Well, after 6 years of marriage, and 10 years together, my wife no longer wants to try to make things work. We still love each other, but between my past self-esteem problems that had me quitting jobs when I got frustrated (and the inevitability of not finding a good one due to the same), our inability to communicate our wants and needs, and her fear of being hurt by this again, it is finally over.
My going back in the Army was the straw that broke the camel's back. She felt I was putting my needs and my duty to the Nation ahead of our marriage, that her input and feelings were not important to me. She could not be more wrong, but as I finally understand, if love is true, then it would be wrong to try to get her to work things out when she truly believes that way, that there is too much pain and chance of us falling back into old patterns.
My decision to join the Army was meant to fix those issues in myself, and is a damn good start. It was meant to help fix the problems so that we would have a chance at a future together.
There is no animosity involved, only love, hurt and regret. I will walk away with a gaping empty void in my soul, with my books, pictures, guitar, and my M4-gery. She will assume the mortgage (so that I will regain the use of my VA loan), and keep everything in the house, including our cats. I want her to have the house, as it is next door to her grandmother's, and her grandfather helped build it in 1954.
I will go on to Ft Bragg on Monday, and try to accept that God's Will, not mine, be done.
This is so very hard, and it hurt so bad to take off that ring.
Thank you all for being here these past few years, you guys are all great. I'll post thru Sunday, then will be off 'net until I can afford to build a computer.
Don Out.