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Posted: 9/19/2004 11:54:38 AM EDT
I have a feeling that the love of my life is leaving me for a cage fighter.  He knows we are together and he is presuing her.  I absolutely need to get even.  I'm by no means small or ill equipt to fight him, I just want to be sure I win, I'm also looking for something a little more cerebral, any ideas?  As far as she goes, I already have a nice plan for her.

Yes, he's tremendously out gunned I don't want to shoot him though.

Chris
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:13:20 PM EDT
[#1]
living well is the best revenge,  people like that never end up happy
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:15:01 PM EDT
[#2]
Revenge requires you to dig two graves; one is for your victim and the other is for you.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:18:38 PM EDT
[#3]
Wasting your time.

You can't MAKE someone love you (or stay with you).  To try and do so is futile.

Move on.  If she doesn't want to be with you trying to play games isn't going to make it work out any differently, it just delays the inevitable.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:19:20 PM EDT
[#4]
If she succumbs to the pressure, then she is obviously not the love of your life and isn't worth the effort.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:21:01 PM EDT
[#5]
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:21:27 PM EDT
[#6]
you guys are missing the point, I already realize it's over, believe me Jack and I have become very good friends.  But this guy can't just get away with this.  
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:21:39 PM EDT
[#7]
Wow, can't believe I'm the first to post this:

Stuff it in her pooper and post pics!

As for him, plant child porn and drugs in his house and call the Po-Po.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:27:55 PM EDT
[#8]

Quoted:
Revenge requires you to dig two graves; one is for your victim and the other is for you.



+1

Just let it go and move on with your life.

echo6
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:36:27 PM EDT
[#9]
The girl I loved most dumped me for another guy.  He beat her, gave her chylmidia, and stole all her money.  Life works strange like that.  What you think are huge setbacks turn out to be no big deal, disasters end up to be blessings.  Take it in stride, dont hurt anyone.

Wisdom.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:42:13 PM EDT
[#10]
Revenge is mine says the Lord.

I would not try and mess around with something that does not belong to me.

Butterfly Effect, comes to mind.

You may open a can of worms you do not have the ability to close.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:48:44 PM EDT
[#11]
I can't believe you guys.  Did you not read this.  I've met the fucker, he knows we've been together for 2 years and he still persued her.  She's obviously a whore.  Thats another thread.  But I can't believe you guys think I should let him get away with it.  What would you guys do If I did this to your wife/gf?

Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:50:44 PM EDT
[#12]
Dude, if she went to him that easily, he did you a favor.  Let it go.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:50:49 PM EDT
[#13]
[Pulp Fiction]
There's a passage I got memorized. Ezekiel 25:17. "The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness. For he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know I am the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon you." I been sayin' that shit for years. And if you ever heard it, it meant your ass. I never really questioned what it meant. I thought it was just a cold-blooded thing to say to a motherfucker before you popped a cap in his ass. But I saw some shit this mornin' made me think twice. Now I'm thinkin': it could mean you're the evil man. And I'm the righteous man. And Mr. 9mm here, he's the shepherd protecting my righteous ass in the valley of darkness. Or it could be you're the righteous man and I'm the shepherd and it's the world that's evil and selfish. I'd like that. But that shit ain't the truth. The truth is you're the weak. And I'm the tyranny of evil men. But I'm tryin', Ringo. I'm tryin' real hard to be a shepherd.
[/Pulp Fiction]


The ARFCOM morality warriors are definately correct, you should just walk away and not give her/him the satisfaction of your discontent.  However, ff you simply cannot walk away then be very creative.  Don't let the grudge run your life though.  Deal with it using brutal efficiency then move on.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:52:15 PM EDT
[#14]

Quoted:
I have a feeling that the love of my life is leaving me for a cage fighter.  He knows we are together and he is presuing her.  I absolutely need to get even.  I'm by no means small or ill equipt to fight him, I just want to be sure I win, I'm also looking for something a little more cerebral, any ideas?  As far as she goes, I already have a nice plan for her.

Yes, he's tremendously out gunned I don't want to shoot him though.

Chris



Fighting him will only show your low IQ. Grow up and move on with your life. If you want something more cerebral take the advice already given here.

AKASL
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:52:22 PM EDT
[#15]

Quoted:
I can't believe you guys.  Did you not read this.  I've met the fucker, he knows we've been together for 2 years and he still persued her.  She's obviously a whore.  Thats another thread.  But I can't believe you guys think I should let him get away with it.  What would you guys do If I did this to your wife/gf?




I would walk away with a smile knowing that he was going to get what he deserved.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:54:21 PM EDT
[#16]
"Revenge is a dish best served cold."  Old Klingon Proverb
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:54:25 PM EDT
[#17]
Get him a subscription to a Gay Porn magazine along with a bunch of other stuff that'll bring up a  question as to his sexuality. Soon as your ex checks his mail and finds this stuff he's toast. Of course I wouldn't take her back, if she left ya' once who's to say she wouldn't do it again.  
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 12:59:48 PM EDT
[#18]


It's natural selection at work. The female of the species will breed with the closest thing to the alpha male they can find.

If you want the pie, thump is ass. All is fair in love and war.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:01:27 PM EDT
[#19]

Quoted:
I can't believe you guys.  Did you not read this.  I've met the fucker, he knows we've been together for 2 years and he still persued her.  She's obviously a whore. Thats another thread.  But I can't believe you guys think I should let him get away with it.  What would you guys do If I did this to your wife/gf?


That is your revenge. Tell him, after they are together, that you are sad she is gone but you wish them well. Mention how happy they both seem. Sit back and wait for two years and watch him get put through the same hell you just were.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:02:00 PM EDT
[#20]

Quoted:
I can't believe you guys.  Did you not read this.  I've met the fucker, he knows we've been together for 2 years and he still persued her.  She's obviously a whore.  Thats another thread.  But I can't believe you guys think I should let him get away with it.  What would you guys do If I did this to your wife/gf?




If I was in your position I would probably feel the same, but that's being stuck in your emotions. We're on the outside and thinking without that extra baggage, believe me, ending up in jail, does not fix things, or teach him a lesson, ending up in jail for a felony, or violent crime will only end with you visiting this forum and complaining about how all your guns were taken away, and that you can never own them again.

Really, I just don't see how "Kicking his ass" or lighting his car on fire, or any other plan you can concoct that ends with you in handcuffs make this all better.

I feel bad for you though, really, this kind of stuff sucks and I hope you start feeling better soon.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:02:04 PM EDT
[#21]
Frank,
I think you're on to something.

Hey thanks Waldo for making me feel like a eunch
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:03:15 PM EDT
[#22]

Quoted:
Frank,
I think you're on to something.

Hey thanks Waldo for making me feel like a eunch



That wasn't my intention. Trying to explain why she could be drawn to that type.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:08:30 PM EDT
[#23]
Make a well-lived long and happy life your revenge my friend.

It happens.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:08:49 PM EDT
[#24]
There are several books on the "Revenge" subject that are sold by Paladin Press. Main thing is let others do the dirty work so you don't have to get your hands dirty.  You can also go the "other girl" route too. Pick up some female panties and leave them in his car where your ex can find them, do the same with ear rings and other female stuff, that'll get her to thinking that he's cheating on her.  Just be creative.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:10:25 PM EDT
[#25]
Revenge is your right!  Don't do anything that would get anyone physically hurt, or damage property, but DO SOMETHING!

It will make you feel better everytime you think about it.

Balming
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:10:49 PM EDT
[#26]
Don't waste time and enjoy life with or with the female.

MT
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:15:03 PM EDT
[#27]
An old man once gave me this pearl of wisdom. "Boy, women are just like mailboxes. There's another one right down the road."

Move on, it's her loss.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:15:40 PM EDT
[#28]
Dude if you don't take the level minded advise from the more mature posters here then, all I can say is you deserve whatever happens to you.

not that I am wishing bad on you (far from it) but it seems people bring the worst problems on in their life because they let their emotions do the thinking for them.

I know this because the PRISON that I work in is FULL of people that let their emotions rule their actions and events got away from them and now are doing time anywhere from a few years to life.

and a few of the more grown up mature inmates all tell me "if I had only thought out the consquences" or "If I knew it would have turned out like this I never would have done it"

Yeah , Yeah..well you make your own way in life and you live with the consequences of your actions,your choice good luck .
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:29:57 PM EDT
[#29]
KARMA
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:33:21 PM EDT
[#30]
Deuteronomy 32:35

To me belongeth vengeance and recompence; their foot shall slide in due time: for the day of their calamity is at hand, and the things that shall come upon them make haste.

Romans 12: 17-19

17   Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
18   If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
19   Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.


S
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:33:53 PM EDT
[#31]

Quoted:
KARMA



I believe in karma
I want them to HURT!!!!
a year from now or 10 years from now these two will have fucked with so many peoples lives that when Karma does bit them in the ass, I'll be a distant memory.  I want them to know the reason they hurt now and later is because of what they did to me today.

Chris
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:49:11 PM EDT
[#32]

Quoted:
living well is the best revenge,  people like that never end up happy



+1
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:49:13 PM EDT
[#33]
Well, you could go out and get a nasty STD and pass it on to her, and she'll by default pass it on to him.  Of course, then you'll be hurting as well.

This is the kind of road your thinking is taking you down.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:50:04 PM EDT
[#34]
After watching my wife, who I also thought was the love of my life leave me in 2002, I have a new outlook on life.

She left me for another guy, and for awhile I was very emotionally distressed.  Over time though, I realized that the only person I have control over is myself, and that people have to do what people have to do and they make their own decisions in life regardless of what you want or think you need.

Yes it hurts.  I know firsthand how bad it can hurt if you let things like this control  your life.  Choose not to.  Choose to live for you and if this woman wants to be a part of that, then great.  but if not, then she must make her own path in life.  Let her make her choices and understand that the only person you can control is yourself. The only person that you get to make decisions for is you.

If she is willing to let herself be lured away like that, then that is her choice, and her decision to live with.  You will survive without her. You will prosper without her.  The one thing you will always have regardless of who shares your life is YOU.  That will never change while everything else in your life will change moment to moment, second to second.  Trust in yourself and let her make her own choices in life.  be happy with yourself before you can be happy with sombody else and let others make their own decisions.

Do whats right for you, and leave it at that.

Chris
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:50:51 PM EDT
[#35]

Quoted:

Quoted:
KARMA



I believe in karma
I want them to HURT!!!!
a year from now or 10 years from now these two will have fucked with so many peoples lives that when Karma does bit them in the ass, I'll be a distant memory.  I want them to know the reason they hurt now and later is because of what they did to me today.

Chris




Chris,

I had a woman I was totally in love with dump me. And then a friend of mine (whom I had mentored and taught for 10 years) went after her as I was trying to get her back.  All the while he lied to me about it.  

I got her back.  

She dumped me again. (this time perminently)

He never did get her.

Long after I couldn't care less about her, I still wanted to kill this fucker every day. (for betraying our friendship)  A day did not go by that I didn't think about slipping into his house, and cutting his throat with a sharp knife, while I looked into his surprised eyes.  

I resited the urge.

I still do.

Reist the urge.

She is not worth doing anything that could screw up your life in the least.  

Niether is he.

When you're sitting in jail, (for whatever), you will see how pointless it all was to get revenge.  And will wish to god you had just walked away. And you would give anything to go back and not do it.

And the truth is, he will get his.  If she did this to you, she WILL do it to him. Women of character do not pull this crap.

Go out and find a woman with some character. The first thing men look for in a woman is attractiveness of some kind. (beauty, sexiness etc)  But it should be character.

Good luck to you.



Zen






"This is my rifle, there are many like it, but this one is mine"
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:51:00 PM EDT
[#36]

Quoted:
Wow, can't believe I'm the first to post this:

Stuff it in her pooper and post pics!

As for him, plant child porn and drugs in his house and call the Po-Po.



Ditto.

I also like the idea of getting him a subscription to some gay porn.  If it makes you feel better, then take the revenge route.  Just don't try anything illegal that can be traced back to you.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:51:01 PM EDT
[#37]
You're getting mad at the wrong person.

Don't be mad at him, be mad at her!
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:51:14 PM EDT
[#38]
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:52:07 PM EDT
[#39]
hmmm.   cage fighter?   She'll soon learn the grass ain't greener on the other side when she shows up back at your door with bruises all over her.  If she wants him, let her have him.  Make sure everything you own doesn't have her name on it.   If you want revenge on him, grab some pepper spray and kick him while he's down.  
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:52:32 PM EDT
[#40]

Quoted:
After watching my wife, who I also thought was the love of my life leave me in 2002, I have a new outlook on life.

She left me for another guy, and for awhile I was very emotionally distressed.  Over time though, I realized that the only person I have control over is myself, and that people have to do what people have to do and they make their own decisions in life regardless of what you want or think you need.

Yes it hurts.  I know firsthand how bad it can hurt if you let things like this control  your life.  Choose not to.  Choose to live for you and if this woman wants to be a part of that, then great.  but if not, then she must make her own path in life.  Let her make her choices and understand that the only person you can control is yourself. The only person that you get to make decisions for is you.

If she is willing to let herself be lured away like that, then that is her choice, and her decision to live with.  You will survive without her. You will prosper without her.  The one thing you will always have regardless of who shares your life is YOU.  That will never change while everything else in your life will change moment to moment, second to second.  Trust in yourself and let her make her own choices in life.  be happy with yourself before you can be happy with sombody else and let others make their own decisions.

Do whats right for you, and leave it at that.

Chris



Wise man, you.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:52:36 PM EDT
[#41]
I hope you are kidding. If someone doesn't want to be with you, walk away.There are plenty of other fish in the sea, too many to fret over one other person. Guys like this are the reason we have the kinds of restraining orders some of you were knocking in another thread.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:53:39 PM EDT
[#42]
Always cheat, always win.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:56:02 PM EDT
[#43]
Send him a thank you note.

Move on; neither of them are worth your time.

Sometimes it is best to sit back and watch the other persons life go down the drain due to their own actions.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:56:07 PM EDT
[#44]
So she wants to boink a cage fighter...

Maybe she's into some good ol' fashioned S&M bondage.  Ever bring it up?
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:56:42 PM EDT
[#45]
As far as revenge goes, he did you a favor by showing you her true colors. Buy him a beer for exposing her & move on with your life. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

r/s

Dan
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 1:59:50 PM EDT
[#46]

Quoted:
"Revenge is a dish best served cold."  Old Klingon Proverb



Ahhhh.  Actually that was Shakespeare.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 2:00:22 PM EDT
[#47]

Quoted:

Wise man, you.



Pain and suffering is a unique forge that can either destroy us or help us grow and transcend beyond what we allowed ourselves to be.

If anything I have learned that the old cliche is true.

That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.

I am still the same person I was before, but I have learned and have grown and have a different understanding of human nature now.

Life for me is my children, myself, my freedom.  All else is far down the priorities list or falls by the wayside entirely.

Freedom means never having to say "I'm sorry." to yourself.

Chris
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 2:00:26 PM EDT
[#48]
If you're determined to have your "revenge" despite all of the wise advice offered here, have at it.  But you're going to deserve whatever you get.

If the worst thing that happens to you in your life is you lose a woman where no financial loss is involved, you are a lucky man.  You could have married this bitch and then, not just have the grief of her leaving, but the added pain of divorce and bankruptcy.

Just grow up, man.
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 2:00:29 PM EDT
[#49]
You need to play the game of he who cares least wins.

Keep repeting that to your self.

good luck,

Badredfish
Link Posted: 9/19/2004 2:05:43 PM EDT
[#50]
Don't mistake your hurt over her betrayal as anything other than that.  It isn't a call for retribution.  The fact that her rejection of you hurts is evidence that you cared deeply for her.  Learn to walk away.  It isn't easy.  My wife of nearly 3 decades abandoned me and our youngest son this past Christmas.  Even though she abused us for years, it hurt greatly.  

The greatest lesson I have learned this year is that everyone has free choice.  We don't have to do what other people want us to do, nor do we have to do comply with our desires for revenge.

Man, I know how you hurt.  Rather than looking for ways to get some pay back, do something nice for yourself....like buy another gun.
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