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Posted: 7/29/2005 3:15:30 AM EDT
Link Posted: 7/29/2005 5:25:09 AM EDT
He bro, that’s a tuff one. There is really no good answer but you need to try and spend as much time around him as possible. If you need to talk to the wife to get the scoop and can without causing problems then do so.

He needs to get back into the saddle somewhere fast! Needs to either get back in were he is or get to another department ASAP for a change. I think there are a lot of departments that would value a good officer with experience and real life experience at that. He obviously has what it takes to live at this job now all you need to do is find out what it is going to take to help him live with this job. OIS are a bad deal for everyone and when it happens they need the full support of their department to make it through it.

Sounds like he is in a dangerous spot with the bullshit department he is with. After that even if it only happened to a fellow Officer I would be looking for a new place to work. Keep us posted and I am sure most if not all of us on here will do all we can to help.
Link Posted: 7/29/2005 6:51:53 AM EDT
Might wanna first get him to give up alcohol for a while. That may allow him to see things more clearly and better plan for his future. Things often look far worse from the bottom of a bottle. After that, helping to focus him on the possitive things he's done and more importantly, the positive things still left to be done in his life. Lastly, if he is at all religous, perhaps suggest he meets with his clergy member.

Sadly, if he is on a self destructive spiral, it is very difficult to get him off unless he wants to. I wish you good luck.

Link Posted: 7/29/2005 9:05:09 AM EDT
Steer him towards an EAP (Emplyee Assistance Program) - hell, if they're trying to oust him for PTSD, he should be eligible for a duty-related disability pension.

At least it's some $$ for house / car / food.

+1 for cutting down on the - I fully understand the concept of gettin' blotto for a while, but he'll need a clear head to navigate this course successfully.

Good luck to him, and you. You sound like a good pal.
Link Posted: 7/29/2005 9:03:55 PM EDT
+2 on getting him off the sauce. Nothing good will come of trying to drink his troubles away. And if the word gets around that he tries to crawl into a bottle when things get too stressful, he'll have a tough time finding any kind of responsible job, much less get on with another agency.

That's one of the problems with large agencies: the troops are just numbers to the brass. The brass all tend to think they're flowers, and want to use the troops for fertilizer. Tell him to start looking around at smaller agencies, where his experience will work for him, not against him. In a small town/county, his training & experience will make him a much more desirable applicant than a rookie just out of school.

If you think he needs some help with his problems, contact the FOP or PBA in his area, or the union if his agency is unionized. For sure, they will know someone he can get help and advice from, who will be interested in HIM, not the agency.

Good luck to him....and thanks, Tweak, for trying to look out for him.
Link Posted: 7/30/2005 2:50:02 AM EDT
Link Posted: 7/30/2005 5:55:51 AM EDT
Employee assistance and counseling
Link Posted: 7/30/2005 9:15:44 AM EDT
The union isn't doing anything for him?
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