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Posted: 10/10/2004 6:51:04 PM EDT
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Serious Question.... I've been watching TV again an the show had a scene with a rape victim in it. Many guys can't empathize how women are mentally shattered from having sex forced upon them. There isn't anything that a woman can make me do at knifepoint or gunpoint that I don't think I could shrug off. Every time I hear about it in the news or see it on TV a rapist is usually ranked right up there with a murderer as the worst of all criminals. I believe it but I'm not as revolted as if the guy was a kid killer Some victims take a physical beating (but assault by itself is usually no big deal) Is there a woman here (or maybe an LEO who has seen it up close) that can make me understand it from the female perspective? I'm not trying to minimalize it..just trying to understand.. |
if you dont know already then you need more help than we can give you 
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Is there anything a big ole brother could do to you that would be hard to forget? I deal with rape victims (adult and child) on a near daily basis. You are; 1. a Troll or 2. an idiot. |
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A friend of mine said she was raped once, she decided just to go with it and try to enjoy it, she said it wasn't that bad. I AM JUST RELATING AN ANECDOTE FROM A FEMALE FRIEND OF MINE WHO WAS RAPED, BUT DECIDED NOT TO RESIST. SHE DIDN'T SEEM TO SUFFER PSYCHOLOGICAL DAMAGE BECAUSE OF HER ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE ATTACK. I AM NOT SAYING ITS NO BIG DEAL AT ALL. RAPE IS BAD BAD BAD BAD. |
+1 Getting raped is WORSE than getting murdered asshole ETA: this is THE most ignorant question I've ever heard! VoodooChile, you are a moron. |
Your friend must have been seriously fucked in the head before the rape ever "happend". She's making it all up. I'm calling RAW BULLSHIT on that. (not you, but your friend) Which political figure was it that said something along those lines and got canned for it? |
+1 that had to be the 2nd most insane thing Ive read in this post so far |
Are you married and have children? |
If true and she is not a nut it surely was a date type or similar, eh? Surely she is not talking about a no shit stranger/forceable rare? |
Then you missed my point alltogether. I have a very good understanding of what she went through. It cannot really be explained. And I'm not going to try. |
Probably not nearly as bad! .. trust and security is extremely important to a woman. rape extremely violates both. It creates an emotional turmoil I doubt many people could understand without going through it. I guess the closest thing a man can go through compared to rape is being molested as a child. The only time I guess one could minimize it is when a prostitute gets raped in a non-violent way. |
Again, that's what she told me And yes, she's crazy (bipolar/narcissist) |
So if you were gay, then you wouldn't be traumatized by having a penis shoved inside you against your will? 
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OK someone FINALLY understands what I'm asking!! |
If you REALLY don't understand what a woman goes through when that happens, I guess you don't have much contact with women then. Sorry, but you are scary. |
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OK..I'm going to try this one more time... If a woman I wasn't interested in cornered me in an alley and made me have sex with her would I be as emotionally shattered as if the same thing happened to a woman (probably not..would you?) What makes the two scenarios different? And yes I am a father and husband if if this happened to my wife/kids I would kill the sonofabitch but what I was feeling would be DIFFERENT from what the actual victim feels. And no I'm not a troll |
Rape isn't about sex. It's about Power. |
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If it were a butt ugly crack head, bull dyke who slapped you around and called you a fucking bitch, strapped on a dildo and rammed it up your ass dry. Tied you up and left you with a concussion and AIDs would it still be good sex? 
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That's what you think. I'm sure you could be made to never again look at a beer bottle again without wincing in pain. Call these people and ask them your question, let the professinals explain it to you (800)656-HOPE (4673). |
I understand...what if the act that I was made to do didn't involve an erection (or any enjoyment) on my part...would I still feel the same trauma that a woman feels? |
Captain Compassion would probably tell them to walk it off. |
You cant,,, you never will. I am going to try my best to bring this across... No flaming here. Ever been robbed or burglarized? If you have, you know that feeling of how violated? That multiplied by a Million oughta do it. All you have in life that is truly 100% YOURS is what you came into this world with. Your Body, soul and mind. Anyone who violates it, destroys more than can be imagined. I have dated 2 women that were raped and it is FOREVER etched in their mind. The effects cause more damage than you could imagine. to their mental train of thought and to the ones that love them. My ex fiancee was so traumatically damaged that she could NEVER hold on to a relationship... with years of counseling, she still cannot hold a relationship together. I really feel sorry for her... she is a great person. just lost. I hope heaven above has a "do-over" plan. She deserves it. |