Posted: 8/2/2012 12:50:27 PM EDT
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My wife and I have been married almost six months now and soon we'll be looking to fill the house with a child...or two...or three. The bride is buying books like "What To Expect BEFORE You're Expecting"...the game is clearly on.
It would seem, of course, that she's preparing for Doomsday. "What if" this and "what if" that. One thing she's mentioned...seriously mentioned...is pre-pregnancy genetics testing for stuff like Tay-Sachs, i.e. Perhaps I am just a bit old-fashioned or oblivious, but am I crazy to not see a need for pre-pregnancy genetics testing? We're going to have babies, period. |
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My wife and I have been married almost six months now and soon we'll be looking to fill the house with a child...or two...or three. The bride is buying books like "What To Expect BEFORE You're Expecting"...the game is clearly on. It would seem, of course, that she's preparing for Doomsday. "What if" this and "what if" that. One thing she's mentioned...seriously mentioned...is pre-pregnancy genetics testing for stuff like Tay-Sachs, i.e. Perhaps I am just a bit old-fashioned or oblivious, but am I crazy to not see a need for pre-pregnancy genetics testing? We're going to have babies, period. Finding out that you are higher risk for certain conditions can help you plan financially and emotionally for a special needs child. |
| Believe it or not my wife got talked into it. Don't do it we ended up with a huge bill. Insurance likely won't cover it and unless you have a family history of genetic abnormalities it's a huge waste of money. I guess it really just depends upon your genetic geneology. |
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My wife and I have been married almost six months now and soon we'll be looking to fill the house with a child...or two...or three. The bride is buying books like "What To Expect BEFORE You're Expecting"...the game is clearly on. It would seem, of course, that she's preparing for Doomsday. "What if" this and "what if" that. One thing she's mentioned...seriously mentioned...is pre-pregnancy genetics testing for stuff like Tay-Sachs, i.e. Perhaps I am just a bit old-fashioned or oblivious, but am I crazy to not see a need for pre-pregnancy genetics testing? We're going to have babies, period. Finding out that you are higher risk for certain conditions can help you plan financially and emotionally for a special needs child. I can see that, but can you ever really plan financially and emotionally for a special needs child? |
| A good friend of mine just had their 3rd child. The are closing up shop even though they wanted 5. They found out they are carriers for some genetic problems through some of the mom's complications with this pregnancy . With 3 health kids, trying for more would feel like rolling the dice and they were not comfortable doing that. |
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My stepsister just had a whole bunch of those tests done. She found some online forum with all sorts of hypochondriac type people and they gave her a list to have the doc perform. In the end they just said you have a 1 in 12345etc chance of this and that and the other. Nothing really even worth spending the money on!
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My wife and I have been married almost six months now and soon we'll be looking to fill the house with a child...or two...or three. The bride is buying books like "What To Expect BEFORE You're Expecting"...the game is clearly on. It would seem, of course, that she's preparing for Doomsday. "What if" this and "what if" that. One thing she's mentioned...seriously mentioned...is pre-pregnancy genetics testing for stuff like Tay-Sachs, i.e. Perhaps I am just a bit old-fashioned or oblivious, but am I crazy to not see a need for pre-pregnancy genetics testing? We're going to have babies, period. Finding out that you are higher risk for certain conditions can help you plan financially and emotionally for a special needs child. I can see that, but can you ever really plan financially and emotionally for a special needs child? Yes, yes you can. My wife and I did so because of her age (dramatically increased risk of Down's) before we attempted to conceive. My niece is low functioning Autistic and my sister and her husband were totally unprepared to deal with it. She has often stated if she had any warning at all she could have been in a much better position to handle it than trying to do it on the fly. She felt like she was behind the curve for years, always trying to play catch up. The stress of it was a contributing factor in her divorce. |
| My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). hell of a first post....welcome to the forum. I just got asked the same question in our appointment yesterday. We probably won't do the testing since there is no genetic defects in either of our family histories. I really don't know how "prepared" you can be for a special needs child. |
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Quoted: My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). A member since 2008, and first post? Wow. Good on you. My wife and I elected to do pre-pregnancy genetic testing. I'm not saying that we wouldn't have tried without it, but it was good to find out the things we were carriers of, and the chances and treatment plans. I'm glad we did. We got to work through the emotional side of things in advance instead of responding to them later. I dont see it as a big deal either way. Things like autism, downs, and other birth defects are still in God's hands. We'll take whatever he decides to bless us with. |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). That's how I see it. |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). My wife had chorionic villi testing for both our kids due to maternal age. We didn't want to raise a special needs kid. Of course, if we would have had a special needs kid, we'd be just as attached as we are now to our seemingly normal one's. Amniocentesis isn't close to as accurate as the villi testing. I've seem many neonates with downs and such who were amnio negative for any problems. YMMV |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). That's how I see it. I don't know, my wife and I knew the risks and we gave it a shot anyway (twice, she's pregnant again). We wanted the knowledge to prep, not because it was going to change our minds about children. Because of my wife's age and a few other factors she's in the "1 in 50" category for Down's as well as an elevated risk for a few other genetic defects, which is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than the "1 in 600" group, which is the average. We opted to roll our dice, trust in God and get prepared ahead of time. This pregnancy had a couple of Down's indicators and the Genetic Counselor kept bringing up "managing the pregnancy" (read: Abort) and we had to keep reminding her we were concerned with knowing what to expect, not with giving up the child. She actually started to really annoy me with her cavalier attitude toward abortion or managing the pregnancy. Thankfully we only had to deal with her briefly, our regular doctor has a world view much more in line with ours. |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). That's how I see it. I don't know, my wife and I knew the risks and we gave it a shot anyway (twice, she's pregnant again). We wanted the knowledge to prep, not because it was going to change our minds about children. Because of my wife's age and a few other factors she's in the "1 in 50" category for Down's as well as an elevated risk for a few other genetic defects, which is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than the "1 in 600" group, which is the average. We opted to roll our dice, trust in God and get prepared ahead of time. This pregnancy had a couple of Down's indicators and the Genetic Counselor kept bringing up "managing the pregnancy" (read: Abort) and we had to keep reminding her we were concerned with knowing what to expect, not with giving up the child. She actually started to really annoy me with her cavalier attitude toward abortion or managing the pregnancy. Thankfully we only had to deal with her briefly, our regular doctor has a world view much more in line with ours. Sad that it's an indicator with how many pregnancies she's probably seen aborted because of that and is jaded to it. |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). That's how I see it. I don't know, my wife and I knew the risks and we gave it a shot anyway (twice, she's pregnant again). We wanted the knowledge to prep, not because it was going to change our minds about children. Because of my wife's age and a few other factors she's in the "1 in 50" category for Down's as well as an elevated risk for a few other genetic defects, which is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than the "1 in 600" group, which is the average. We opted to roll our dice, trust in God and get prepared ahead of time. This pregnancy had a couple of Down's indicators and the Genetic Counselor kept bringing up "managing the pregnancy" (read: Abort) and we had to keep reminding her we were concerned with knowing what to expect, not with giving up the child. She actually started to really annoy me with her cavalier attitude toward abortion or managing the pregnancy. Thankfully we only had to deal with her briefly, our regular doctor has a world view much more in line with ours. Let me rephrase...that's how I see it, for we're going to a) give it a shot and b) have the baby regardless. |
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My wife and I have been married almost six months now and soon we'll be looking to fill the house with a child...or two...or three. The bride is buying books like "What To Expect BEFORE You're Expecting"...the game is clearly on. It would seem, of course, that she's preparing for Doomsday. "What if" this and "what if" that. One thing she's mentioned...seriously mentioned...is pre-pregnancy genetics testing for stuff like Tay-Sachs, i.e. Perhaps I am just a bit old-fashioned or oblivious, but am I crazy to not see a need for pre-pregnancy genetics testing? We're going to have babies, period. Finding out that you are higher risk for certain conditions can help you plan financially and emotionally for a special needs child. First post. I believe that forewarned is forearmed. Regardless the abortion debate, if you know of an issue in advance you can plan on it. |
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My wife and I opted not to do the pre-pregnancy genetic testing and now have a 3 year old son who is special needs due to a genetic disorder that would have been detected. I'm glad we didn't do the testing because I fear now we might have decided not to have children and I wouldn't give up my son for anything. Not only that, but his younger brother (who did not inherit the disorder) might not be here either (we didn't find out about the disorder until after they were both born). That's how I see it. I don't know, my wife and I knew the risks and we gave it a shot anyway (twice, she's pregnant again). We wanted the knowledge to prep, not because it was going to change our minds about children. Because of my wife's age and a few other factors she's in the "1 in 50" category for Down's as well as an elevated risk for a few other genetic defects, which is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than the "1 in 600" group, which is the average. We opted to roll our dice, trust in God and get prepared ahead of time. This pregnancy had a couple of Down's indicators and the Genetic Counselor kept bringing up "managing the pregnancy" (read: Abort) and we had to keep reminding her we were concerned with knowing what to expect, not with giving up the child. She actually started to really annoy me with her cavalier attitude toward abortion or managing the pregnancy. Thankfully we only had to deal with her briefly, our regular doctor has a world view much more in line with ours. Let me rephrase...that's how I see it, for we're going to a) give it a shot and b) have the baby regardless. If you were going on vacation, wouldn't you want to know what the price of tickets to get there were going to be? Forewarned is forearmed. ETA: Damnit, beat by Navydoc |
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Quoted: Thanks for the input. Unless you are both Jewish, there is little reason to test for tay-sachs. If you are both positive, you are a cruel asshole to have a kid with it. There is very good reason many Jews get tested before even getting married to see if both people are carriers. It's a painful death sentence. |
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Thanks for the input. Unless you are both Jewish, there is little reason to test for tay-sachs. If you are both positive, you are a cruel asshole to have a kid with it. There is very good reason many Jews get tested before even getting married to see if both people are carriers. It's a painful death sentence. Apparently Jews are not the only folks who should be tested. |