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Posted: 3/28/2017 12:25:41 AM EDT
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It gets easier brother. Trust me. My divorced was finalized when I was 33. I moved back in with my parents last June unfortunately. On the plus side I am going back to school to do what I want to do for a career but unfortunately I have to sacrifice for a little bit.
If I were you I wouldn't date until your divorce is final and you actually feel like you're ready. Concentrate on yourself and improving your life. No one else is going to make you happy but you. Hopefully you and your ex can still be civil. My ex and I are actually great friends, I know that's not always the case but it helps when it comes to our son. Do you have kids with her? |
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15 years with the ex. Recently divorced. Im banging more chicks then i ever did before i was married, and the majority of them are 14 years younger then me. Go out, have fun.  Fly to MI
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It gets easier brother. Trust me. My divorced was finalized when I was 33. I moved back in with my parents last June unfortunately. On the plus side I am going back to school to do what I want to do for a career but unfortunately I have to sacrifice for a little bit. If I were you I wouldn't date until your divorce is final and you actually feel like you're ready. Concentrate on yourself and improving your life. No one else is going to make you happy but you. Hopefully you and your ex can still be civil. My ex and I are actually great friends, I know that's not always the case but it helps when it comes to our son. Do you have kids with her? |
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I got asked to leave for the night got to my mothers where I am staying and received a protective order. Lost my carry permit the rest I don't know I have been drinking though. Quoted:
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Sorry to hear bro...tell us what happened. |
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Playing dirty. It's going to be fucking ugly. Quoted:
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Someone's lawyer is playing dirty, or you fucked up? |
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I got asked to leave for the night got to my mothers where I am staying and received a protective order. Lost my carry permit the rest I don't know I have been drinking though. Quoted:
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Sorry to hear bro...tell us what happened. Things didn't get better until I gave up on the BS and turned my life over to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Life is not always a picnic now but I know I have a higher power helping me through the rough times. |
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The booze will fix nothing, only serves to make it worse. I went down that road many years ago. Ended up with no home, no job, no money. Just more sorrow and depression. Things didn't get better until I gave up on the BS and turned my life over to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Life is not always a picnic now but I know I have a higher power helping me through the rough times. Quoted:
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Sorry to hear bro...tell us what happened. Things didn't get better until I gave up on the BS and turned my life over to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Life is not always a picnic now but I know I have a higher power helping me through the rough times. |
| Lakeville here if ya need a buddy. Been through it once, wife 2 is trying her best to make it 0-2. No kids with either so my angle on things is a little different. Those who say stay away from other women are wrong. A new relationship might not be good, but I must have knocked out dozens in the first few weeks of my split with wife 1. I regret none of them. |
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Lakeville here if ya need a buddy. Been through it once, wife 2 is trying her best to make it 0-2. No kids with either so my angle on things is a little different. Those who say stay away from other women are wrong. A new relationship might not be good, but I must have knocked out dozens in the first few weeks of my split with wife 1. I regret none of them. |
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Got divorced a couple years ago. Ex wife was an attorney. No kids, but she wanted to make me spend as much money as possible for absolutely nothing.Â
Just got married last month. Met my wife a couple months after I had moved out of the house and thought my divorce was about to be final. My ex drug it out for 6 months for no reason. God brought me and my wife together and I have no doubt about this woman. When the divorce process starts, it's horrible. BUT it will be so much better afterwards. Also, try not to drink too much. She could make all kinds of accusations, and if police show up and you're drunk, it won't be good. That's what kept me out of the bottle during mine. Wanted to keep my guns. |
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I wouldn't even know how to meet new women. |
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Will do. I'll actually be in WI for the next three days. Quoted:
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Sorry bud. Shower up and get ready for tomorrow.
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Been in your shoes, OP. Life will get better.
Step 1 - No more booze until this whole mess is over. None. Don't give her or her lawyer any ammo to shoot you with. Don't open the door to potential future fuckups/problems on your end. If you think this step is too harsh, then you need to take a long, hard look in the mirror and get your priorities straight. Step 2 - Lawyer up. Like tomorrow. Prepare your anus. Divorces are expensive because they're worth it. Step 3 - From now on, every time she calls, she's going to want something. Every time you say "Yes", you lose. It's now OK to say "No". Step 4 - Be cool. You don't get the luxury of getting to be mad or emotional any more. That's what she and her lawyer want you to do. Stay in control. Tell yourself ahead of time, "I'm going to remain in control" and then follow through. And yes, my friend, you're gonna be tested on a Pass/Fail basis. Step 5 - Remember this - She wanted this. She is not your problem any more. In other words, just because she has a problem doesn't mean you have a problem. It's no longer your job to bail her out of every little jam. She's going to have to fix her own shit, just like you are. You've just been knocked down. Now you gotta get back up and try again. Set aside any feelings of guilt or self-recrimination and move forward. Learn from this, grow stronger from this, and move forward. There are groups out there (like DivorceCare) that can help you sort through/process your feelings as you go through the stages. They'll also give you good tools and advice on how to cope. Best advice, give yourself time to heal. Don't get romantically involved with anyone for at least a year, maybe two. Most people who get a divorce make the mistake of getting married again too quickly because they're not used to being on their own. They haven't healed from their previous relationship before they jump into another one. They usually end up, you guessed it, divorced a second or even third time. |
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I'm more than willing to hang out and do whatever. BTW I'm not gay so don't get any Ideas. LOL Quoted:
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Owatonna right now. 
What's a little sucky-sucky for a guy trying to drown his sorrows in liquid hops? TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM!!! - and record video, of course.  
OP, hang in there bro. Try to drink less, and get some exercise in to burn off some of that excess cortisol, which can fuck you up quicker than a politician can cash a campaign donation. |
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For God's sake sack up and stop self medicating with booze. It doesn't solve your problem and can introduce a lot more problems. I'm not saying to swear off alcohol but drowning your sorrows in it never helped anybody.
Get a good attorney and stop posting on here about it. Your attorney will be able to advise you better than most on here can. |
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No real advice to give as I have not been through a divorce, but as an adult there have been periods where for one reason or another i had to go back and stay at my parents for a period of time. First time was post college when I was looking for a job, second time was 10-12 years later when I became my mothers caretaker for over a year. Each time was rather unpleasant.
FWIW though my advice is to not drown your sorrows in booze. Been there, done that. Channel whatever rage or depression you have into something positive such as exercising hard, it will do amazing things for your mental state. |
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