[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Question about cheating (Page 1 of 5)
Posted: 2/3/2014 8:09:48 AM EDT
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Is it considered cheating if you look at porn when you have a girlfriend or wife?
Reason I ask is because my girlfriend was snooping through my iPad and saw porn under my recent google searches. She has been incredibly distraught, and no longer trusts me. Says I cheated emotionally, and she no longer feels sexy, or that she's enough for me. Sorry no pics, she deleted everything of hers off my phone before she left. |
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Is it considered cheating if you look at porn when you have a girlfriend or wife? Reason I ask is because my girlfriend was snooping through my iPad and saw porn under my recent google searches. She has been incredibly distraught, and no longer trusts me. Says I cheated emotionally, and she no longer feels sexy, or that she's enough for me. Sorry no pics, she deleted everything of hers off my phone before she left. Tell her she needs to blow you more often. |
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You have lusted after another woman in your mind.
Some women feel that is the same a the physical act. You have a choice: a) consider yourself lucky to have discovered this while she was just a GF and move on. b) swear off porn of any kind for the rest of your life; grovel in an attempt to get her back; live the rest of your lives together on eggshells because she will never completely trust you again. Your choice. |
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For what it's worth. She is very attractive and not one to turn down sex. We just have a semi long distance relationship so I could go days-week without seeing her. I'm a young guy 22. She wasn't exactly snooping, just using my iPad to search for a restaurant and saw it in my recent searches. Says I'm like every other guy, just a pig.
I don't wanna lose her, not over this stupid shit. She wonders if she's the only girl who feels that way about her man watching pron, I told her no everyone is different |
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You have lusted after another woman in your mind. Some women feel that is the same a the physical act. You have a choice: a) consider yourself lucky to have discovered this while she was just a GF and move on. b) swear off porn of any kind for the rest of your life; grovel in an attempt to get her back; live the rest of your lives together on eggshells because she will never completely trust you again. Your choice. Yeah, that's what I feel like. I left the decision up to her what to do but won't tolerate it much longer |
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For what it's worth. She is very attractive and not one to turn down sex. We just have a semi long distance relationship so I could go days-week without seeing her. I'm a young guy 22. She wasn't exactly snooping, just using my iPad to search for a restaurant and saw it in my recent searches. Says I'm like every other guy, just a pig. I don't wanna lose her, not over this stupid shit. She wonders if she's the only girl who feels that way about her man watching pron, I told her no everyone is different Huge red flag right there, but you're only 22, so you will ignore it. 
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Yeah, that's what I feel like. I left the decision up to her what to do but won't tolerate it much longer Quoted:
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You have lusted after another woman in your mind. Some women feel that is the same a the physical act. You have a choice: a) consider yourself lucky to have discovered this while she was just a GF and move on. b) swear off porn of any kind for the rest of your life; grovel in an attempt to get her back; live the rest of your lives together on eggshells because she will never completely trust you again. Your choice. Yeah, that's what I feel like. I left the decision up to her what to do but won't tolerate it much longer C) Start cleaning your browsing history dumbass
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For what it's worth. She is very attractive and not one to turn down sex. We just have a semi long distance relationship so I could go days-week without seeing her. I'm a young guy 22. She wasn't exactly snooping, just using my iPad to search for a restaurant and saw it in my recent searches. Says I'm like every other guy, just a pig. I don't wanna lose her, not over this stupid shit. She wonders if she's the only girl who feels that way about her man watching pron, I told her no everyone is different Tell her it's either porn or two-pump chump. Her choice. |
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Quoted: Is it considered cheating if you look at porn when you have a girlfriend or wife? Reason I ask is because my girlfriend was snooping through my iPad and saw porn under my recent google searches. She has been incredibly distraught, and no longer trusts me. Says I cheated emotionally, and she no longer feels sexy, or that she's enough for me. Sorry no pics, she deleted everything of hers off my phone before she left. A man will generally forgive a woman and not use a mistake to his advantage. "It's ok honey, it's over, in the past, let's move forward." Not a woman, she sees the opportunity to run you through the rinse cycle and she's going to take it as far as she can. |
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Is it considered cheating if you look at porn when you have a girlfriend or wife? Reason I ask is because my girlfriend was snooping through my iPad and saw porn under my recent google searches. She has been incredibly distraught, and no longer trusts me. Says I cheated emotionally, and she no longer feels sexy, or that she's enough for me. Sorry no pics, she deleted everything of hers off my phone before she left. Run. Don't look back. |
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My wife has issues with it the same as your girl friend.
I don't do it because she feels this way about it so out of respect for her I don't look at it. Married happily for 17 years and the sex is great and often!!! If porn is more important to you, then dump her. If she is more important to you then dump porn. You do need to have a discussion with her about it though so you can get her perspective as to why it bothers her. RW3 
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Quoted: For what it's worth. She is very attractive and not one to turn down sex. We just have a semi long distance relationship so I could go days-week without seeing her. I'm a young guy 22. She wasn't exactly snooping, just using my iPad to search for a restaurant and saw it in my recent searches. Says I'm like every other guy, just a pig. I don't wanna lose her, not over this stupid shit. She wonders if she's the only girl who feels that way about her man watching pron, I told her no everyone is different Buy her a magazine rack for Valentine's day.... |
| No, it's not the same as cheating but she clearly finds it hurtful. FWIW, when I was that age, I found it hurtful too. These days, while I pretty much figure that men, including mine, are going to look at porn, I wouldn't much care to have it flaunted under my nose either if that makes any sense. But just seeing it in the browsing history wouldn't elicit much beyond that I'd probably tease him about it, LOL. |
| Depends on her experiences before you. Some people react to guns like they are the devil incarnate. Maybe her parents taught her this and she never learned any different. It's worth taking a shot at helping her to understand cultural norms (assuming you don't actually have a psychological problem or addiction she is reacting to)....but if it's turns into a waste of time, its not worth fighting over. |
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Quoted: I don't wanna lose her, not over this stupid shit. Then you deserve the misery you get. You and her don't have the same views of the world and there is nothing you can do to change her. So you are either plan on constant misery or ejecting. But seeing how you are young and apparently desperate to keep her you will apologize, buy her gifts, suck up, become a wussy, put your balls her in purse and be miserable until she dumps you. Consider that advice from someone who has been there and done that. Of course that also means I know you will ignore the advice "because she is different". Been there and thought that too and the lesson learned is "no she isn't". She's not compatible with your views and selling yourself out isn't going to make it better. Just save each other the emotional pain that will come and go your separate ways.
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Is it considered cheating if you look at porn when you have a girlfriend or wife? Reason I ask is because my girlfriend was snooping through my iPad and saw porn under my recent google searches. She has been incredibly distraught, and no longer trusts me. Says I cheated emotionally, and she no longer feels sexy, or that she's enough for me. Sorry no pics, she deleted everything of hers off my phone before she left. Seriously. 
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C) Start cleaning your browsing history dumbass
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You have lusted after another woman in your mind. Some women feel that is the same a the physical act. You have a choice: a) consider yourself lucky to have discovered this while she was just a GF and move on. b) swear off porn of any kind for the rest of your life; grovel in an attempt to get her back; live the rest of your lives together on eggshells because she will never completely trust you again. Your choice. Yeah, that's what I feel like. I left the decision up to her what to do but won't tolerate it much longer C) Start cleaning your browsing history dumbass
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That's a question to which there isn't an objective answer. Clearly, to your GF, it is. To my wife, it is not. Y'all need to have some honest discussions, or move on and find someone else. Agreed. I could care less if my husband looks at it, but some women will not tolerate it at all. Either you can accept that and attempt to patch things up and not violate her wishes again, or you move on and find someone else that doesn't care. |
