.(Not even a remote threat.) And her purchase(and the bane of her existence at the moment) was fueld by my lack of availability when I was getting my EMT certification and going to school. She openly admits that she fucked up royally by making the purchase without discussing it with me. And also readily admits that the whole thing was a fucked up decision. In the process I texted said friend and told him that he had ruined my marriage and that he needed to stay away from her unless it was professional. I also mentioned that I thought his wife should know what he was doing. I think is scared the shit out of him.(He is after all a skinny dork) Also Said vibrator is quite durable since it still functions after going through a wall. Now the charging unit was not so lucky.(if that is any testimony to the product.) She is quite shaken by the weeks events and openly admits that she had no idea that it would fuck with my head at all. So things are stable at the moment and I have no idea what will happen next. I will however make updates when warranted. Thank you for all your support since I was thoroughly fucked up over this. I am at this moment preparing some other means of monitoring what is going on and I will be asking a lot of questions for quite a while. During that time I will make sure that if the ejection handle needs tp be pulled everything will be ready and when its time to fo I will be completely ready. |
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$135? What the hell does that thing do? Funny thing is that it is a short squat thing, it is rechargeable and apparently wont allow bacteria to grow. It has its own recharge base and everything.  That sounds just like the walkie talkies we have. You should at least get to watch her use it before you do anything. I'd have to know. |
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You might be overreacting sex toys are spendy .Why dont you get involved maybe help her use it. suck on her toes while she uses he new toy or something productive it might help her have a great orgasm . It just a toy don't feel threatened by it That would have been an option prior to finding that I was left out of the decision and was never told that it was there. |
| Definitely need more details before ejecting. Is the guy more than a friend, or just a good friend that happens to be a guy? I wouldn't want my wife texting some dude she works with incessantly, but certainly don't care if its on occasion assuming the texts are just dumb stuff. |
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You might be overreacting sex toys are spendy .Why dont you get involved maybe help her use it. suck on her toes while she uses he new toy or something productive it might help her have a great orgasm . It just a toy don't feel threatened by it That would have been an option prior to finding that I was left out of the decision and was never told that it was there. maybe she was embarresed. If you no longer want to be married then eject. if you eject because of a dildo that would be a little odd if you ask me. |
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Definitely need more details before ejecting. Is the guy more than a friend, or just a good friend that happens to be a guy? I wouldn't want my wife texting some dude she works with incessantly, but certainly don't care if its on occasion assuming the texts are just dumb stuff. Dont know. I didnt even know it was going on until today and it has been going on for a period of weeks. But if I was texting some girl and never told her it was happening she would have turned into a banshee on me and I would have been crucified |
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who was she texting? reginald 
http://www.ar15.com/forums/topic.html?b=1&f=5&t=1094251&light=celly |
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You married her for a reason. She married you. Obviously you can't save a marriage on your own, but talk it over with her and if she wants to work with you... do it. How long have you been married, are there kids involved? Property?
Usually they look elsewhere not because they think you're cheating, but they think they're taken for granted. Is she? |
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You married her for a reason. She married you. Obviously you can't save a marriage on your own, but talk it over with her and if she wants to work with you... do it. How long have you been married, are there kids involved? Property? Usually they look elsewhere not because they think you're cheating, but they think they're taken for granted. Is she? you a correctional officer? |
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You might be overreacting sex toys are spendy .Why dont you get involved maybe help her use it. suck on her toes while she uses he new toy or something productive it might help her have a great orgasm . It just a toy don't feel threatened by it That would have been an option prior to finding that I was left out of the decision and was never told that it was there. maybe she was embarresed. If you no longer want to be married then eject. if you eject because of a dildo that would be a little odd if you ask me. Oh no, make no mistake this isnt just about the dildo. its because of the texting that was kept from me and seemed to go on for a couple three hours after she got home. Yet I can never get her to answer her fucking phone much less text me for any reason. |
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You might be overreacting sex toys are spendy .Why dont you get involved maybe help her use it. suck on her toes while she uses her new toy or something productive, it might help her have a great orgasm . It just a toy don't feel threatened by it Sure, and while he's licking her toes she can be texting her boyfriend while she's shoving that monster dildo up her twat. 
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You married her for a reason. She married you. Obviously you can't save a marriage on your own, but talk it over with her and if she wants to work with you... do it. How long have you been married, are there kids involved? Property? Usually they look elsewhere not because they think you're cheating, but they think they're taken for granted. Is she? Already tried that today but she is still acting subversive |
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You married her for a reason. She married you. Obviously you can't save a marriage on your own, but talk it over with her and if she wants to work with you... do it. How long have you been married, are there kids involved? Property? Usually they look elsewhere not because they think you're cheating, but they think they're taken for granted. Is she? Almost ten years and just kids from previous marriage. We have a house. I wasnt doing anything out of line. And no I did all sorts of things to show my appreciation to her. Things that were just for her. |
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You married her for a reason. She married you. Obviously you can't save a marriage on your own, but talk it over with her and if she wants to work with you... do it. How long have you been married, are there kids involved? Property? Usually they look elsewhere not because they think you're cheating, but they think they're taken for granted. Is she? you a correctional officer? Nope I am an EMT and I was in the academy a few years back |
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You might be overreacting sex toys are spendy .Why dont you get involved maybe help her use it. suck on her toes while she uses her new toy or something productive, it might help her have a great orgasm . It just a toy don't feel threatened by it Sure, and while he's licking her toes she can be texting her boyfriend while she's shoving that monster dildo up her twat.
Yeah I dont think so. This situation is pretty FUBAR |
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Get your gear in line and talk to a lawyer. But before you pull the trigger, I would wait until you were much more sure. Unless there are other reasons that you're not saying here. Nope. That is all the information there is to have. But if you have questions feel free to ask |
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Her plan was to surprise ambush you with it. Check your oatmeal for roofies and look into the wireless logs further, there may already have been pics involved. Already one step ahead of you. No pics on any of the email accounts that I can find and none on her phone either. |
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You married her for a reason. She married you. Obviously you can't save a marriage on your own, but talk it over with her and if she wants to work with you... do it. How long have you been married, are there kids involved? Property? Usually they look elsewhere not because they think you're cheating, but they think they're taken for granted. Is she? Not always true-IMHO But this is what I would have asked. How long have you been together, etc... Could be nothing and yes, what I said about "Not always true-IMHO" is some times true Well there is that old saying that if you are pointing fingers - you've got three pointing back at your self. Not saying anything about you man. Just writing words to make a point. There are a lot of unknowns - that we don't need to know. But you do. So ask your self some serious questions. And remember why you married her, maybe remind her, and see if that will lead to some talking.... Best wishes for you |
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Never give up: > Your sources > What you know > How you know > Whether you know Collect info until you are ready to completely pull the plug. Now she will change her methods and your source will dry up. That wont matter. If shit doesnt get explained and straight here by the end of the weekend then we are done. I left earlier because I was going batshit crazy and she hasnt even thought about texting or calling. So I think that speaks for itself. |
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Quoted: Ok so things have been a little weird at home for a bit. Things not seeming quite right and not being able to put my finger on it. So today I get to looking at the wireless log from home and I find some websites that dont make any sense. I do a little research and I find that the wife unit has been texting one number a whole lot in the past weeks. Then I find out that one of the websites that was visited was to order a 135 dollar vibrator that I had no idea was in the house. So I do some more research and confront the wife. He explanation does not match my findings and what was discussed didnt make any sense to me at all. After all of that I try to get some understanding of what was going on and I am just as in the dark as I was. And she wasnt going to tell me who she was texting at first. So after a lengthy discussion and a subsequent argument I think its time to eject. What does Arfcom think? Poll inbound... Awww, Homie...you too???? ( Note: you won't be running into me in Queen Creek anymore because my ejection seat landed me in Mesa ) I say........time to pull the handle. |
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Ok so things have been a little weird at home for a bit. Things not seeming quite right and not being able to put my finger on it. So today I get to looking at the wireless log from home and I find some websites that dont make any sense. I do a little research and I find that the wife unit has been texting one number a whole lot in the past weeks. Then I find out that one of the websites that was visited was to order a 135 dollar vibrator that I had no idea was in the house. So I do some more research and confront the wife. He explanation does not match my findings and what was discussed didnt make any sense to me at all. After all of that I try to get some understanding of what was going on and I am just as in the dark as I was. And she wasnt going to tell me who she was texting at first. So after a lengthy discussion and a subsequent argument I think its time to eject. What does Arfcom think? Poll inbound... Awww, Homie...you too???? ( Note: you won't be running into me in Queen Creek anymore because my ejection seat landed me in Mesa ) I say........time to pull the handle. Hey moon! Yeah me too. Its a steaming hot shit sandwich here. I am staying in mesa too. I fucking hate being lied to man |